Do dominant women like this, that or the other thing? Unfortunately, there is no one set of ideal submissive traits that can be emulated. Indeed, if you ask these questions of twenty different Dominas, you’ll get at least twenty different answers. Each Dominant has her own idea of what makes a perfect submissive or slave. Some like youth and physical fitness, others like maturity and experience, tall or short, eloquent or not-so-much, pain slut or light-weight, sissy or not, emotive or the strong/silent type… well, as you can imagine, that list goes on and on. The problem, as I see it, is that too many (prospective) submissives get bogged down in trivial matters when they should be focusing on simple truth and sincerity.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSince I’m writing from the male submissive point of view, I suppose this question might also be asked as, “Is male submission more mental than physical?” I find the question, no matter how you parse it, to be interesting largely because it’s something I never really considered before. I suppose the implied idea is that the female dominants somehow exert their control vis-à-vis more cerebral or psychological means whereas the men tend toward more physical means.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThere's a treasure trove of information if you know where to look which is what I'm going to share with you here. Today's newsletter is a listing of all the really interesting BDSM education-focused videos on Youtube I could find when I was surfing around one day.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPetitioning is an acknowledgment of structure and formality; it is definitely a humbling experience for a slave. It is also a way for a slave to solidly express their desires – no hemming and hawing, no beating around the bush, just a determined statement of the desire.
Read The Article | Find SimilarEveryone’s safety is extremely important of course, but in the BDSM community, it is the people who give themselves up the most that have a greater chance of being hurt; submissives.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThe following list of links are my suggestions on key posts on the topic of bruise care and aftercare from my archives. I hope you find them to be useful.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen it comes to dealing with guilt, you have to talk about it. You can’t just shove it somewhere deep inside and expect that to take care of everything. Neither can you throw yourself into an activity and consider it done. You have to talk it out with the person, no matter how difficult that may be.
Read The Article | Find SimilarThis is the table of contents for the 31 Days of Submissive Journaling Series hosted in October 2016.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSubmissive Journaling isn't all neat and orderly, it can be a huge mess of emotions that you just have to get off your chest right that instant. And that's where a brain dump comes in.
Read The Article | Find SimilarA fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.
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