We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the last 12 months! For many couples, an Adult Nursing Relationship is not considered kinky, nor does it have any connection between lactation and BDSM. For us, lactation was the first step down a new path.
Our journey to re-lactation began as the first kinky request my husband made of me. We have been together for 13 years, and while he suckled for my relief when our babies were breastfed, I hadn’t had any milk for over a year. He had been looking online how to induce and asked me to do it one evening. While I didn’t think re-lactation was possible, I was excited about his enthusiasm and his request of me. We started with a pretty relaxed schedule, but he suckled 3x a day for about 20 minutes a side.
Suckling became totally intoxicating. I craved it and couldn’t wait for him to come home from work so we could sneak off and have our time together. Not surprisingly, all of the attention did wonders for my libido. My husband compared me to an old car. If you let her go too long without getting her started, she will take longer to get warmed up. It was better to turn her over more often and keep her warm; she would start every time… and as it turned out, I was now always warm! We went from having sex two or so times a week to having sex two times a day. We spent so much time together, just the two of us holding each other, and that wasn’t something we had ever done before. Making time for just us was an amazing boost to our relationship, and it wasn’t easy, but it was so worth it. We found that we didn’t bicker at each other nearly as much as we used to, and of course, he was much more sexually satisfied. I guess I was, too.
Once milk began to come in, I loved the way my breasts felt. They were bigger (and they weren’t really small, to begin with) but also firmer. They looked fine without a bra, which was not something I had ever really done before. They also felt full. I had nursed two babies, and once that was over, my breasts felt like deflated balloons. So, we were both very happy with the physical changes.
Feeling sexier and being physically together so much more often has led to more, shall we say, creative sex for us. He opened up about wanting milky breasts, and I was able to open up more about other, more submissive behaviors I was interested in exploring.
Now, as my Master, he gives me shivers when he tells me to “milk” myself or to take good care of his breasts. I hate the term “milking,” but when he tells me to do it, it sends me to the moon. We are still suckling regularly, and while I don’t make as much milk as he would like, we both still love spending time together a couple of times a day.
- The Art of Lactation: The Loving Milk Maid's Complete Guide to Making Milk for the Adult Nursing Couple by Jennifer Elisabeth Maiden
- Suck on This: Adult Breastfeeding Relationships and Those Who Love Them
- Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia
- Land of Milk and Honey
dani is a new submissive, and this is her first guest post on Submissive Guide. You can reach her on FetLife at milkydani