7 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where a short and sweet spanking takes place, to a more drawn out session of power and control. Either way their purpose is to maintain the dynamic.

Orgasm Control: Learning How to Ask for an Orgasm

In D/s sexuality one of the more common rules is that the Dominant controls the orgasms and sexual release of the submissive. Some require that the submissive not even touch themselves without the say so of the Dominant. In this style of power exchange it is familiar territory that the submissive will learn how to ask for an orgasm whether in or outside of a scene.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

What Makes a Good Dominant?

I think there are a few characteristics that may exist in common, a lot of which are often found in a good 'normal' relationship too!

Submission in Marriage - Shifting from Husband and Wife to Dominant and Submissive

Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple's life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I've seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the marriage.

How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

As long as your relationship (both in play and out of play) follows SSC standards, then you have a healthy relationship, and there is nothing that detracts from the fact that I believe men and women deserve equal rights.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 25 – Book Notes: How to Select and Read With Purpose

There are many ways to take notes and everyone has a preferred method. Let me teach you my note-taking method that I have developed over the years.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 27- Brain Dump: Shaking Off Toxic Emotions

Submissive Journaling isn't all neat and orderly, it can be a huge mess of emotions that you just have to get off your chest right that instant. And that's where a brain dump comes in.