Should There Be Clear Definitions to Label Yourself In This Lifestyle?

So should there be a solid set of definitions that people can choose from? Other than the dictionary definitions that is; something lifestyle related that we can point to and say if you fit into a, b and c you are submissive, but if you feel more like d, e and f you are slave. If we had to come up with specific definitions what would be in your list for each label?

Thoughts on Public Vanilla Acceptable Collars

Does one know how to obtain collars that do not look like collars..so one can be worn at all time with out so called vanilla’s asking about it…?

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

How Do You Beg For Mercy?

My Master sometimes wants me to beg for mercy while he's punishing me. I don't really mind it, but I just don't know how to beg for mercy. Any ideas on what my Master might want to hear exactly?

Me vs the German Language - A Lesson in Patience

More times than I care to count, I find myself in the train of thought that I shouldn’t even bother because I’m never going to understand the language, so why keep torturing myself? But then, on the other hand, I get so frustrated because I can’t really communicate while out in public. This is when having a bit of patience comes into play.

Nobody's Perfect-Including Your Dominant!

It’s really easy for those of us who are S-types to think that our D-types are perfect. And that is the furthest thing from the truth.

Master/slave Relationships in Black and White

It’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master?

Should I Contact My Deceased Partner's Secret Submissive?

A reader asks if she should contact her deceased partner's secret submissive.

Don't Judge A Label By Its Cover: Dispelling Stereotypes of D/s Roles

Personality traits do no indicate what label that person may wear in D/s or BDSM. Learn more ways we apply stereotypes and how to dispel your mistruths.