Solo-Coaching - Three Types of Values and How to Figure Out What’s Significant to Your Life

Today we’re going to talk about your values. These are the things that create a priority in your life, from what you believe in, to what causes you’ll fight for, your political leanings and how you feel about various causes you support. Values help you navigate your life and fine-tune the direction for where you’re headed.

The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

It's not my intention to scare you or convince you that you shouldn't have a safeword. but don't ever expect your safeword to protect you. You can not have safewords without trust.

Honest Communication or Bust

"Full transparency" isn't just something we bat around on BDSM forums. And it's not necessarily something exclusive to the master/slave or owner/property dynamics. It's actually sort of important in any relationship, regardless of dynamic, or lack thereof. It is the key to "making it work". And it's best to start in the beginning.

I didn't start until what was almost the end. I wasted the first six years of our relationship telling him what I thought he wanted to hear. I thought it was my duty. My responsibility as property.

Deceptive Submissive - The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

Bogus submissives have only their own self-interest in mind; they manipulate others and take advantage of them for their own agenda. They cause just as much emotional damage as bogus Masters. They are a special breed of sexual predator.

The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

Submission definitely isn't easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife challenge you to continue your submission.

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

There’s a downright ugly side to it, especially when the slave has been ‘alone’ for a long period of time. That has been my situation. Whew… Breathe with me, for I’m about to share some things that people either don’t think really happens or are afraid to admit to happening …

When Kids Find Your Sex Toys - A Story

In this lifestyle, if you are living it, you take your chances with kids seeing or sensing things. And you learn to be careful and private too. But prepare yourself for the possibility of being outed. It can happen no matter how careful you are.

An Accidental Outing: Encountering Other Kinky People in Your Vanilla Life

The key is making sure that your newfound friends understand your comfort level at being identified as a kinkster. If you get that out into the open from the start, you’ll be fine!

Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

You want to explore kink but are afraid to talk about it because of past triggers. There is help.