7 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

You Are Not Going To Hell: My Personal Thoughts on Balancing Christianity and Kink

My sexual and carnal desires were given to me by God. I'm kinky because that is the way I was made. No evil influences turned me to the dark ways.

Setting Realistic Goals to Realize Your Dreams

Every goal we want to set requires three things to have a chance at working. We need the right time in our lives, planning and follow through. Lack just one of these things and we will not reach those dreams of ours.

So, you may be wondering why I'm covering this topic on a submissive newsletter. Every day I set goals for myself; be more obedient, remember to reply to requests and commands appropriately, research a certain topic to better understand it, practice my stretching so that I can be more flexible, etc. All of these things are to improve my submission. Hopefully you are setting small goals for yourself too. At the end of this essay, I'd like to challenge you to set a few goals for yourself and your submission. Let's see some wonderful changes in you!

Altered Submissive Speech - Thoughts and Ideas on How to Implement Third Person Speech and other Protocols

In all situations, altering speech and writing is to do an important task of reminding the person that they are not in control of themselves, which includes their speech. They are asked to use deference in situations that call for it and even to learn a new way to talk to keep them in the role.

Submissive Advent - Day 11: Pancake Identity

How many times in your submissive journey have you thought about the words we use to identify ourselves and feel that they just don't feel quite right?

Seeing a Desirable Me: Learning Body Confidence through the Fingers of a Lover

Accepting his gaze and touch would mean accepting my shape as sexual and appealing. I would have to start seeing myself as he sees me. A very desirable body.

Being Submissive in a Vanilla World and How to Balance it Out

Even though we can’t always spend our days chained to the bed or sitting at our owner’s feet, there’s always a way to still show your submission in the vanilla world.

Back Off Bitches! Feeling Territorial and Jealousy as a Slave

There’s nothing cute at all in being a territorial/jealous slave. That’s a fact. Yet, so many suffer from this affliction – sounds dramatic, but truly it’s definitely fitting.