Lactation Play and the Adult Nursing Relationship

For many couples an Adult Nursing Relationship is not considered kinky nor does it have any connection between lactation and BDSM. For us, lactation was the first step down a new path. Our journey to re-lactation began as the first kinky request my husband made of me.

Domestic Violence Awareness in BDSM Relationships - Assualt is NOT okay

I just started exploring my kinky side and I've only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started talking really crudely to me and cornering me at parties to whisper horrible naughty things in my ear. One night he forced his way into my apartment, violated me and beat me with his belt until I blacked out. I don't know how to handle this because I've admitted I'm kinky, does this mean people will treat me like this?

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

What to Do When Punishment Starts to Feel Good

I should be accepting punishment for misbehavior and yet I'm getting turned on by the spanking or the evil stick that used to spell doom for my punishment and it starts to feel good. Now, what do I do?

Stop Serving Yourself: An Inspirational Un-Collaring Ceremony

When we find ourselves holding back, we need to take a lesson from jenn and uncollar ourselves from whatever is going on and put our focus on what matters the most.

Eight Miles - Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships

Healthy, and a little scary, but ultimately beneficial, the changes from one to the other can be a little surprising, and undoubtedly will raise small conflicts of opinion that will need to be addressed.

Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated - Subtle D/s in Public

It can be difficult to achieve a public dynamic that fits the needs of all parties while remaining within the confines of public social expectations.

Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

I learned a few lessons and truths that every submissive should keep in mind when your Dominant is under great strain. Here's what you can do to help your own Dominant through grief.

Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

There are a lot of people curious about collaring ceremonies and the such, and since we had a pretty open Ceremony of Roses, I have decided to share the ceremony itself.

Submissive Journals: Bullet/Analogue Journal Review

Developed by Ryder Carroll, the idea of analog/bullet journaling is kind of elegant in its simplicity. You have one notebook. Everything goes in that notebook. So what can you put in it that's related to submission?