3 Ways to Recover From a Fight and Return to Submission Post-Argument

How do you then pick up the role again? It's not always as easy as you think. You are likely to be emotionally charged, perhaps you are still feeling pains of anger, frustration or sadness. Turning around and being submissive again has to get over those hurdles first.

Submissive Skills: Service Topping For Your Dominant's Pleasure

I'm talking about the submissive who tops their Dominant. This has nothing to do with topping from the bottom. This is an agreed upon role that the submissive top their owner during play. It's not as uncommon as you might think that a Dominant could be masochistic and need a sadist to satisfy their needs. It's also very common that submissives might have or develop a sadistic streak. This pairing could blossom into a healthy service dynamic for the couple.

Are Female Dominants More About Mental Dominance Than Physical Dominance?

Since I’m writing from the male submissive point of view, I suppose this question might also be asked as, “Is male submission more mental than physical?” I find the question, no matter how you parse it, to be interesting largely because it’s something I never really considered before. I suppose the implied idea is that the female dominants somehow exert their control vis-à-vis more cerebral or psychological means whereas the men tend toward more physical means.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

A Day in the Life: fuzzyP

This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series.

Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better

We called the marriage counselor as a last-ditch effort to resuscitate “us” and it was the first move towards the life I had never imagined but somehow of which I had still always dreamt.

Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships by Raven Kaldera is a collection of essays written by both masters and slaves who are involved in different types of relationships. Tequilarose provides a critical review.

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 24 – Scene Reports: How they can Empower Your Playtime

A scene report is a written account of the who, what, when, where, why's of playtime. Explore why you might want to keep track of the scenes you've been in through journaling.

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

Enhancing the Dominant or Submissive Traits in Your Vanilla Partner

Mistress Steel tackles the the topic of introducing your partner to BDSM and D/s. She provides some simple suggestions to get you started with the conversation and some subtle hints you can use today to share your kink with your spouse.