Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

The mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. RACK stands for two principles designed to give you the opportunity to move outside of your current comfort zones, into a place of interest.

The Gift of Submission, Or Is It?

When I first started exploring submission I heard and read numerous times that submission is a gift to the Dominant that accepts it. For a long time, I subscribed to this way of thinking and there is nothing wrong with thinking about your submission this way. I'm not here to tell you that you are wrong. I am hoping that I can give you a different perspective about your submission that you may not have thought about.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

What I've Learned From My Young Dominant

I’ve had other Doms comment that He can’t really teach me, that He can’t really control me, blah blah. He isn’t old enough, there is no way He could have the experience needed to handle a strong sub like me. However, to me, it’s less about experience than the intuition He has.

When Mommy/slave is Ill...

Let's face it. Not everyone out there is graced with excellent health, some of us are even chronically ill. So what do you do as a slave and a mother and wife when the bad pain/illness days hit?

How Master Took Control of the Finances

I belong to him completely today but when I look back, having him control all the money was the greatest submission for me to him.

Eight Miles - Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships

Healthy, and a little scary, but ultimately beneficial, the changes from one to the other can be a little surprising, and undoubtedly will raise small conflicts of opinion that will need to be addressed.

The Importance of Being Your Own Person

Being a submissive is a huge part of who you are, but it’s not all you are. It can be easy to lose yourself in the relationship and your submission. It’s important to be your own person as well.

Fear in Submission

Fear can be good, because it makes us take a moment and stop and think about what we’re about to do, especially when that thing we’re about to do is stepping out of our comfort zone. Making the decision to submit, is definitely one of those decisions.

The Submissive Blues - Submissive Meditation Monday

Sometimes you can feel so disconnected with your submission that you begin to question who you are. Here's my meditation on my personal struggle.