Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

The first of three contract examples from Mrs. Darling. This one is from her book, retelling her own submissive discovery tale, Darling Discovered. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship.

Kink and Mental Health: The Ethics and Legality of Consent

One thing I've noticed, with regard to BDSM cases in the media, is that regardless whether or not the law allows for consent, it's usually the first question the media asks. Did the submissive consent to whatever gave the police cause to arrest and charge the dominant? Followed by the question of whether or not the submissive revoked said consent by use of safe word or some other agreed upon protocol.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

What Does Breaking the Rules and Testing a Dominant's Limits Help You Learn?

I had a question sent to me the other day asking for suggestions and strategies that a novice submissive could use to make sure they don't break the rules while they are still learning which sparked this topic for me.

What is Kajira?

I am Kajira. I am a slave. First off that makes me a tool to be used at my Master’s every whim. Whether that is for sexual pleasure, for comfort, for massage, or just to sit in position as commanded.

30 Days of Submission: Day 10 - BDSM and Kink in the Submissive Relationship

Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships?

Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart

Sir programmed a daily task into the calendar on my phone. It was only two words: check-in.

Coping with Release: The End of the D/s Relationship

How do you process the end of a D/s relationship? Explore the range of emotions and how you can reach closure.

Become a Patron: How Your Pledge Can Bring Big Change to Submissive Guide

I really do need your help to make the future of Submissive Guide simply amazing. Help me get there. Support me on Patreon today.

The Role Sex Plays in a D/s Relationship

Sex and how we've learned about sex can form our own opinions about how sexual D/s forms in our lives and how we respond to it. The emphasis of sex in a D/s relationship comes about in a variety of forms and is only limited by your imagination. What role does it play in your relationship?