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Today I'd like to talk about the bane of many a submissive; fidgeting. Sitting still is really hard for me in many situations. Either nerves or discomfort will cause you to twitch and move when all you want to do is not move. So how do you learn how to cut down your fidgeting?
That's right. If you can quiet your mind you will be able to quiet your body. This is going to take more than a day to learn. I'd recommend trying it every day until you can sit quietly for at least 15 minutes.
Sit comfortably with your spine straight. You may choose to sit in a chair or on the floor cross-legged as long as you can maintain the position for at least 15 mins. Do not lie down as this encourages drowsiness.
Now close your eyes and draw your attention to your breath. Notice how the breath enters your body through your nostrils and exits out of your mouth. Focus your attention on the places where your breath enters and exits. If thoughts or feelings surface - and they will - simply return your focus back to your breathing. Count your breaths. Start with ten and work your way up. Then slowly open your eyes and become aware of your surroundings.
As you learn to do this for longer durations you will be able to use these tactics when you need to stand or sit still. Your body will be able to take a meditation moment and your fidgeting will cease.
I'm not saying this is easy; I don't have it down pat either. But I'm learning and progressing and that's the point. I'm better than I was a month ago and will continue to improve. You can too.
If bondage helps center you, try it during your meditation. It can help you focus on being silent and relaxing in your position.
Try to play some relaxing music while you hold your position. It's best to choose music without words so that your focus remains on your breath and not the words of the songs. Practice holding your positions for up to 15 minutes.
The final step is to try your meditation and quieting movements with a lot of distraction. If you can, try to do your meditation at a play party or munch. It need not be obvious, just relax your body and sit silently for awhile.
Try to do your meditation in a position you have chosen from the previous posts. Start small and work your way up to 10 or 15 minutes. You will amaze yourself how the pain in your joints fades as your fidgeting fades.