What NOT to Do and Say When Someone You Know is Uncollared

The intensely emotional end of a D/s relationship, where one no longer wears a collar can be a moment where you as a friend can shine, but keep in mind the consideration and delicate nature of bringing up a painful discussion. Let’s discuss some possible etiquette around a friend who has been recently uncollared.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

There Is No Such Thing as Vanilla Life When You Are 24/7

In many of the groups I frequent a common thread is how to keep the spark alive when vanilla life gets in the way of your 24/7 D/s or M/s relationship. These people feel overworked, stressed and taxed by the daily things that take up their day and they say that they are having problems staying connected as their roles dictate.

Building Your Fetish Wardrobe on a Budget

There are different styles of fetish wear to consider when building your wardrobe. You might even have a decent selection in your closet already. To add a bit more spice you can always go shopping.

The Returning a Collar After a Break Up

I decided to return the collar with the same regard in which it was presented. Traditionally, a collar is offered with a great deal of significance for the persons and the relationship they share. But in the heat of emotion, we may not think to return one in the same reverent manner which it was accepted. So, I took it upon myself to rise above the childish feelings I could have so easily resorted to.

Two Bodies Revolving Around a Core: The Slow Dance of a BDSM Long-Distance Relationship

We live in a world where some of us living on the planet are lucky enough to have access to the technology that makes the distance seem tiny.

A Simple Act of Submission Isn't Always So Simple

Submission is about doing what is asked or ordered of me, without question, whether it’s something I really want to do or not.

You Are Not Your Collar - Submissive Meditation Monday

Don't lose yourself once you are collared.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 3: What is a Submissive Journal?

A journal is the most common way to write and ponder your inner workings and mind. Diaries have existed since the dawn of pen and paper and they will likely never go out of style. Often these are more private than what can be said of online journals.