What Do Female Dominants Desire in a Male Submissive?

Do dominant women like this, that or the other thing? Unfortunately, there is no one set of ideal submissive traits that can be emulated. Indeed, if you ask these questions of twenty different Dominas, you’ll get at least twenty different answers. Each Dominant has her own idea of what makes a perfect submissive or slave. Some like youth and physical fitness, others like maturity and experience, tall or short, eloquent or not-so-much, pain slut or light-weight, sissy or not, emotive or the strong/silent type… well, as you can imagine, that list goes on and on. The problem, as I see it, is that too many (prospective) submissives get bogged down in trivial matters when they should be focusing on simple truth and sincerity.

The Beginner at Play: A Novice's First Experience in BDSM

I am very much aware of how mild and tame the following post is. This isn't an account of extreme BDSM. It isn't an account of me becoming a slave, or what I would consider myself becoming a full on sub. It is simply a retelling of my first and only foray/insight

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

A Mentor is Not Your Dom: Learning How to Connect with Experienced People For Submissive Development

If a Dominant approaches you and offers to be your mentor, make sure you clarify with them what you expect from them and for your own sake, keep it platonic. Your personal growth will be much improved and when that perfect Dominant comes along you'll be ready.

You Are What You Read: What Got You Into BDSM and D/s?

Some people think it is to do with their nature from birth, others think it is how they are nurtured and what they experience in life. I think perhaps I am somewhere between the middle in my belief on that issue.

30 Days of Submission Challenge: Day 1 – Labeling My Submission

Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label?

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others - My Submission Isn't Better Than Yours

I know being competitive is a part of human nature, but the constant comparison of yourself to others doesn’t do anyone, especially you any good.

On Perfectionism as a Submissive

None of us have it together. None of us are perfect. But we can learn from each other, cheer each other on when we falter and get inspired by our successes.

Getting Started with Flogging

If you are just getting started with a flogger, define what type of play would interest you, and start to find out which floggers would be the best suited for the job.

The Best Part About Submission is Our Ability to Choose

If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. But the best part is our ability to choose.