I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can always say thank you. That's good manners. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more creative ways to show how appreciative you are to your Dominant?
Being thankful can take on many forms, and each time we feel that sensation of gratitude well up we can use a different display of appreciation. For example, thanking your Dominant for giving you an orgasm will be treated differently than if you are grateful that they hold the power in your submissive life. Orgasm gratitude is usually expressed immediately after while you may take a while to express your feelings for the later.
I'd like you to take a moment and come up with some things you are grateful in your life that you may not have had before you were in a relationship with your Dominant. How important are they to your development and your overall happiness? When was the last time you showed your appreciation for these things? Is it about time you did?
So, what ideas do you have for expressing yourself? They can be simple or elaborate, as long as they are your own. Make it honest and full of your service.
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The first idea is to offer a service that you don't normally do. It does not have to be sexual. Give a massage, bathe their feet, sexual service that you don't pine after (for me that's analingus). Be a footstool, be their tax preparer, fetch and carry for the day. Anything that would just make their day and surprises them would fit the bill. Just remember to make it a part of yourself. Offering to pay for them to attend a salon is not the same thing, as offering yourself for a day of pampering.
This idea isn't about making something but setting a mood. If you know your Dominant is going to coming home from a stressful day, a change would be as simple as turning the lights down and maybe lighting candles to help them relax and shed the outside world. Making sure the home is picked up and inviting can bring a lot of emotion attached to it. It not only shows that you care for the household possessions but also how it makes people feel when they enter.
You can also create an atmosphere appropriate for whatever may be planned. If play is on the menu, then neatly prepare your play space. If dinner is the order of the day, setting the table as if you are in a fine restaurant can show your appreciation for a number of things.
Take an idea from online for a ritual that you don't do. Perhaps it can be kneeling and then lower your face to the floor in submission or kneel when you bring their drink. Adding that bit of focused attention is a pleasant surprise to a Dominant and shows them that you care for how you present your submission. There is any number of things you can do in this vein. From a specific way you disrobe, to how you reply to requests in a set format. It's not just up to the Dominant to add ritual and intensity to the relationship. Volunteering these simple steps will tell them that you thank them for the opportunity to serve them.
Sure it's quite easy to go to the store and purchase something for them, but when was the last time you made something for them? You don't have to learn anything or have specific skills. Make a special dinner or dessert, write a card or poem, put together a photo album or mosaic. Something homemade has more meaning than a purchased item.
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Ideally, rededication should only be done if you are really ready to deepen your relationship or there has been a lapse in the dynamic that you wish to try to repair. The ritual that this involves can vary from simple to elaborate so let your mind develop what would work for you. Even just setting aside time to talk about how you wish to submit and offering that over voluntarily expresses how you love the relationship and what they do for you. Again, you don't have to wait for the Dominant to tell you to create a ritual or process for doing something. I've gained so many rituals just by starting it and having him say he really likes it.
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If you have gotten lazy in your rules, start really digging in and doing them before you get in trouble. Don't let their distraction sway you. You want to serve, that's why you are in this relationship so serve. Your submission just might deepen their Dominance and the rededication can you an exchange, just as it should be.
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Lastly, remember to say thank you when you do these things. Make it about them. We take too much for granted anymore. Don't let your relationship become one of those things. Relationships build because we work at them, show how much you appreciate everything they do and you will also reap the rewards.