In this Define This! Episode we talk about the term “vanilla” and how it can be interpreted throughout the BDSM culture.
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It’s hard not to internalize the negative messages from people who don’t understand the ageplay dynamic. But you can learn to accept who you are and come out stronger. I’ll give you my own story and some words of encouragement for you to build from. Accept who you are.
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One of the tools that Dominants can use for communication is journaling. But you don’t have to be in a relationship to keep a journal. How do you start one? What goes in it? Dive into the 30 Days of Submissive Journaling series or one of the many other articles about this very useful tool in a submissive’s kit.
Read The Series | Find SimilarIn a D/s relationship, it is not unfamiliar to also draft a contract in which to declare your intentions with each other. These are not required, of course, and some people will proclaim the invalidity of these documents to anyone who will listen. I feel that the creation of a contract has some very useful and valuable importance to a growing relationship.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPredicament bondage can be simple or complex and playful or painful. It relies on the skill and evil imagination of the Dom/me to set up a position where your body is essentially going to punish itself. Picture your Dom/me pulling your hair to lower you to the ground. The hair pull is a simple illustration of a stressor. If you don’t lower yourself, you will be in pain.
Read The Article | Find SimilarCleaning is a task most dread, but it can be made quick and effective. With a few simple tips you can boast your domestic prowess and please your Master with a well manicured home.
Read The Article | Find SimilarWhether you have a public or private blog, making it a personal statement is great fun. Let's go over what sort of things you can do to make your blog speak of your personality and be attractive to readers so they'll want to come back.
Read The Article | Find SimilarSpanking is another starting point for many people entering the BDSM arena because it is so simple (seeming) and if using your hand pretty difficult to spank your way to injury. Flogging is one of the most standard of BDSM impact tools and a great next step for those looking to take things to the next level.
Read The Article | Find SimilarIt’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.
Read The Article | Find SimilarA fantastic little how to get started with Wax Play! Important points include candle temperature and what you need to get going with your own scene.
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