10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Preparing Your Body for Service: Your Bathing Routine

You may have been bathing yourself since you were 5 or 6, but if you haven't changed your bathing routine since then, you may want to consider growing up and learning an adult way to bathe. Each person may have cleaning preferences and this is to be just a guideline and recommendation for bathing and grooming. Preparing your body for your dominant partner is a basic requirement that will amaze and delight them, besides a clean body makes you feel good too.

Caring for Yourself After a Scene: Self-Aftercare

All too often it becomes a necessity to take care of yourself after a play session because your top was just visiting or the play party is over. Even after a few days you may need to carry out some aftercare. Knowing what to do can prevent physical and emotional struggles.

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

There are two common methods to positively process pain. Dispersion and Release are more like titles for a range of positive techniques.

How to Ask for Play and Why It's So Hard For Submissives To Do

For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.

The Best Books for a Novice Submissive

There are a lot of books out there related to BDSM and being a novice submissive.

Fun Things from February's Little Chat

Specifically for this chat, I created a couple of documents to share and because I think they’re awesome(I may be a little biased here), I wanted to share them with everyone else who didn’t get the chance to attend the chat.