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How Far Should You Go On a First Date?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/6/14 When I was a novice submissive I was single and searching for a Dominant to be my playmate, my partner and my lover. I explored all the places online that existed at the time, many that do not exist now or have been replaced by better sites. I was, in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – What are you punished for?

Ask lunaKM – What are you punished for?

Ok, I know this sounds like a silly question but I wanted to know what other submissives out there are being punished for. I have been a sexual submissive for three years now and my Dom and I are slowly bringing our dynamic out of the bedroom. I have read a lot of articles about [...]

21 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Stress and Santa: Managing Stressful Situations Around the Holidays

Stress and Santa: Managing Stressful Situations Around the Holidays

The Holidays are coming, and they are coming up fast. I always feel like the entire month of November goes by in a blur. One moment we are donning our sexy cat costumes for Halloween and the next moment there are stockings on the mantle and children awaiting Santa. There is definitely a time warp [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Social Norms
How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

How to Keep a Cool Head When You Get Angry With Your Dominant

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/23/14 I know what you are thinking when reading the title. How can a submissive get mad at their Dominant? Isn’t a relationship built on trust and communication going to run smoother than one that isn’t? That’s not a very good submissive behavior! No, probably not, but it is a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Submission in Gratitude

Submission in Gratitude

Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada is a weekend for celebrating the good we have in our lives and sharing it with those who are close to us. There is so much to be thankful for and this year, as I look back, I see the amazing abundance that comes to us in various ways, but [...]

1 comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset, Relationships
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because, it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Relationships
A Symbol for Dominants?

A Symbol for Dominants?

The collar you wear is a reminder of your submission and your relationship with your Dominant. It can mean the same as a wedding ring or that you are submissive to them for a certain period of time. More often than not, the Dominant is the one who gave you that collar. But is there [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart

Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart

This year, I was sent away for work for almost 3 months. That is a long time to be away from my Master! As the dates approached, I worried about the silly things – would He be able to come and visit? Would my roommate be nice? And ugh – a roommate! I knew it [...]

4 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – He Wants to “Just Be Friends” While Ex is Visiting

Ask lunaKM – He Wants to “Just Be Friends” While Ex is Visiting

Dear LunaKM, I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle. A little over a month ago, I met a man and started developing a relationship with him. We had many conversations that were about everyday topics and found we had things in common as well as sexual and D/s conversations. He became my Daddy and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How S&M Saved My Life

How S&M Saved My Life

Growing up my parents were extremely physically and emotionally abusive. I moved out when I was thirteen, but I carried the previous abuse with me wherever I went. It made me cry when I detected the slightest amount of anger towards me, it made me shake and pull away when people waved their hands at [...]

4 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-21-14 I wear a collar. I’ve worn a collar for 8 years. It’s been a long time since I’ve had to ponder the initial steps into receiving a collar and to be honest, I’m glad. It’s a lot easier once you have one to keep it than it is to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How To Recover from a Breakup

Ask lunaKM – How To Recover from a Breakup

Ms Luna, your guide has become my bible and I thank you for your writings. My first Dom/mentor/teacher and I have parted suddenly and unexpectedly. Since this is my first D/S relationship, what can I do to feel better about the raw unraveling and abandonment of feeling so alone? First, you are not alone. People [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones?

Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-7-14 I see it all the time on discussion boards and we talk about it at social gatherings. I’ve even thought it a time or two. D/s relationships are better than vanilla ones. We see them as deeper, more intimate, better at communication and meeting the individual’s needs as well [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen. As submissives, we sometimes face difficult circumstances with our Dominants. If you add being a submissive and being polyamorous into one dynamic, you just raised the bar. My Daddy has three other women that he has intimacies with. He must split his time evenly between all of us, [...]

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – What should I expect the first meeting?

Ask lunaKM – What should I expect the first meeting?

hello again, ive been talking with a DOM who is considering me for sub training. and wants me to go to him, what should i be expecting on the first face to face meet. ? wendylee Well, that’s a difficult question with a simple answer. You expect whatever the two of you negotiated would happen. I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

Ask lunaKM – Suggestions for a D/s Wedding Ceremony

Dear Annie:I am a submissive to my Master for about a year now.  We are engaged and I introduced him to the lifestyle immediatly.  We are planning on getting married October 3rd of this year. Since we have both been married before we are going to either elope or just go to the court house.  Here’s the [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

9 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Dear Annie, Well my question is quite simple. Im a submissive cross dresser from the UK, and have been dressing for many years now. One of the main reasons i dress is because I have a very strong submissive side, and many of the fetishes to go along with that. My question is simple, I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant?

Dear lunaKM, I would like some advice on how to tell my family and my children who are teenagers that I am commiting myself to my Dom.  I have been a single Mother for many years and live in a very rural area.  My Dom and I have been in a long distance relationship for [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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