How to Choose the Right BDSM Collar

If you’ve ever bought a collar or necklace online because the picture was beautiful only to hate it once you put it on, you’re not alone. When we say we can help you find the “right” BDSM collar -- we mean the right one for you.

Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

Online D/s is perhaps one of the most controversial subjects in the Dominance and submission community. The stance i will take on this subject, based on online D/s relationships of my own, is that yes; it can and does work. Is it anything like real time, face-to-face Dominance and submission relationships? No, not at all. That said, it is still very real and intense for those of us in online or Long Distance Relationships (LDR), and often can and will lead to a real-time (RT) relationship.

3 Ways You Can Be Emotionally Supportive of Your Dominant

While good dominants generally are tremendously supportive and create a foundation upon which their submissives can thrive, it is not counter to the dominant role for a dominant to be supported when they need it. Dominants do a lot for us. They deserve support, too.

Don’t Let Your Big Goals Intimidate You: Break Them Into Smaller Steps

We’re inspired to accomplish something, but before we can do the work, we need to break it down into smaller actionable steps. Tiny pieces of steps that we can easily understand and accomplish. It’s far easier to manage a bigger goal when it’s broken down into manageable bite-sized pieces than one that isn’t.

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

Many of the things we do when it comes to BDSM and D/s relationships seem to come faster than in a traditional relationship, so often we forget that the base of a D/s relationship is a traditional one. You are still two people that plan to cohabitate. With that comes decisions and plans, change and adjustment periods.

In the first list of tips, I want to give I'm going to cover the more basic 'vanilla' ideas that will make your submissive more comfortable as they move into your home. The second list is BDSM based tips that will hopefully start your relationship on a good footing now that you are living under the same roof.

Does Online Submissive Training Work?

Yes, online training can work if you both are honest with each other and trust that you will only get out of it what you put in.

Kneeling Feels Absurd, How Do I Get Over It?

I find it utterly ridiculous to get on my knees and kneel in the middle of his bedroom every time we enter it. It's awkward and uncomfortable. How do I get over this mindset?

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

When you’re a parent, the switch between roles is more frequent and more exhausting. It’s important to realize, though, that it’s normal, and with a few tips and tricks, you can handle the transitions between submissive life and parenting life.

Teased With No Relief: How to Address Orgasm Denial Because Dominant Gets Too Busy and Forgets

How do you cope with sexual frustration? Kayla helps you figure out what you should do when you have been teased and then left high and dry when your partner gets too busy.