Whether you’re in a 24/7 D/s relationship or just exploring, this category delves into roles, power exchanges, and the emotional intricacies that make these connections unique.
When KnyghtMare and I embarked on our D/s journey, I was eager—no, ravenous—for rules, structure, and all the intricate rituals I believed would make our dynamic feel real. It wasn’t enough to have a few guidelines; I craved more—more rules, protocols, and proof that we were doing it right.
Less is More: Meaningful Rules in D/s Relationships Read More »
Trust is one of the most important foundations of a healthy D/s dynamic, but it isn’t automatic and it isn’t blind. In this article, Luna explores how trust develops through small daily actions, what happens when trust breaks, and how couples can rebuild it with honesty, accountability, and patience. A thoughtful look at trust in power exchange relationships for submissives and Dominants alike.
Trust Isn’t Blind: Building and Rebuilding Trust in D/s Relationships Read More »
A continuation of our beginner’s guide to D/s relationships, this article explores negotiation, expectations, and navigating “in role” dynamics while staying grounded, whole, and supported.
New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2 Read More »
Maintaining a D/s dynamic in public doesn’t require putting your kink on display. With subtle protocol, private signals, and thoughtful consent, you can stay connected to your Dominant while blending seamlessly into everyday life. This guide shows you how to create discreet, meaningful public D/s that fits your relationship.
Submitting in Public: How to Maintain Your D/s Dynamic Without Exposing It Read More »
Rules in a D/s relationship can be more than boundaries—they can be powerful tools for connection, growth, and maintaining the submissive mindset. In this article, I share how rules shape my submission, the emotional value they hold, and practical strategies any submissive can use to follow them with consistency and purpose.
How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission Read More »
Submission is more than permission—it’s an active role in D/s relationships. Learn how to make yourself available to your Dominant and foster a deeper, more open power exchange.
Active Submission – Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant Read More »
My first experience of being kinky was in the bedroom when I asked my partner to tie me up and have his way with me. At the moment he emphatically said yes, I was hooked. Like me, you may find that exploring sexual submissiveness is a fun, exciting way to bring an element of power
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Recently, my Master and I listened in on a kink Q&A. I was interested to see what questions people had about kink, especially people seeking guidance. Somewhat surprisingly, most people who tuned in seemed to have questions about relationships more than kink. Many of them were submissives curious about how to look for or embark
Looking for a Dominant Partner? Do This First! How To Perform a Self-Assessment Read More »
While many of us will feel guilty when we need time away from our dominants, there is no question that it is productive and therapeutic. Spending time exclusively with your partner and not getting any personal time alone, especially introverts can be somewhat of a challenge. If you’re stuck in self-isolation, having coping mechanisms to
10 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Dynamic in Isolation with Your Dominant Read More »
Rituals have always been an essential aspect of my daily life. In and outside of submission, ritual is how I interact with my reality. Practicing ritual is how I organize my time and make sense of complex abstract ideas (like love, devotion, and purpose). Yet, ritual itself is a complex abstract idea. Many people struggle to define it, and
The Concept of Ritual in D/s Relationships Read More »
Do you have a good idea of what your submission looks like? Just about every single BDSM book, website, or experienced kinky person has defined submission at one time or another. The dictionary definition just doesn’t cover all the nuances that living in a submissive lifestyle can include. If you’re brand new to BDSM or
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In “ Morning and Nighttime Briefing: Rituals for Coping with Uncertainty,” we explored implementing briefing rituals as a way of coping with uncertainty in our lives. We also discussed constructing lists for flexibly outlining our days. We approached this to help erect some semblance of a schedule when outright scheduling is not possible. While that article is a
Building Better Briefing Lists for a More Productive Day in Uncertain Times Read More »
We live in uncertain times—as submissives and as people—our lives are changing every day. Uncertainty is not automatically a problem in itself. However, many of us have become accustomed to a certain amount of structure and control in our lives, making it challenging to make an abrupt, constant change. This makes sense. After all, we
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When Chris M. Lyon, a relationship consultant, and D/s expert, approached me with news of a virtual course, “The Path of the Submissive Partner,” made specifically for the submissive partner, I was intrigued to know what she had created. I’ve talked about how impressed I was by her book, “ Leading and Supportive Love,” in a review
Review of The Path of the Submissive Partner Virtual Course Read More »
In D/s, the roles we agree to can seem very cut and dry. It sometimes feels like there is a submissive mold and a dominant mold—almost like all s-types and D-types come from the same cookie-cutter and just bake differently. This is because we have pre-established notions that dictate to us what we feel is
3 Ways You Can Be Emotionally Supportive of Your Dominant Read More »
Jealousy is an odd bird. It nests in the unlikeliest of places. It sings at the most inopportune times—and it doesn’t let anyone sleep. Whether you’re in a D/s dynamic that’s open to new play partners, or you’re in a polyamorous relationship, jealousy can be a challenge. If it’s causing snags in your relationships (and
5 Tips for Coping with Your Jealousy in a D/s Dynamic Read More »
Last week, I was asked, “How do you find a balance?” about “M/s and life.” I couldn’t answer at first because I honestly didn’t know what to say. That question will always have such an individualized answer. What is right and balanced for me might be unfulfilling or overwhelming for another, so how could I
Finding Balance in Your D/s Dynamic (and Your Life!) Read More »
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. The Formal Collar (frequently called the Slave Collar) is the representation of the final stage of commitment between the Dominant and submissive. This collar is offered after the Dominant and submissive have progressed
This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. You have gorged. Years have passed from that first moment of recognition of self. Over those years you have explored different people and situations. Peeked inside of places you may have decided just
Beyond the Kink Buffet: When You’re Ready for a Lifetime Partner Read More »
Uniqueness is underrated. Everyone wants to be like everyone else, are comparing themselves to others in order to fit in, but it’s the fun little unique aspects of a relationship that make it special. Kindling those unique things is especially important for me in a mono-poly and likely most other relationships. Every relationship is unique
