The Abuse Debate: A Matter of Acceptance Not Consent

The Abuse Debate: A Matter of Acceptance Not Consent

By Guest Author on September 3, 2010

This is a guest post by Darkrose. BDSM relationships make the argument on abuse much more complicated than it already is, and those in TPE relationship have an even harder time than that. For non-kinky people its pretty easy to define abuse. Webster’s Dictionary defines abuse as “improper use or handling, misuse, physical maltreatment,insulting or [...]

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Submissive Chat Night – Free Chat

Submissive Chat Night – Free Chat

By lunaKM on September 2, 2010

It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday 9/7  for a bit of conversation. The topic is going to be free chat. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships. Info When: 9/7/10 8 PM CST [...]

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Submitting to Pain

Submitting to Pain

By nan {SL} on September 1, 2010

BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]

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Review: Domestic Discipline

Review: Domestic Discipline

By lunaKM on August 30, 2010

This month’s book review is about a different form of relationship structure than the traditional D/s that you read about on practically every site and book you browse. Domestic Discipline by Jules Markham is about creating harmony in your relationship through the use of consensual discipline. The basic form of discipline preferred by Domestic Discipline (DD) [...]

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Using Contracts in D/s Relationships

By lunaKM on August 27, 2010

Contracts are a sticky subject in discussions. I’ve briefly covered it before in this article. The opinions are all over the place as far as their value or use as a tool for relationships. I can understand why they are a common thread in forums all over the place. A contract is a physical document outlining the [...]

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The Female of the Species

The Female of the Species

By thisgirl on August 23, 2010

I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first  signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]

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Friday Favorites from Submissive Viewpoints

Friday Favorites from Submissive Viewpoints

By lunaKM on August 20, 2010

Every so often I find some wonderful blog posts that speak to the varying differences submissives have. Today I want to showcase a few of the more recent selections with you. Please go read the post and comment; letting them know where you came from! You might make a new submissive connection. a submissive musings [...]

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Kink and Mental Health: The Background

Kink and Mental Health: The Background

By Rayne on July 23, 2010

There’s a lot of debate, in our kinky little corner of the worldwide web, about kinky people who have mental health issues.  What kinds of problems they cause, how to keep them from destroying the mood in kinky venues, whether or not D/s (and the structure that often comes with it) can help a person [...]

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Serving after Abuse

Serving after Abuse

By SehAnru on July 19, 2010

Having been in the lifestyle for almost two years now, one of the things that I have noticed is that I am facing a lot of issues due to abuse from my past. Not from any Dominant in the lifestyle, just from others in my past. I’ve learned enough that if you have similar past [...]

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The Wife vs The Slave

The Wife vs The Slave

By Guest Author on June 16, 2010

This is a guest post by Jim’s {Beth}. Alternative lifestyles make some people nervous. Others believe that anyone who lives such a lifestyle must be sick, crazy, unbalanced, twisted, perverted, or even masochistic. Living a lifestyle choice such as Dominance/submission (D/s), Master/slave (M/s)—both can be considered as All or Total Power Exchange relationships (APE/TPE)— is [...]

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A Feminist Submissive?

A Feminist Submissive?

By nan {SL} on June 14, 2010

In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a [...]

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Theories of Feminism and Submission

Theories of Feminism and Submission

By nan {SL} on June 11, 2010

I have spent much time pondering the seemingly conflicting views of feminism and submission. In the first part of my article, I would like to discuss feminism and how it fits in with my view of both the BDSM community and submission. In the second part, I will explore how I practice feminism in my [...]

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