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What To Do When You’re Unhappy in Your D/s Relationship

What To Do When You’re Unhappy in Your D/s Relationship

How to effect change when your D/s relationship leaves your unfulfilled, confused and miserable starts with communication. But Kayla has more advice for you if that doesn’t work.

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

That Don’t Impress Me Much: Why You Should Not Withhold Your Safeword

If you don’t use your safeword, you could be in for more than just an overly sore backside. A safeword is your lifeline and your partner trusts you to use it if you need to. TR shares a personal story where playing with no safewords went wrong.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Sample Master/slave Contract with Ethical Non-Monogamy Section

Sample Master/slave Contract with Ethical Non-Monogamy Section

A sample D/s contract that also includes a non-monogamy section. Feel free to copy, edit and use this one for creating your own relationship contact.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Book Review: The Big Book for Littles by Penny Barber

Book Review: The Big Book for Littles by Penny Barber

The Big Book for Littles is really great for those who are new and exploring the little or age play dynamic. This review is a quick analysis and shares why you too should pick up this book if you or your partner identify as a little.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Reviews
Sample Master/slave contract – Basic

Sample Master/slave contract – Basic

A great basic contract example to use for your own D/s relationships. Copy it completely or use it to customize for your own personal relationship (preferred).

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

In part 2, you’ll learn how to figure out what you need in a D/s relationship and what is expected of you within the blossoming relationship. It’s all about what you want and need and getting as much of that as possible. Live happy. Don’t settle.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Contracts as a Road Map to Ever-Evolving Dynamics

Contracts as a Road Map to Ever-Evolving Dynamics

A written contract is a tool, simple as that. The written contract is not just useful to new dynamics trying to create a roadmap of new Power Exchange dynamic; it can help prevent problems up ahead and provide a lovely reminder of how far you’ve traveled together.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

What makes a D/s relationship so different from mainstream relationships? Learn the key differences, how you can apply what you learn to your own relationships and watch it develop into your most fulfilling relationship possible.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
How To Express Submissiveness as a Little

How To Express Submissiveness as a Little

How can I show my submissiveness in a little girl way without falling into total servitude and then becoming more like a slave?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Don’t Judge A Label By Its Cover: Dispelling Stereotypes of D/s Roles

Don’t Judge A Label By Its Cover: Dispelling Stereotypes of D/s Roles

Personality traits do no indicate what label that person may wear in D/s or BDSM. Learn more ways we apply stereotypes and how to dispel your mistruths.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Teased With No Relief: How to Address Orgasm Denial Because Dominant Gets Too Busy and Forgets

Teased With No Relief: How to Address Orgasm Denial Because Dominant Gets Too Busy and Forgets

How do you cope with sexual frustration? Kayla helps you figure out what you should do when you have been teased and then left high and dry when your partner gets too busy.

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first thought is that it is ‘like any other relationship,’ but that’s not entirely accurate. Let me tell you what the common misconceptions are and then we can talk about the reality of a D/s relationship. You may be surprised to learn that they aren’t as foreign as you think.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Thinking About Financial Dependency in Your D/s Dynamic?

Thinking About Financial Dependency in Your D/s Dynamic?

If you’re currently thinking about becoming financially dependent on your Dom, kallista shares her thoughts on the subject and how it can impact more than your relationship. Learn the risks.

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

Communication comes up frequently as a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us don’t know what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
How Do I Find a Dominant?

How Do I Find a Dominant?

How DO you go about finding a Dominant in this modern world? Here’s a short list of ways you can begin to search for a Dominant partner.

4 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

This month’s free report is a compilation of essays from Submissive Guide about parenting and BDSM, children in the home and navigating quiet play and so many other concerns about being parents and also in a D/s relationship.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships, Safety
Submitting While One of You is Sick

Submitting While One of You is Sick

One of the strangest full time submitting challenges that I’ve found is dealing with your role as a submissive when either you or your Dom is ill. So how do you cope when one of you is ill?

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
The Importance of Being Authentic

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
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To Be or Not To Be – Poly, Mono, Mono-Poly Flexible

Blyss helps you decide if either monogamy or polyamory is a better fit. She covers jealousy, compersion, personal insecurities and understandings of poly.

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Relationships
Regaining Trust – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Regaining Trust – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Regaining trust is going to be a long hard road. It doesn’t matter what “most” people might consider cheating. If you felt that the bonds of your relationship were bruised or broken due to your partner’s actions, he cheated, and your feelings are important and valid.

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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