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Submitting While One of You is Sick

Submitting While One of You is Sick

Maintaining your role as a sub in the middle of a scene is pretty easy to do, but the conversion from situational submissive to full-time sub can present a number of fairly interesting challenges as you settle into your full-time role. One of the strangest full time submitting challenges that I’ve found is dealing with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
The Importance of Being Authentic

The Importance of Being Authentic

I haven’t really written much lately. It’s been a part lack of motivation and part lack of inspiration. I’ve had a few ideas, but nothing that really convinced me that I need to actually put down any words. But then the Universe hit me with a really big stick. A couple of months ago, I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
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To Be or Not To Be – Poly, Mono, Mono-Poly Flexible

At some point in our community participation we will come face to face with the question of poly vs. monogamy. Even if it’s a fleeting thought of wondering if either is better for our personal relationships, we’re still confronted with the possibility. I think that even in examining the possibility it can force us to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Submissive Guide – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Ask Submissive Guide – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Hello SG, I’m struggling with a problem that has been following me for quite some time now. My Dominant and I have been through hell and high water, involving ‘light’ cheating (sexting each other, meeting up, but did not have sex) while I was away on holiday with family. This was almost a year ago. [...]

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

Ask a new parent, kinky or not, about their sex life, and they’ll probably say, “What sex life?” When you’re only getting a couple hours of sleep at a time or feeding a baby around the clock, sex is usually the last thing on your mind. While D/s relationships tend to have more communication about [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: When Kids Ask Awkward Questions

BDSM and Kids: When Kids Ask Awkward Questions

With kids, it’s inevitable that they’re going to ask questions that make you want to curl up into a ball, cover your ears, and sing, “La-la-la, I can’t hear you!” This isn’t a kink thing, it’s a parent thing. However, as a kinkster, there’s a chance that, eventually, they’ll see or hear something and ask [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

When someone asks me how it’s possible to be kinky when you have kids, I know they’re imagining that it must be difficult to have a scene, enjoy kinky sex, or do anything remotely kinky as a parent. It’s not impossible to get kinky, but it requires creativity and discipline. It also depends on how [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

As a submissive who has to interact with the outside world whether that’s work, family, or going to the grocery store, you already know that it can be hard to switch back and forth between roles and expectations. Frankly, after a long week of being my vanilla self, I’m exhausted, cranky, and usually feeling not-so-submissive. [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

When I talk about my life as a kinkster, I talk about being a parent of two kids. It shocks a lot of people to know I’m in a 24/7 D/s relationship and a parent. A lot of people ask, “How can you be a parent and a submissive?” I always imagine there’s a bit [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

Today I’m sharing with you all the information I know about D/s contracts, from the whys and hows to the minute details of what happens once it’s signed. I also include an example contract for you to customize your own. Download it Now!

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Submissive Guide: How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

Ask Submissive Guide: How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

Hi SG, I’m relatively experienced when it comes to submission. I’ve submitted in play to a number of delightful Dommes and pushed my boundaries nicely over the years.  I’ve never had a long term D’s relationship, though. I’m just entering into a relationship with a lady who is highly sexed and thoroughly enjoying the power. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Book Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships

Ever since reading Real Service by Raven Kaldera, I’ve been strongly drawn to read more books by him. He’s phenomenal and knows what he’s talking about. I have recommended his books numerous times to others. He’s written about so many various topics, there’s something out there for everyone. Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Relationships, Views & More...

[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

In the previous video about rules I talked about how to set up rules in an D/s or M/s relationship and the incorporating them into your relaxed or structured dynamic. Check out the previous video post if you missed it. Today I want to talk abut after rules are selected and you are practicing them [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-11-16 At the end of May, KnyghtMare’s long-term girlfriend broke up with him suddenly. He said he had no idea it was coming so it hit him really hard. I know that any time someone you love ends the relationship you go through a period of grief and loss and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
[Freebie] 11 Questions to Ask Your Partner Who Just Came Out Kinky

[Freebie] 11 Questions to Ask Your Partner Who Just Came Out Kinky

Here’s the next free download! This freebie is for the vanilla partner that has just been told that their partner would like to explore something in the realm of BDSM or D/s and aren’t sure what to ask to get the answers you need to make an educated decision about your own interests. I worked [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. Such a Dominant may be considered to have prowess, charisma, [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

A couple years ago, the MR and I decided to renew our wedding vows. We had been through a rocky start to our marriage and had transformed since originally marrying from a vanilla, egalitarian relationship to a kinky, Dominant and submissive one, and finally we had arrived at Master and slave. We felt at home [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 05-14-16 We spend a lot of time in front of a screen these days. We chat, we shop, we explore and we date, all from the comfort of our homes. But, it is my opinion, that dating is something that really should be done face to face. Yeah, I know, [...]

Fear in Submission

Fear in Submission

I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth, Relationships
The Art of Apology: Receiving an apology when you don’t think one is necessary

The Art of Apology: Receiving an apology when you don’t think one is necessary

Maybe you know a frequent apologizer, or maybe you’ve been surprised, but at some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you, “Hey, I’m sorry!” and your immediate response was, “What on earth are you apologizing for?” If you’re like me, and you completely lack a brain-to-mouth filter, your reaction probably came tumbling [...]

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
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