Communicating While Submissive

Doms keep telling us that they’re not mind-readers, so we have to communicate. But it’s hard! Especially when it’s something they might not want to hear.

Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness

One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation is also something that can go neglected in your everyday and work life so that learning it requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus and attention. It's so worth it.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

How to Serve a Self-Sufficient Dominant

It's far harder to serve a self-sufficient Dominant because they want to do everything themselves. It is not impossible though.

Developing Trust in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

It is important to develop a safe word system with your Dominant. There are many reasons why this is such a very good idea.

How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

The idea of spending a lot of time naked and exposed terrifies me, especially if a lot of crawling is involved, which I think he will ask me. How do you deal with your discomfort over your body with your partner? Part of me says to just trust him to take the lead on this matter, but I’m not sure.

How to Ask for Play and Why It's So Hard For Submissives To Do

For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn't in our character. But I'm here to tell you that it isn't.

How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

Yelling at them may seem like the thing to do, but with the right tools and a dash of inner strength, you can learn how to express yourself without blowing your top.

Things That Hinder You Getting to Know People At a Munch and How to Overcome Them

Here are a few of the common issues with munches that you can either adjust to or at least work around to try to make your nervous butt feel better at a munch and meeting people for the very first time.

Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

All three of you will have to communicate open and honestly about what you want and what you need. You’ll all need to have an understanding of what your relationship is and what it isn’t. You’ll have to negotiate the specifics of what works and what doesn’t so that you’re all comfortable.