The Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism and Value of Collars in D/s Relationships

To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the matter could mean a lifetime of service, the same importance of engagement or marriage and strict adherence to rules and behaviors. However, just as there are people who go through mates like tissues, there are submissives and Dominants alike that use Velcro collars. These collars have practically no meaning to them and they hand them out or give them back without so much as a blink of the eye.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

My Struggle with Accepting Domestic Service as Service

What makes what I do service? It's all in the attitude really. Sure I could trudge around scrubbing and cleaning with a frown on my face, looking like I had been made to do this or that and not happy at all. Or I could find the peace in it.

BDSM and Submission: The Five Precepts of Service

Meditating on these precepts offers me inspiration and guidance. I think of these as five bottomless practices that can be continually explored and deepened. They are not linear and have no value as theories or concepts. To be understood and realized, they have to be lived into and communicated through action.

31 Days to Better Domestic Service: Reducing Clutter to Maximize Cleaning Efforts

Clutter. Your house has piles of things, disorganized, under used and dusty. You may not know where to put some of the things you've collected or the pile just keeps growing as you forget to put things away. Either way you slice it, you have a problem.

Getting My Home Together - A Cleaning and Organizing Purge

It is so easy to become overwhelmed and let the “little things” slide. Don’t let your home get to that point, and if you do, blitz it, call over friends, get it clean and give yourself a hard deadline.

Busyness, Why Do We Think It Adds Value?

I've come to see that oftentimes we slaves measure our value as slaves according to the accomplishments of other slaves and attempt to match the productivity level of other slaves that we look up to.