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Lessons in Submissive Speech

Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other people speak the same way in situations that call for it, like in front of a judge or to the president for instance.But I still get questions about how a submissive is supposed to say x, y and z so I thought that I’d do my best to convey what I think would work in a variety of circumstances so that if the occasion arises that you need to “speak submissively” you’ll have something you can say.

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Simply Service e-Zine

One of the hidden jewels on this site is an e-Zine that ran on Yahoo Groups back when I first started exploring submission. It has since stopped production but the articles it contained are still valuable and worth a read so I thought I ‘d bring them back to the forefront. They’ve been archived here with the editor’s permission since the site was first created but I don’t think many of you know just how wonderful they are. I encourage you to check them out!

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Using Contracts in D/s Relationships

A contract is not a legally binding document, but more of an agreement between two consenting individuals. Some are very formal and have multiple pages, others are as brief as a few paragraphs. A D/s contract is a lot like a pre-nuptial agreement.

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Letting Go of the Bank Account - Submitting to Financial Control

Personally, I am not a very organized person and on top of that I'm lousy with numbers, always was, even in elementary school. If my check book was ever going to be balanced accordingly, someone else was just going to have to do it! Fortunately for my check book and I, my Dominant is better organized and more patient with a calculator, and even more fortunate for us he's very good at it.

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Dealing With Anger As a Submissive

Everyone handles anger and frustration differently, but I think most would agree that the best way to deal with anger is to cool off before saying or doing something you will regret later on.

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How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

Are there some suggested rules or a protocol for a slave to engage in conversation at a dungeon?

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An Accidental Outing: Encountering Other Kinky People in Your Vanilla Life

The key is making sure that your newfound friends understand your comfort level at being identified as a kinkster. If you get that out into the open from the start, you’ll be fine!

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Entering the Community: Understanding and Following General Protocols in Public

Low and high protocol events require different rules and behaviors. Here's how you navigate them, they aren't as scary as you think!

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Sample Consensual "Slavery" Contract

A simple sample contract you can use to create your own.

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Things Have Changed and I Feel Insecure In My Relationship

Advice for a submissive who is feeling lost and insecure in their relationship when the sex life changes. Kayla tackles this really difficult topic.

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