For a novice submissive exploring SM, a checklist can open up a world of fantasies or scare you right back into your light kink and rough sex. Checklists are not meant to scare you or overwhelm you, but I've seen lists that are more like lists of all sorts of rare fetishes and extreme play that only a few ever explore. Why you would want or need that on a novice checklist is beyond me.
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Watch The Video | Find SimilarHaving kids can be a challenge in this lifestyle but I do recommend being honest with them at some point in their life. They deserve to come to this knowledge just as much as other things in this life. What they choose to do with said knowledge should be up to them.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarWhen you are brand new to anything related to BDSM it is likely that you will not know many of your limits and that's okay. Make sure you are prepared to share that information if you want to play, but also to stop as soon as you think you've reached a limit.
Read The Article | Find SimilarKnowing where to start can be difficult when you don't know a whole lot about BDSM.
Read The Article | Find SimilarPerhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much.
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Read The Article | Find SimilarBreaking up is traumatic and should be managed like grief and loss. It can't be rushed and everyone deals with it differently. But as long as you have patience you can help your partner make it out the other side.
Read The Article | Find SimilarBe realistic with yourself about what you are offering, but when you are new to Kink and Polyamory there's a lot of conversation that needs to happen. Here's what you should discuss.
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