Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Interests?

We both enjoy rough sex and him being in control but have never gone beyond that. I'd like to know how to subtly tell him.

5 Myths About Dominants You Need To Know

There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. Here's 5 myths you can debunk right now.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

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I Will Not Support Your Affair: My Stand on Cheating

This is my personal stand on secret relationships, or affairs and how I handle requests for help from people in them.

He Wants to Add His Once Secret Submissive to Our Relationship?

I recently found out that my husband of many years had been having a BDSM relationship outside of our marriage, secretly. Now, he wants to involve me with his sub, as a triad.

Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship?

I find myself resentful that, mostly, sex involves his orgasms and not mine. Do I need to accept that my pleasure is not a consideration in our relationship?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

You aren't a doormat. As a submissive, you can have autonomy and an active submission you can be proud of. So, must you always wait for orders? You tell me.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) - General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.