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Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stopping the scene, it also prevents you from going to places you’re not ready to explore. Yet, guilt or self-disappointment can make using a safeword feel like a failure for many. Fortunately, there are ways to address the guilt, disappointment, or fear around using or not using your safeword when it truly matters.

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After “Red”: How to Manage the Emotional Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword | Submissive Guide

Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of whether this is an issue for you. If you struggle with frequent apologizing, you may need to take a different approach to find ways to express what you really mean.

The Art of Apology Series - https://submissiveguide.com/articles/series/the-art-of-apology/

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[Podcast] Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’

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Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your enjoyment. Learn how to recognize the signs, prevent severe symptoms, and create a personalized aftercare plan that supports both your physical and emotional recovery. From building a drop kit to mastering self-care strategies, this guide empowers you to take control of your well-being and embrace every part of the journey with confidence.

Hormone Junkies Series:
►Adrenaline - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/exploring-hormone-junkies-part-1-adrenaline
►Oxytocin - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/exploring-hormone-junkies-part-2-oxytocin
►Testosterone - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/exploring-hormone-junkies-part-3-testosterone
►Endorphins - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/exploring-hormone-junkies-part-4-endorphins

More Resources:
►Sub Drop in Long-term relationships - https://submissiveguide.com/safety/articles/sub-drops-emotional-side
►What is Aftercare, Why Do You Need It, and How to Ask for It - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/the-question-of-aftercare
►Six Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/6-important-activities-to-include-in-your-aftercare-routine
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[Audio] Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery | Submissive Guide

We’ll cover the complexities of online submission, offering various safe environments to explore and learn the nuances of BDSM and discuss the potential benefits and dangers. We’ll help you navigate the online BDSM landscape with confidence and care.

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[Audio] Exploring Online Submission Truths Risks and Safety Tips | Submissive Guide

Description: A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work.

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[Audio] 10 Things You Can Start Today To Be a Better Submissive | Submissive Guide

Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should.

Resources:

Conversation Starters for Difficult Conversations: https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf

Kink Friendly Therapists:

- Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-allied
- Kink Friendly Therapy - http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/
- Kink Aware Professionals Directory - https://www.kapprofessionals.org/

Domestic Abuse Hotlines:

US: https://www.thehotline.org/
UK: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/
EU: https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines

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[Audio] Creating a Safe Space: Enhancing Communication in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

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Join Us! Submissive Forum June 21 – Play Negotiation

Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom.

Initiating a Discussion about BDSM with Your Partner:

►Initiating a Discussion about BDSM Interest with Your Partner - ted_subby - Part 1 of a 3-part series. Highly recommended. - http://www.submissiveguide.com/2012/03/initiating-a-discussion-about-bdsm-interest-with-a-vanilla-partner/

►Ask SehAnru | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner - SehAnru - http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/09/communicating-kinky-needs-to-a-vanilla-partner/

►Establishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk - lunaKM - http://www.submissiveguide.com/2011/05/establishing-a-safe-trusting-environment-for-talk/

Resources:
►Recommended Reading Lists - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/the-top-3-books-i-recommend-to-everyone-new-to-bdsm
►Creating a Personal Submissive Protocol - https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/creating-a-personal-protocol

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[Audio] Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World | Submissive Guide

Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other.

See the article for related reference material mentioned in the podcast.

Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony

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[Audio] Crafting Your Collaring Ceremony: Themes, Rituals, and Celebrations | Submissive Guide

Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it.

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Resources:

Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/
Resistance Play: https://www.kinkly.com/definition/810/resistance-play
Healthy Communication Skills on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/search?query=healthy+communication

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[Audio] The Truth About Topping from the Bottom | Submissive Guide

Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us need to learn what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques.

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[Audio] Every Good Conversation Starts with Active Listening | Submissive Guide

One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be neglected in your daily and work life, so learning requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus, and attention. It's so worth it.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skills

Further Reading:

Anticipatory Service - https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/my-first-anticipatory-service-and-3-lessons-i

Personality and Behavior Tests:

Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator - https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
The Big Five - https://www.simplypsychology.org/big-five-personality.html
Predictive Index - https://www.predictivesuccess.com/the-predictive-index/behavioural-assessment/
Strengths Finder - https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/253850/cliftonstrengths-for-individuals.aspx

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[Audio] Learning Good Observation Skills | Submissive Guide

Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awareness. Embrace the opportunity for self-discovery and pleasure as you unlock the secrets to understanding and embracing your BDSM limits.

Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/what-everyone-ought-to-know-about-finding-and-managing-limits

Further Reading:

BDSM Limits Explained - https://domsubliving.com/bdsm-limits-learn-whats-hard-soft/
Using Checklists to Figure Out Your Kinky Limits - https://kaylalords.com/2016/11/using-checklists-to-figure-out-your-kinky-limits/
Establishing Boundaries & Limits in BDSM - https://kynk101.com/kink-bdsm-facts/establishing-boundaries-limits
Novices and Newbies Group on FetLife - https://fetlife.com/groups/347
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What Everyone Ought To Know About Finding and Managing Limits | Submissive Guide

Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and valuable resources, readers are encouraged to break free from inhibitions and discover the liberating potential of vocalizing desires and fantasies.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-talk-dirty

Further Reading:
►How to Be Responsive During Play - https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-be-responsive-during-play-without-being-demanding
►Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Carol Queen - http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0940208350?ie=utf8&tag=submissiveguide-20&linkcode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeasin=0940208350
►Sex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Really Turns You On by Lauren Dockett - http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1572242868/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=utf8&tag=submissiveguide-20&linkcode=as2&camp=217145&creative=399349&creativeasin=1572242868
►The Dirty Slang Dictionary - http://www.scribd.com/full/16522424?access_key=key-1wefu7ggqvyfsrdx3sba

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Moans, Groans, and Beyond: A Beginner’s Guide to Dirty Talk | Submissive Guide

A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for enhancing pleasure. The first in the series, this article covers the first steps to exploring orgasm control in your play.

Resources on Orgasm Control Mechanics:

* Orgasm Control by Rover - http://www.seekers.org.uk/orgasm%20control.htm
* Orgasm Control Conditioning of Females on FetLife - https://fetlife.com/groups/575
* Train Your Body to Orgasm on Command - http://www.bdsmtrainingacademy.com/train-your-body-to-orgasm-on-command/
* Orgasm Control Training: They Can’t Resist - https://bdsmtrainingacademy.com/orgasm-control-training-they-cant-resist/
* Orgasm Control by gina - https://www.the-iron-gate.com/essays/310

Study: Women's Attributions Regarding Why They Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/29298126

Book: The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How She Can Orgasm" by Vivienne Cass, Ph.D - https://amzn.to/3qUmnNk

Part 2 of the Orgasm Control Training Series: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/orgasm-on-command-training-the-process-for-the-submissive

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[Audio] On-Demand Ecstasy: Initiating Your Orgasm Control Training | Submissive Guide Podcast

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