Why did we get stuck on sting and thud as the only two possibilities to describe what we like in pain play anyway? I don’t think we’ve expanded the types of play activities that much in recent years to not know of other sensations than stingy and thuddy to describe them.
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Ever wanted to attend a convention where kink is the focus? Well, you can! BDSM conventions happen all over the world and it’s likely there’s one not too far from you! Let’s find out happens at one.
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In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is about the BDSM Switch. Do you have a term you'd like defined? Let me know.
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The submissive mindset is the inner joy that manifests in many ways for each person. When someone says they have to be in the submissive mindset it means they have to feel a connection with what they are doing and the bliss of service and submission. But for many it’s hard to maintain or achieve in the first place! Let’s dive into the sticky details.
Read The Series | Find SimilarTopping from the bottom is a misunderstood term in BDSM, especially if you are a novice. Topping from the bottom is when you simultaneously adopt both roles. This could be in the form of giving commands, refusing requests or moving to control the location of impacts during play. Generally, it is frowned upon to try to force the Dominant’s hand to do something they do not wish to do.
Read The Series | Find SimilarSubmissive Positions are talked about all over like everyone is supposed to be doing them or something. Not every relationship is set up to provide that level of protocol and you should never expect a relationship to automatically have that. If you are interested in positions, ask your partner or prospective partner if they’d be interested before you go learning any. They may have preferences to how you should look and act. Following them is by far more important than learning about positions online (unless that is their direction).
Read The Series | Find SimilarI'm teaching you today is how you can try to reach subspace. No matter how hard it is for you in the past there is a way for you to experience some or all of what subspace has to offer.
Watch The Video | Find SimilarWhat a submissive can learn from this book is how a Dominant uses power and control to give them what they need. After all, many of us are control-sensitive submissives and derives pleasure and satisfaction from this type of relationship.
Read The Review | Find SimilarMany of the BDSM activities we may engage in are inherently sexual in nature, even if no sex actually occurs. Being aware and using safe sex barriers when necessary is your protection from disease and infection. I'm amazed by casual play partners that don't employ these simple techniques to protect themselves and future partners. But even monogamous relationships might use safe sex barriers to prevent pregnancy and for ease of clean up.
Read The Article | Find SimilarYou will find these annoyances everywhere; anything outside of the relationship that causes undue tension within a pairing, they can be vanilla or lifestyle, major or minor issues, overt or subtle.
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