Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

Online D/s is perhaps one of the most controversial subjects in the Dominance and submission community. The stance i will take on this subject, based on online D/s relationships of my own, is that yes; it can and does work. Is it anything like real time, face-to-face Dominance and submission relationships? No, not at all. That said, it is still very real and intense for those of us in online or Long Distance Relationships (LDR), and often can and will lead to a real-time (RT) relationship.

Why The Prince Charming Dominant Doesn't Exist

It's funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for "chemistry" as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, He simply doesn't exist either in the Vanilla world or in the lifestyle. Most Doms I know have regular lives to live and when their backside itches they scratch it. They fart when they eat beans and burp when they drink a beer. They wake up with bags under their eyes and a 5 o'clock shadow just exactly like their vanilla counterparts. But here we are hoping like crazy that he will forever and ever look like a hottie in leathers while always having a desire to flog our submissive little behinds.

What to Do When Your Dominant is Not Emotionally Available

It is possible that emotional availability is not the problem at all -- it's just plain availability. All of us have busy lives these days.

Submissive Advent - Day 16: Prayer

A Submissive's Prayer

Author Unknown

Allow me the strength to answer questions I can't fathom. Allow me the spirit to know His needs. Allow me the kindness to choke back retorts. Allow me the serenity to serve Him in peace.

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all & is under quite a bit of self-imposed, weight. I have my own room, which I love. However, I feel so lonely, neglected, etc. What can I do? He says I am impertinent, impetuous, & insolent. Yet, I feel like He wants me to Dom myself. I hope you can help.

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

There’s a downright ugly side to it, especially when the slave has been ‘alone’ for a long period of time. That has been my situation. Whew… Breathe with me, for I’m about to share some things that people either don’t think really happens or are afraid to admit to happening …

Back Off Bitches! Feeling Territorial and Jealousy as a Slave

There’s nothing cute at all in being a territorial/jealous slave. That’s a fact. Yet, so many suffer from this affliction – sounds dramatic, but truly it’s definitely fitting.

How To Understand The Grief Process for a Dominant Who Passed Away

Your grief will take as long as it takes. Here are the five steps to the grief process and further support for grieving and loss.

Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn't Agree To

My Dominant is constantly changing the rules of the relationship and I don't agree with them. I love him and don't want to give him up but I am starting to question if he ever really loved me at all?

Uprooting Self-Sabotaging Behaviors: Learning How to Make Changes that Stick

After so many years of living a certain way under repeated cycles of self-sabotage, can one make changes? Is it possible to unlearn more destructive habits and learn how to implement thinking and behavior that will instead nurture a budding or existing relationship? Yes!