If you believe yourself to be a sexual submissive then I urge you to become comfortable with who you are and not try to force yourself to fit into any other person's idea of what you must be.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. But did you know there is more than one mantra you can choose to apply to your style of play? “Risk Aware Consensual Kink” (RACK) is an alternative and more common preference for the experienced player. The key to them both is Consent.
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Read The Review | Find SimilarThis book has it all. It talks about breaking open your shell, talking dirty, exhibitionism, voyeurism and dressing up to show off. I can't stop singing it's praises - I loved it. I'm certain that you will too.
Read The Review | Find SimilarA lot of what we do can classify itself under role-playing. In fact D/s is a form of role-play. For many people it is just a character they don to play or have some kinky fun; it's not a part of their personality. The idea of role playing is taking on another persona other than yourself to enact that character. It can be short or long term.
Read The Article | Find Similarnot everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a munch or party and be faced with the question “What are you into?” The newbie who likes sensual play or enjoys service may feel that s/he is not quite living up to the expectations of the lifestyle.
Read The Article | Find SimilarI made the following printable chart which you can fill out and send to potential mentoring candidates to ensure clarity on both ends.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHealthy, and a little scary, but ultimately beneficial, the changes from one to the other can be a little surprising, and undoubtedly will raise small conflicts of opinion that will need to be addressed.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIf it pleases you like it pleases me to serve your Partner, consider adding service based play that involves other consenting parties. Adding things like hosting parties, formal tea parties or D/s dinners can make you feel good about offering your service.
Read The Article | Find SimilarHow to effect change when your D/s relationship leaves your unfulfilled, confused and miserable starts with communication. But Kayla has more advice for you if that doesn't work.
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