Finding Balance in Your D/s Dynamic (and Your Life!)

Balance is mostly about feeling fulfilled but not overwhelmed. It feels like the dynamic can live in harmony with the other aspects of daily life. How that is achieved will vary based on the wishes of those involved in the dynamic.

Submissive Skills: Service Topping For Your Dominant's Pleasure

I'm talking about the submissive who tops their Dominant. This has nothing to do with topping from the bottom. This is an agreed upon role that the submissive top their owner during play. It's not as uncommon as you might think that a Dominant could be masochistic and need a sadist to satisfy their needs. It's also very common that submissives might have or develop a sadistic streak. This pairing could blossom into a healthy service dynamic for the couple.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Altered Submissive Speech - Thoughts and Ideas on How to Implement Third Person Speech and other Protocols

In all situations, altering speech and writing is to do an important task of reminding the person that they are not in control of themselves, which includes their speech. They are asked to use deference in situations that call for it and even to learn a new way to talk to keep them in the role.

30 Days of Submission: Day 15 - My Evolution as a Submissive

Has your submission evolved over time?

BDSM Isn't Just About Power Exchange

There is more than power exchange involved in BDSM. Here's a short reminder that there is far more to the term that you might realize.

Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated - Subtle D/s in Public

It can be difficult to achieve a public dynamic that fits the needs of all parties while remaining within the confines of public social expectations.

An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first thought is that it is 'like any other relationship,' but that's not entirely accurate. Let me tell you what the common misconceptions are and then we can talk about the reality of a D/s relationship. You may be surprised to learn that they aren't as foreign as you think.

31 Days to Better Domestic Service: Room to Room Cleaning Lists For Your Home

[Free Printables!!] Room by room cleaning lists for your home.