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Lessons in Submissive Speech

Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.

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Start Here: New to BDSM Pack

So, you’ve discovered this great big world of BDSM and you just don’t know what to do now. Welcome! I suggest you start here in learning some of the vocabulary you’ll find around the internet and I want to help you get your head around all the things you’ll encounter, just a bit at a time.

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BDSM vs Abuse

The core of BDSM is consent. No one will disagree with this. We are all aware, hopefully, that abuse is not consensual. If you feel that what is going on is ‘not right’ then you certainly should investigate if it is abuse or not. Some of what you may feel could not be abuse at all, but it’s good to know for sure. Learn how you can see the differences for yourself.

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A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series.

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Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

To open a dialog, communicate with your partner to understand what potential there may be, if any, for BDSM to be included in your relationship.

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Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Ask one hundred submissives why they consider topping from the bottom as bad and they will likely come up with something relating to "forcing the Dominant's hand." They'd be right. The real, honest to goodness, truth is that forcing the Dominant's hand is the only way you can bottom-top. How you do that is situational, different for different people or different reasons and you really can't list the exact ways that it comes about.

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That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

Just because there’s a waiting period between the request and the final answer doesn’t mean that you simply do nothing. Let your little slave light radiate as it gets stronger/brighter!

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How to Ask for Play and Why It's So Hard For Submissives To Do

For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.

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How to Ask for More BDSM Playtime

Once you open up to allowing yourself to ask for what you want you will find so many more doors open for you.

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What Do I Do While I Wait for a Response from My Long Distance Dominant?

What do I do with myself when I'm waiting for my Master to respond to my messages?

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