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You Are Not Your Collar – Submissive Meditation Monday

You Are Not Your Collar – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Don’t lose yourself [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Sample Consensual “Slavery” Contract

Sample Consensual “Slavery” Contract

Author Unknown NOTE: It should go without saying that a “contract” such as this is not legally binding. Documents such as these are intended only to provide a fantasy environment for extended role-playing or to establish a D/s or M/s relationship. They are also not obligatory and one should not expect to have to sign [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/29/15 What ARE you expected to do and know as a submissive? Well, for many who are just starting out, the answer really is not much. But that’s not the kind of answer you accept out of me, right? There’s more to it, isn’t there? Of course there always is, [...]

5 Myths About Dominants

5 Myths About Dominants

For the record, I am not a Dominant (and I don’t play one on TV) but I love a Dominant man, and I have learned a lot about him in our time together. There are plenty of misconceptions about BDSM, and Dominants are no exception. There’s no such thing as a perfect Dominant or a [...]

4 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
Ethical BDSM Falls on Both Sides of the Slash

Ethical BDSM Falls on Both Sides of the Slash

A few months ago, there was a thread started on Fetlife about ethical BDSM and it really caught my attention so I had to check it out. At this time there were only a handful of comments and every one of these comments had said something pertaining to the dominant being responsible for the relationship [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Views & More...
Ask Submissive Guide: New Relationships and Body Image

Ask Submissive Guide: New Relationships and Body Image

Thank you Mrs. Darling for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, I’m hoping you can offer some advice to a newbie.  I’ve met a Dom online, we had a first date (just lunch) and will be meeting again shortly to negotiate a contract. I have never ever done this before.  I’m overweight and over [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
D/s with Family Around

D/s with Family Around

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much. By choosing to live within the D/s or BDSM lifestyle [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships
Ask Submissive Guide – Taking Care of Your Dominant from a Distance

Ask Submissive Guide – Taking Care of Your Dominant from a Distance

Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question for a reader! Dear lunaKM, I’m starting to enter a long distance d/s relationship as a sub. You have a lot of excellent articles about self aftercare for subs in ldrs, which I’ve made good use of, but I’m wondering if you have any advice for how [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Book Review: BDSM Mastery-Relationships by Robert Rubel and M. Jen Fairfield

Book Review: BDSM Mastery-Relationships by Robert Rubel and M. Jen Fairfield

I have wanted to read something by Dr. Robert Rubel for some time now. I have heard from various sources around the internet, especially after hearing his interview on Dan and dawn’s Erotic Awakening podcast and then reading lunaKM’s book review of BDSM Mastery-Your Guide to Play, Parties, and Scene Protocols. So, I picked up [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Reviews
Ask Submissive Guide: Narcissistic Dominants

Ask Submissive Guide: Narcissistic Dominants

Thank you Mrs. Darling for tackling this question!   Dear Submissive Guide, Are most dominant men narcissistic  as well?   As  a wife and submissive to a Dominant sadist (one who is very *ahem* demanding) this question certainly made me titter when I first read it. The more I turned it over in my mind [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
DIY Your Valentine’s Day

DIY Your Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. I know it’s still the beginning of January, but we all know how fast time flies and before we know it, February will be here and that’s when the clock really starts ticking. So, it’s never too early to plan ahead (says the girl who was finished with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Opening the relationship when it’s already rocky

Ask lunaKM – Opening the relationship when it’s already rocky

Hello, my partner is submissive, and I am vanilla. We have be together for close to 2 years, but have known each other for much longer. Our relationship has been rocky for some time now, and I have recently agreed to letting my partner fulfill her needs. Although we have agreed to work fiercely on [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Polyamorous Resources From Around the Web

Polyamorous Resources From Around the Web

Every once and awhile, I get a message from a friend on Facebook or a reader asking me about polyamory resources since they know I’m in a polyamorous relationship. My usual response is give me a few days and I’ll get back to them after I go through my bookmarks so, I thought it would [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships, Research Pages
Coping with Release: The End of the Relationship

Coping with Release: The End of the Relationship

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/25/15 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Relationships end. Sometimes through the willful choice of both partners, other times one may ask for or be released. In either case the ending of a relationship [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Transitioning From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy

Transitioning From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy

This is written as a bode of encouragement to those who are struggling in moving from a monogamous relationship to a non-monogamous one. This is not my saying non-monogamy is the only way, or should be your way. This is not in any way to be read as implying negativity towards monogamy. This is also [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

Ask lunaKM – Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

Dear lunaKM, In a nutshell, my question is, how do I know if my masochistic tendencies come from a safe place? My Dom and I have both struggled with mental illness , and as such he has never felt comfortable with anything rougher than biting or hair pulling. However, we have never really talked about [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

No matter what we want to believe or how we choose to behave, relationships are the same, whether you’re kinky or vanilla. People are still people with all of the same hopes, dreams, flaws, and beauty; kink is irrelevant. For those of you, like me, in long-term D/s relationships, or for those searching for your [...]

5 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
Where All The Dominants Are and How to Find Them

Where All The Dominants Are and How to Find Them

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8-8-15 Finding a partner is hard. We all know that dating is difficult in the best of times and adding in D/s or BDSM needs or desires just makes it harder still. But there are people out there and they are looking for you! Hopefully I’ve put together all the [...]

Book Review: Transforming Your Relationship: A Comprehensive Look into the Domestic Discipline Lifestyle by Clint and Chelsea

Book Review: Transforming Your Relationship: A Comprehensive Look into the Domestic Discipline Lifestyle by Clint and Chelsea

Transforming Your Relationship is by Clint and Chelsea, the couple who runs the blog Learning Domestic Discipline. They introduced the domestic discipline(DD) dynamic into their relationship back in 2008 and because there are so few resources out there for the dynamic, they began their blog in 2011 to help others who are interested in the DD dynamic. [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Reviews
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