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Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-21-14 I wear a collar. I’ve worn a collar for 8 years. It’s been a long time since I’ve had to ponder the initial steps into receiving a collar and to be honest, I’m glad. It’s a lot easier once you have one to keep it than it is to [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How To Recover from a Breakup

Ask lunaKM – How To Recover from a Breakup

Ms Luna, your guide has become my bible and I thank you for your writings. My first Dom/mentor/teacher and I have parted suddenly and unexpectedly. Since this is my first D/S relationship, what can I do to feel better about the raw unraveling and abandonment of feeling so alone? First, you are not alone. People [...]

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Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones?

Are D/s Relationships Better than Vanilla Ones?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-7-14 I see it all the time on discussion boards and we talk about it at social gatherings. I’ve even thought it a time or two. D/s relationships are better than vanilla ones. We see them as deeper, more intimate, better at communication and meeting the individual’s needs as well [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

Taming the Green-Eyed Monster – Managing Jealousy in a Poly Family

This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen. As submissives, we sometimes face difficult circumstances with our Dominants. If you add being a submissive and being polyamorous into one dynamic, you just raised the bar. My Daddy has three other women that he has intimacies with. He must split his time evenly between all of us, [...]

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – What should I expect the first meeting?

Ask lunaKM – What should I expect the first meeting?

hello again, ive been talking with a DOM who is considering me for sub training. and wants me to go to him, what should i be expecting on the first face to face meet. ? wendylee Well, that’s a difficult question with a simple answer. You expect whatever the two of you negotiated would happen. I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

Ask lunaKM – Suggestions for a D/s Wedding Ceremony

Dear Annie:I am a submissive to my Master for about a year now.  We are engaged and I introduced him to the lifestyle immediatly.  We are planning on getting married October 3rd of this year. Since we have both been married before we are going to either elope or just go to the court house.  Here’s the [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Dear Annie, Well my question is quite simple. Im a submissive cross dresser from the UK, and have been dressing for many years now. One of the main reasons i dress is because I have a very strong submissive side, and many of the fetishes to go along with that. My question is simple, I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant?

Dear lunaKM, I would like some advice on how to tell my family and my children who are teenagers that I am commiting myself to my Dom.  I have been a single Mother for many years and live in a very rural area.  My Dom and I have been in a long distance relationship for [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How do you get them to lean on you for help and support?

Ask lunaKM – How do you get them to lean on you for help and support?

HOW do you get a Dominant Master to lean on you!? They think they have to be Strong and Masterly all the time (even when you remind them you are their slave to serve them and hear their worries) so when they need help they won’t go to you, their slave, even though a slave [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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Safe Words and Punishment

A few months ago, a heated topic was being discussed in a lifestyle group that I’m a member of on Facebook. The reason the topic became so heated was because, well, of me. I wasn’t really surprised by this because well, I do have a tendency to create controversy. It was so bad this time, [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Stay Safe

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/5/14 I think the most frequent question on every novices lips is, “where do I go to find people, partners and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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Learn to Let Go of the Past

I love the movie Frozen. I love it so much, I can’t quite stress how much I love it. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have watched this movie, but I can tell you it has been enough that Daddy can tune it out when I’m watching it for the [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Mindset, Relationships
How Master Took Control of the Finances

How Master Took Control of the Finances

This is a guest post by Nicolette Hart. I am a very independent, strong woman. I have never liked asking for help from others or for money from anyone. I have always been able to figure things out on my own. But when he came along all charming mysterious, he was different from any man I [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Recovering from a D/s Breakup

Ask lunaKM – Recovering from a D/s Breakup

I am relatively new to this world. I have recently ended a 2 year D/s relationship and I’m having an extremely difficult time emotionally.I cant balance the constant rush of emotions, most of which I cant identify. All I know is that I feel confused, hurt, and lost without answering to somebody. Its difficult to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
More Red Flags for Everyone

More Red Flags for Everyone

This is a guest post by Miss Jessica. Everyone’s safety is extremely important of course, but in the BDSM community it is the people who give themselves up the most that have a greater chance of being hurt; submissives, slaves, and all others who fit into categories that fall under the umbrella term ‘bottom’. The [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Can We Move to 24/7 Even If We Have Issues?

Ask lunaKM – Can We Move to 24/7 Even If We Have Issues?

I am 28 year old gay male and have been following your website for sometime now, THANK YOU. I have always been attracted to dominant men and I am now married to one. My question is how to take our relationship to a formal 24/7 D/s place. Some of the challenges are the following: I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Continuing from my previous article on preparing for your Dominant’s absence, today I want to talk about things you can do to help feel connected when you are not able to be together. In the last article you learned a few good coping mechanisms for times when you feel alone. Working on hobbies, hanging out [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
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Back Off Bitches! Feeling Territorial and Jealousy as a Slave

There are probably two very sensitive and deeply moving confessions that a slave could make – admitting to being territorial and/or jealous. These demons are a complete terror and have visited many relationships since the beginning of time. In order to move about freely and enjoy the fruits of a healthy M/s relationship, they need [...]

23 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset, Relationships
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