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Madison Lei

Madison Lei has been an enthusiastic participant in BDSM for almost 10 years. She has always held a particular interest in power exchange. Now, a full-time slave in an M/s relationship, she enjoys helping others find joy in their submission and fulfillment in their relationships.

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10 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Dynamic in Isolation with Your Dominant

While many of us will feel guilty when we need time away from our dominants, there is no question that it is productive and therapeutic. If you're stuck in self-isolation, having coping mechanisms to help you through the "total togetherness" can be a big help!

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3 Reasons a "Perpetual Student" Mindset Is Vital to Kink

Keeping the mindset of a "perpetual student" ensures we are open to the gifts education has to offer to our community and us. Here's why maintaining a "perpetual student" outlook is so important to kink, both in our personal lives and in the community.

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3 Ways You Can Be Emotionally Supportive of Your Dominant

While good dominants generally are tremendously supportive and create a foundation upon which their submissives can thrive, it is not counter to the dominant role for a dominant to be supported when they need it. Dominants do a lot for us. They deserve support, too.

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5 Tips for Coping with Your Jealousy in a D/s Dynamic

Whether you’re in a D/s dynamic that’s open to new play partners, or you’re in a polyamorous relationship, jealousy can be a challenge. If it’s causing snags in your relationships (and even before it does), coping with jealousy can be a useful skill to learn. These five tips will have you well on your way.

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6 Qualities of Mindful Submission When Communicating With Our Partners

Communication is not the sexiest word a submissive can utter, but it’s one of the most necessary. Whether we like it or not, it is squarely our responsibility to communicate those needs to the dominants who care for us.

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Emotional Moderation in Submission: Choose Your Emotions Wisely

As submissives, we are expected to express a modicum of restraint, most often in regards to our words and actions. Frequently, we do this to align ourselves with the expectations of the dominants who care for us. I propose that while it is admirable to used restraint and moderation in our words and actions, it is even more important to exercise moderation in our thoughts and feelings.

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Exploring Service Motivations: How a Mocktail Made Me Service-Oriented

It is so meaningful—so personal. It is intimate in a way we don’t ordinarily associate with intimacy. Platonic service can be boldly intimate, in a beautiful and profound way.

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How To Perform a Self-Assessment Before You Search For a Dominant Partner

It's good to start forming an idea of who you are and what you are looking for before you start searching for a Dominant

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Learn to Accept Your Limitations: A Personal Lesson on Teamwork In The Dynamic

Having flaws doesn't make you a bad slave or submissive. Being aware of your limitations and accepting them is a strength and can give you a huge advantage and even prevent you from making mistakes down the line.

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My First Anticipatory Service and 3 Lessons It Taught Me

In essence, anticipatory service is about being able to see patterns in the procedure, and it can be difficult to track patterns across a wide array of your Dominant’s vocational, recreational, and habitual tendencies. If you have just one aspect to focus on it, increases your ability to observe and retain their pattern of doing things in that area so you can help them through their day efficiently with anticipatory service.

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