I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me.
Don't lose yourself once you are collared. Oftentimes, the identity of the submissive, your identity, can be lost when the relationship becomes a committed one. It's something I know I've experienced and even embraced for a time. I loved being known only as KnyghtMare's submissive. No one got to know who I was or what I was like because I was collared and essentially untouchable.
People on forums and other social networks push to say your behavior reflects on the dominant. Which, in some respect it does, but that again removes your personal identity. Your behavior reflects on you too. Take ownership for it. This also applies to your dependence on your Dominant. It's great to need someone, but never at the expense of your own existence. For example, if your Dominant has to be away for a few days, you aren't lost. You are not only for your Dominant's use. You are valuable and capable of taking care of yourself in your Dominant's absence. If you can't think of what to do to keep yourself busy and only dwell on your Dominant's absence then perhaps you've allowed yourself to become your collar and not the person who wears it.
Some submissives lose themselves in the service they provide. But you don't have to. Knowing who you are without a dominant can be a powerful tool to understanding your submissive path and what direction to go in. So make sure that your collar does not define you. You are not your collar.
As a submissive, you work to be the perfect person for your partner, but you also need to remember to be your own authentic self.
Take some time today to reflect on what makes you, you. Embrace your uniqueness outside the collar you wear.