The core of BDSM is consent. No one will disagree with this. We are all aware, hopefully, that abuse is not consensual. If you feel that what is going on is ‘not right’ then you certainly should investigate if it is abuse or not. Some of what you may feel could not be abuse at all, but it’s good to know for sure. Learn how you can see the differences for yourself.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIf you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes.A checklist can be very helpful for you when you are first starting out. You can learn what you might like to try and get answers to things you don’t know about. Some of the more detailed checklists can seem overwhelming but please realize that you don’t have to like everything. Pick and choose and be honest.
Read The Series | Find SimilarWhen someone says “Talk dirty to me baby…” in the bedroom the hopefully-soon-to-be dirty talker instantly freezes like a soaking wet roll of toilet paper being thrown out of an igloo in Antarctica.What should you say? What do they want you to say? What if you say too much? What if you say too little?
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Read The Article | Find SimilarI’ve had other Doms comment that He can’t really teach me, that He can’t really control me, blah blah. He isn’t old enough, there is no way He could have the experience needed to handle a strong sub like me. However, to me, it’s less about experience than the intuition He has.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSo, what do you say to the unfamiliar people about BDSM so that they get a valid glimpse into the life, but also just enough to keep them from rejecting you completely? That balancing act is what I'm going to talk about in this article.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe are the sum of our experiences, after all, and if I hadn't learned these lessons I don’t think I’d be where I am today.
Read The Article | Find SimilarOvercoming limits is a part of the journeys we take as subs. It’s a healthy, often invigorating challenge.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarSo, you've come here looking for how to make those fantasies and hot stories something real; something you can experience for yourself. Let's try to get your training wheels in place so you can go into your first conversation and foray into hot kinky sex with open eyes.
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