The Emotional Side of Sub Drop and Why It Happens More In Committed Relationships

There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms. If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes the time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days.

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training

It all starts with your mind. As a submissive, if you feel that it just can't happen then it won't. You have to be willing to accept the possibility that an orgasm without physical stimulus is possible and that you want it.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Why I Think No Limits Slavery Does Not Exist

For me, there will always be limits. I can see when a slave says they honestly don't have any limits they truly believe that they don't. And it very well could be the case. But turn around and talk to the Dominant and they will be able to list things that they would never do with their property - be it because they don't get off on it or because they value their property enough to not want to harm them. This for me is why no limits slavery does not exist.

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster - Handling Jealousy

Most confuse jealousy and envy. I know I've been bitten a few times by jealousy but thankfully I worked through them and realized that there was nothing to worry about. I've conquered jealousy and you can too. Today we'll talk about what jealousy is, compare it to envy and then figure out some tips on combating jealousy.

How can I teach my boyfriend about kink without affecting the dynamic?

How do I educate my vanilla boyfriend without affecting the power balance or offending him?

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. But now I can say that I actually enjoy them.

My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

It is very difficult to lead somebody. Exponentially so when she answers to another.

Winter Blues - Submissive Meditation Monday

Today and every day this Winter, I want to focus on healing and on joy.

Opening the Relationship When It's Already Rocky

Opening up an already unstable relationship is hard for everyone.