When you start doing your own self-work, or self-coaching, you may be surprised how your priorities reorganize themselves when you start focusing on your needs instead of your wants. Your needs are healthy and have a right to be met.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt is a scary proposition to approach your partner who may be oblivious to your new desires about wanting to add a bit or a lot of kink to your relationship. Whatever they decide it’s up to you on how you proceed. If they want to give it a try – go ahead! If they are far from interested you still have avenues available to you. It doesn’t automatically mean the end of the relationship.
Read The Series | Find SimilarApplying mentoring to a BDSM context a mentor is someone that guides and advises a newbie on what to expect, things they might want learn and other items. I believe a mentor should be on the same level as you. There are many opinions out there, but common sense advice can be found in the following series of articles about mentors.
Read The Series | Find SimilarWe are all people, submissive or not. Just because you identify as submissive does not give you a membership card into the friendship club for me. Sure I'm going to care for you with the same care I give any person I meet. Just don't expect me to care more because you are submissive. This isn't always a dog eat dog world, but you can't expect people to always treat you the way you treat them.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI've been reminded again today as I lay about sick with a snazzy summer flu of feeling like a failure or useless that I can't serve him and even worse when he brings me my medicine and tucks me in bed for another afternoon nap.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOkay so some of you are thinking, why would you bother with courtesies when the messages you received didn't have any? I'm going to tell you that you need to be the better person. You need to treat them as you wish to be treated even if they don't reciprocate. Let me be clear. I'm hoping you'll learn to be a positive influence in your own life and have as few regrets as possible. Treating someone poorly when a little sugar does the same thing is not a very decent thing to do and not something a prospective or current partner would want.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAs submissives we often forget that helping others also feeds our need to submit.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarWe all can handle different levels of stress in our lives. Take some time today to reflect on how you manage stress.
Read The Article | Find SimilarAmbrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.
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