How Rituals Can Enhance Your BDSM Scenes

Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities.

Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness

One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation is also something that can go neglected in your everyday and work life so that learning it requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus and attention. It's so worth it.

Diffuse Extreme Mood Swings Before They Get You In Trouble

How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”?

Being With an Older Dominant

When entering into any relationship its important to maybe think about where things might go and what direction you want your life to go in . Sometimes though, you just can't help who you end up falling for and being enslaved to. If that happens, you need to weigh up your feelings and work out for yourselves what direction to go in.

How a Personal Protocol Can Aide Your Service

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

To open a dialog, communicate with your partner to understand what potential there may be, if any, for BDSM to be included in your relationship.

Finding My Submissive Focus With a Mantra

If you think that a personal mantra would be a great way to help you keep yourself in the proper submissive mindset, I encourage you to speak with your owner to come up with one that works for you.

Note To Self: Selfish Pride Comes Before A Fall

Pride is a slippery emotion that I believe many a slave deal with, even if we don’t recognize it

Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Things you can do to feel closer to your Dominant and help fuel the connection you have when they can not be with you.

How to Ask for More BDSM Playtime

Once you open up to allowing yourself to ask for what you want you will find so many more doors open for you.