I’m a New Dominant, How Can Submissive Guide Help Me Understand My Submissive?

As time went on, I noticed that I was getting questions from Dominants in my email and praise from them for what their submissive has shared with them from the site. And so, I went on a little exploration of the site with new eyes. How would a new Dominant use Submissive Guide to learn and explore their budding relationship with a submissive?

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

It all begins with the basic information that all dominant request of a submissive when they are first getting to know someone. This is known as a basic profile. Personal basic profiles are a great way to distill information in an interesting and digestible format.The process of writing a personal profile is to intrigue the reader about the person it is written about.

Strong-Willed and Opinionated: Can I be Submissive?

A Dominant friend of mine explained it best, "You're a strong submissive with surrendering tendencies." She went on to say that it takes one exceptional Dominant to get me to that place. And she's right. I don't submit to just anyone that says they are Dominant.

Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

My Sir is dealing with a lot of stress right now, and as a result he seems to be less interested in dominating me. As a result I am questioning my submissiveness. As a submissiveness, should I be accepting this change in him as part of my submitting to him and his needs?

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Ending the marriage was one of the hardest decisions I had to face. I still loved him, he was a great guy and we had fun together. I don't recommend divorce as the solution to all bedroom problems but let me share what steps we took before a divorce was my final solution.

Everyone Needs a Break, Right - Do you Break from Submission?

While I can't say that everyone takes a break it's good to know that we can without it being the end of our submission altogether. I hope you will forever remain happy, on whatever phase of submission you are currently in.

Solo-Coaching - Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Sometimes, as we grow up, we hang on to old defense mechanisms that served us fine at the time, but now seem to garner negative feedback. Here's how you too can rewrite old defensive behaviors into something that will serve you much better.