In this BDSM Glossary series I help you understand some of the common and less common words and phrases used throughout the BDSM community.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarAt least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. Here are some of the questions and answers I generally give these persons.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarIt's funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for "chemistry" as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He simply doesn't exist either in the Vanilla world or in the lifestyle. Most Doms I know have regular lives to live and when their backside itches they scratch it. They fart when they eat beans and burp when they drink a beer. They wake up with bags under their eyes and a 5 o'clock shadow just exactly like their vanilla counterparts. But here we are hoping like crazy that he will forever and ever look like a hottie in leathers while always having a desire to flog our submissive little behinds.
Read The Article | Find SimilarLet's cover what a safe environment looks like from the people present at the physical location you choose to talk in. A good environment takes planning and mutual agreements to work the way it's supposed to. And you thought that you just had to say, "We need to talk," right?
Read The Article | Find SimilarDescribe who you might submit to and how.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMany submissive men have fantasies which have been developed over many years, sometimes leading to a focus on extreme and/or specific situations despite not having experienced anything. This may lead to misunderstandings with potential partners between fantasies and actual desires as the sub man may not even be able to recognize the difference at first.
Read The Article | Find SimilarJust because your partner got a little kinky that one time during sex does not mean they have a kinky bone in their body.
Read The Article | Find SimilarMy first dates ran the gamut of things you can do and should do and definitely should not do. I do hope that my suggestions and advice will give you some ideas and a solid foundation to start from.
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