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1950′s Kink: An Overview

1950′s Kink: An Overview

In 2014, a local kink community member contacted me to say she had heard about an author compiling essays regarding different styles of the M/s dynamic, suggesting I respond regarding our 1950′s relationship. I did, and what I discovered in the correspondence about the project was surprising. The author had told me that when setting out to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Book Review-Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Book Review-Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

I’m currently in a poly relationship and have been in several poly relationships in the past. Despite the numerous poly relationships I have been in, Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up is the first non fiction book that I have read about polyamorous relationships. This book has been on my reading list for quite some time and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Reviews

Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/23/15 Far too often I hear stories of submissives who are unhappy in their relationship because their partners don’t care about their orgasms or listen to their sexual needs. Some Dominants go as far as saying that they should get enjoyment out of being used, told they are topping from [...]

Ask lunaKM – Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad

Ask lunaKM – Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad

Do you have any advice for someone in a triad that is constantly feeling like a third wheel because the other female sub puts constant emphasis on being “wife” and legally married to the male dominant of the relationship? Saying we are equal to him, but her actions and words don’t back it up causing [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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How to Deal With the Question of Being Kinky and a Parent

Some of us live our D/s lives out in the open, letting family and friends know who and what we are – and dealing with any fallout from people who don’t understand the lifestyle. To you, I have much love and respect. I’m not there yet…and maybe I never will be. Others, like myself, keep [...]

3 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile

The Secrets to Writing a Successful BDSM Dating Profile

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/9/15 Using a dating site to find a partner that is interested in power exchange and BDSM is a difficult prospect. Many people abandon mainstream sites in hopes that kink social networks and other forums will provide them with a partner that is compatible and looking for the same kind [...]

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

It’s no secret that I’m an avid reader by all the book reviews that I’ve done for the site. A few months ago, I picked up a copy of Dark Secret Love by Alison Tyler. If you’ve not heard of it, think of it as a modern-day Story of O. Even though this is a [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Relationships
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M/s and When Life Happens: Unexpected Happenings

Over the past few months, my life has been a whirlwind of obligations, setbacks, injuries, working with an aging parent, and apparently an abundance of emails… ‘Life happened’ all over my perfectly scheduled routine and pristinely managed emotions. In the vanilla world ‘life’ is expected to happen – meaning, we expect the unexpected because that’s [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – I Feel Addicted to My Dominant

Ask lunaKM – I Feel Addicted to My Dominant

i was just wondering if it okay to feel almost addicted to your Dom? Like when my Dom is away for too long i feel sad and lonely, but if He is gone for a day or two i get really depressed not being able to be near Him. The feelings i have for Him [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Relationships
Eight Miles – Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships

Eight Miles – Looking For a Smooth Transition for Long Distance Relationships

We were conversing over Skype. It was late on her end and not so late on mine. We were talking about the distance between us, again. I’d just come back from seeing her in person for the first time, and we were sharing our surprise at how much we missed each other only days later. [...]

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
Learning To Be a 24/7 Submissive Is Like…

Learning To Be a 24/7 Submissive Is Like…

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/25/15 When I started learning about submission it had nothing to do with “lifestyle” or “relationships” or “24/7″. It was about feeding a desire. Sure, much of that was masochistic play but not all of it. So, when I met people and they were saying they were lifestyle submissives or [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

Jealousy and Mono/Poly Relationships

This is a guest post by Mina Button. She has written for Submissive Guide previously and you can find her writing here. When I first heard about the idea of mono/poly, a relationship in which one partner is monogamous and the other partner isn’t, I thought it could never possibly work.  Well, maybe it could [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Learning About Long Distance Relationships

Learning About Long Distance Relationships

from the 3/14/15 Submissive Guide Newsletter I admit that it’s been over a decade since I was in a long distance relationship, but I know that even with that thought, the complexities of a long distance relationship are still a common part of what I deal with on a daily basis in responding to emails [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Intro: Where were we again? It might be in poor taste to pick up where I left off after nearly a two-year hiatus from Submissive Guide, but I felt that long distance relationships was as appropriate as any to begin with, if not a little ironic. My Dominant and I are on the cusp of [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

This past winter I ran an educational event through the campus Women’s Center on BDSM in response to Fifty Shades of Grey. With the movie coming out I knew that people would be interested in the topic and consider trying it themselves and I wanted them to be safe about it. I covered the basics [...]

Two Bodies Revolving Around a Core: The Slow Dance of a BDSM Long-Distance Relationship

Two Bodies Revolving Around a Core: The Slow Dance of a BDSM Long-Distance Relationship

This is a guest post by Vikki Heaven. I realise I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve put my head on my lover’s chest and sobbed “but we’re in love, why can’t we just be together.” He soothes me and tells me that the mathematical improbability of us even finding each other makes our [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
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When Needs Change: How Communication Worked When My Partner Didn’t Want to Be Dominant Anymore

BDSM is all about mutual respect between dominant and submissive, master and slave. If there is a lack of respect in either direction things are likely to deteriorate quickly. Part of respect is understanding that your partner is entitled to their own needs, wants, and opinions and that these are aspects of your partner that [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
24/7: Long Term Relationships

24/7: Long Term Relationships

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Long Term Relationship. 24/7 simply means 24 hours a day – 7 days a week. Not so simply, it usually means the desire for lifetime commitment or a relationship with many or [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: The Warrior Princess Submissive by Michael Makai

Book Review: The Warrior Princess Submissive by Michael Makai

I have been wanting to read Michael Makai’s The Warrior Princess Submissive for a while. This is one of those books where the title totally caught my interest. I found myself thinking “Well, I’m submissive, I am definitely a princess, and who doesn’t want to be a warrior?” Not only did the title catch my [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships, Reviews
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Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community

I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
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