A Complete Guide to BDSM Collars

A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually gaurded and protected with their heart. With all the essays online about collars I thought I’d jump in with my own take on what everyone says and believes about collars.

How I Use Simple Rituals to Regain My Submissive Mindset After A Busy Workday

Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind and re-gaining the D/s world.

Collars and More: Symbols of Ownership in a D/s Relationship

For me, ownership needs to feel permanent, but also part of a loving and happy relationship. The things that symbolize ownership to me are things I can't get rid of too easily since the collar needs a special allen key that he keeps to remove it and my tattoo, of course, would need to be removed surgically. Both of these mean as much to me as my engagement ring.

Some Thoughts on Domestic Service from a Male Submissive

When luna indicated that she was going to emphasize domestic service at the Sub Guide this month, it reminded me that when I tell people I am primarily a service submissive I am frequently asked: “What is that?”. The follow-up question is often, “What do you get out of that?” It seemed an opportune time to tackle these questions. (Sometimes the follow-up question is “What are you secondarily, then?” To which I always reply, “Whatever She needs me to be, of course.”)

So what is a service submissive? Simply put, it’s a sub (male or female) that takes care of household chores and similar tasks. Cooking, cleaning and other domestic duties might be performed by a service submissive. We essentially take the role of butler, maid, chauffeur, gardener or cook.

Have a BDSM Community Spirit You Can Be Proud Of

If you are like me, you give back. I have always believed that we should support those who support us; that we should support our passions.

5 Types of Naughty Talk To Enhance Your Sexual Experiences

Not everyone is comfortable with naughty talk in all 5 categories, but I bet you can find at least one where you can sink your teeth into and really get your motor going - or at least your partners senses.

Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Low and high protocol events require different rules and behaviors. Here's how you navigate them, they aren't as scary as you think!

Holiday Gift Guide: 15 Toys and Tools for Beginning Dominants

Here's my list of 15 toys, tools and equipment that every beginning Dominant would love to open on Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate)!

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) - General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.