Feeling Submissive Again After a Break - How I Am Reclaiming Myself

It’s a scary thing to know your submissive flame is gone and then to work hard to bring it back out without someone to submit to. I know that if I lost my way and can find someway to come back, that you can to. Give my advice some thought and try to formulate your own ideas for how you too can rebuild your submissive flame, nourish your spirit and return to some sense of normalcy in yourself.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Understanding Sub Fever

Figuring out what to do once you know you have it can be difficult. Novice submissives lose their rational thought really easily when the fever takes hold.

Your Responsibilities in Play - In and Out of a Relationship

The responsibility of a submissive doesn’t disappear at any time. You need to look out for yourself and learn to communicate effectively with those you wish to play with, whether it’s the first or 500th time you’ve done so.

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It's All About Communication

I know that communication in the lifestyle is one of those topics that are constantly talked about, but I believe that’s because a lot of people don’t truly understand the importance of communication and how easily a relationship can turn sour if there is a breakdown in communication.

Recommended Podcasts for Kink and Power Exchange Relationships

There are several very good podcasts online that I enjoy listening to from time to time and I finally pulled together a short list of the ones that I don't like to miss a single episode.

Traveling With Toys: A Submissive's Dilemma

To make toy storage easier, I discovered that the ideal toy bag.

Make Your Own Step-by-Step Guide for a Scene

Do you have any tips, useful links/books, or a how-to of sorts that could be followed step by step for our first try at scening?

Advice On How To Recover From a Breakup

Since this is my first D/S relationship, what can I do to feel better about the raw unraveling and abandonment of feeling so alone?

New to D/s Relationships? Here's Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out - Part 1

What makes a D/s relationship so different from mainstream relationships? Learn the key differences, how you can apply what you learn to your own relationships and watch it develop into your most fulfilling relationship possible.