Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

When do you know you are ready for a collar? What's the value in a collar really? And how can you get one?

Letting Go: How to Let Go of the Past and Be a Happy Submissive

I’m here to tell you that it is possible to let that past go and not let it impact you any more. I’m learning how and I want to share what I’m learning with you so that you too can lift the past and free your future.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Keeping It Fresh - How to Spice Up Your Kinky Life

Every relationship experiences periods of boredom in the bedroom, kinky ones are not excluded from this. So what do you do about it?

A Submissive's New Year's Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

Letting go is not an easy thing to do. Offering forgiveness is even harder.

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

What I learned from my own efforts in transitioning and hopefully they will help you too if you choose to move your submission from the bedroom to more or from more to total surrender in a Master/slave relationship.

On Perfectionism as a Submissive

None of us have it together. None of us are perfect. But we can learn from each other, cheer each other on when we falter and get inspired by our successes.

Words as Motivation - Submissive Meditation Monday

I take a moment to share one of my new favorite quotes and how it has inspired and motivated me. How do you find quotes to inspire you?

What Should I Try Next: Like Bondage? Try Mummification!

If you enjoy bondage, whether it is trying out under the bed restraints, basic rope ties, or other means of being tied, consider looking into mummification. Mummification is using plastic wrap, medical tape, body bags, or other materials to completely restrict and immobilize the body.