The first of three contract examples from Mrs. Darling. This one is from her book, retelling her own submissive discovery tale, Darling Discovered. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship.
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By taking on an active role in our submission, we not only have more opportunities to be submissive, but we build a dynamic that provides an open exchange of power. Even though as submissives, we permit them to have authority over us, that isn't enough. We're missing a key point here. D/s is an exchange.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWe are all people, submissive or not. Just because you identify as submissive does not give you a membership card into the friendship club for me. Sure I'm going to care for you with the same care I give any person I meet. Just don't expect me to care more because you are submissive. This isn't always a dog eat dog world, but you can't expect people to always treat you the way you treat them.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt's funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for "chemistry" as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He simply doesn't exist either in the Vanilla world or in the lifestyle. Most Doms I know have regular lives to live and when their backside itches they scratch it. They fart when they eat beans and burp when they drink a beer. They wake up with bags under their eyes and a 5 o'clock shadow just exactly like their vanilla counterparts. But here we are hoping like crazy that he will forever and ever look like a hottie in leathers while always having a desire to flog our submissive little behinds.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWith the thought of realizing you can approach a Dominant, here are some tips to get you away from the wall and into someone else's gaze.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWays that a submissive can teach without worrying about "being Dominant" in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMy genuine, real self was in there and when I embraced the whole of me again I was able to coexist with the world.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhat do I do with myself when I'm waiting for my Master to respond to my messages?
Read The Article | Find SimilarAll forms of submission are unique and personal expressions of your best self. You can take lessons and go through training to learn how to be a better you.
Read The Article | Find SimilarJournaling is a tool not only for your own personal development but can be a fantastic tool for training and let your Dominant into your thought process.
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