When Fantasy Collides with Reality: Weighing Expectations when Exploring Kink Fantasies

Unrealistic expectations and desires are some of the most difficult challenges faced by those who are experienced in the lifestyle when dealing with those just entering the lifestyle. In many ways we each buy into a particular ‘aspect’ of the fantasy. Yet over and over people try to implement the impossible.

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Reflecting On Past Relationships Can Help Develop Your Submission - Write Them Down In Your Submissive Training Resume

So, say you want to set up a training history, how do you start? Each relationship should be treated the same, whether it was casual, long term, live-in, long distance or online only. Relationships that are short to really long all should be documented. All of them will matter and have an impact on your future.

A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series.

Submissive Advent - Day 16: Prayer

A Submissive's Prayer

Author Unknown

Allow me the strength to answer questions I can't fathom. Allow me the spirit to know His needs. Allow me the kindness to choke back retorts. Allow me the serenity to serve Him in peace.

Using a Slave Journal - It's Not What You Think!

The Slave Journal is a log of command, instructions, and requests from the Dominant. When they ask for you to do something, you write it down. Things like new rules, mention that they prefer Charmin toilet paper or that they love the red dress you wore the other night.

These Aren't Your Toys! Child-Proofing For Your BDSM Toys

In an effort to keep our lifestyle to ourselves, we needed to put in some precautions to keep our adult toys out of reach and out of their imaginations.

The Best Books for a Novice Submissive

There are a lot of books out there related to BDSM and being a novice submissive.

The 5 Levels of Sub Space In and Out of Playtime

Every single submissive who has experienced sub space describes it differently and you too can expect to feel something different if you ever reach that sensory high.

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we've learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?