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By lunaKM on August 27, 2010
Contracts are a sticky subject in discussions. I’ve briefly covered it before in this article. The opinions are all over the place as far as their value or use as a tool for relationships. I can understand why they are a common thread in forums all over the place. A contract is a physical document outlining the [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged commitment, consensual, contracts, D/s relationship, dominance and submission, general outline, physical document, pre nuptial agreement, time frame |
By thisgirl on July 9, 2010
There is a 21 year age difference between myself and my Master . I am 30 and he is 51. When we met I hadn’t expected we would end up where we are now, which is still together, engaged and very happy! If I had thought he would be my life partner as well as [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advantages of having an older dominant, age compatibility, age differences, May-December romance, older dominant |
By mrsK on May 28, 2010
Okay, so our worlds didn’t really collide, they just tapped each other a little bit. This is what happened: Mr. K, my Master, and I went out to lunch a few weeks ago. One of our protocols is that I prepare his beverages. For iced tea, for instance, he likes one “blue” and one “pink.” [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged first time, information, kink, lifestyle, lifestyles, m/s, private life, protocol, ritual, secret identity, two worlds |
By nan {SL} on May 10, 2010
Did you miss part 1? You can read it here. In Part 1, we looked at the information that you should try to gather when starting to interact with an unknown Dom/me. However, there are other warning signs that can appear once you start to develop a relationship with your new Dom/me. Evaluating your training [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged abuse, danger, experience, negotiation, predators, safe words, serving, training, warning signs |
By nan {SL} on May 7, 2010
Part 1: Information Please! If you’re a new submissive this lifestyle may seem overwhelming at first. A submissive I know terms it ‘the new submissive smell’. Dom/mes sense ‘new blood’, and swarm like piranhas to interact with, play with or train the new submissive in the group. Dom/mes may contact you online or meet you [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged asking questions, be cautious, information, new relationships, predators, protect yourself, references, SSC, warning signs |
By lunaKM on May 3, 2010
This is a response to the following request for advice: I have a Dom, and He loves me. But the things is, sometimes he act as my “boyfriend” then he acts as my Master. I am having trouble dealing with the fact that he wants that Master and sub relationship as my utmost and foremost [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, blind faith, challenges, defining roles, learning, novice, power exchange, questions, understanding |
By Rayne on April 26, 2010
I said before I’m a “no limits” slave. Bring on the barrage of “What if your master wanted to cut your arm off?” type questions. There are few scenarios related to what most would consider safe and sane kink that I will attempt to avoid, but when it comes right down to it, if The [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged communication, limits, logic, no limits slavery, novice experiences, safe words, scenarios, slave, trust |
By Guest Author on April 12, 2010
This is a guest post by kahluna. It’s funny to me to see people wanting a Dominant but then looking for “chemistry” as well. They want to fall in love with the Dominant of their dreams. Apparently, these submissives have come into the lifestyle thinking that a Dominant is BDSMs version of Prince Charming. Ladies, [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged checklist, common sense, communication, D/s relationship, Dom, dominant, fall in love, love, myths, Relationships, romance, skills |
By lunaKM on April 9, 2010
from Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-10-09 Relationships of any type are unique and special to those involved in them. But how many types of relationships are there? The answer is related to how many people their are. As each person enters into a relationship their expectations are different and varied. This forms the unique mesh that [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Relationships | Tagged balance, defining roles, development, Female-led, Male-led, power exchange, relationship types, Relationships, vanilla relationship |
By Rayne on March 22, 2010
I’m sitting here, staring at the blank page, turning over and over in my mind what I could possibly write about. There’s so much information, here at Submissive Guide, already, that I’m not even sure where to begin. The beginning’s where I usually start. But I think I’m going to start at what was almost [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged communication, dynamic relations, expectations, personal thoughts, Rayne's story, relationship, transparency |
By lunaKM on March 12, 2010
This is a question tammy asked for March Question Month: I have had a few Doms and i am in a relationship where I live with one.I didnt think I could find someone that makes me this happy but I did. The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me into [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships | Tagged break up, D/s, dominant, experience, memories, relationship, tips |
By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, Alt.com, Bondage, Bondage.com, CollarMe, cons, danger, dangers, dating, depression, email, false sense of security, family, fetlife, friends, information, internet, online, Online dating, online profiles, profile safety, relationship, rt, safe, Safety, security, Service, share, share photos, sharing, support, tips |
By lunaKM on February 8, 2010
Reading across the blogosphere you will encounter these words almost synonymous to each other: Discipline and Punishment. The words are far from the same however some dynamics treat them the same. In fact for the longest time I have used the word punishment when I mean discipline. It’s even possible that Master has used these [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged definitions, differences in words, discipline, discipline and punishment, ideas, punishment, similarities |
By lunaKM on November 13, 2009
With Thanksgiving (USA) just around the corner I thought it would be fitting to write about gratitude, and how to express your gratitude to the one you serve. Sure you can say thank you. That’s standard. I really hope you take every opportunity to say thank you, but what if you want a few more [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged bath, being thankful, development, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dynamic, focus, gratitude, happiness, help, kneeling, love, normal, online, play, relationship, Relationships, requests, ritual, rituals, rt, rules, Service, setting the table, sex, share, showing appreciation, skills, stress, submission, thanksgiving |
By lunaKM on November 6, 2009
When you get married, you have to legally sign a document attesting to your decision to be married. The legal document can come in many forms but most have a brief section about what each party declares for the union, how they will treat each other and how commitment will be displayed (change of names [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged Aria, BDSM, book, commitment, connection, cons, consensual, contracts, control, D/s, D/s contracts, Dom, Domme, dress, experience, IRC, learning, lifestyle, links, m/s, play, protocol, purpose, relationship, renewable contracts, ritual, rt, rules, short, slave, slavery, spirit, spiritual, structure, submission, switch |
By lunaKM on October 26, 2009
I’ve been witness to a shocking new trend in relationships lately. Perhaps I’m old school or old fashioned but what I’m seeing in today’s society, and not just the BDSM culture, is the lack of effort in relationships. As I was raised I was taught that something worthwhile wasn’t always easy to achieve and you [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, BDSM, begging, communication, cons, disposable, disposable relationship mentality, disposable relationships, experience, family, happiness, love, marriage, online, questions, recommendations, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, spirit, spiritual, standing, understanding |
By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged acceptance, advice, bath, BDSM, bdsm play, beginning bdsm, blogs, book, communication, cons, consensual, danger, desires, Dom, dominant, information, kajira, learned, needs, negotiation, novice, novices, partners, play, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, safe, Safety, safewords, sane, security, share, stress, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on September 5, 2009
This week’s video post is about an issue that needs more awareness. I had someone ask me for some advice through my email the other day and it went something like this: I just started exploring my kinky side and I’ve only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, advice, ask me, assistance, assistance programs, BDSM, cons, consensual, danger, Dom, domestic violence awareness, domestic violence awareness month, domestic violence project, email, family, fear, help, kinky, kinky side, leather, national domestic violence awareness month, national leather association, needs, NLA-I DVP, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, Service, share, submission, submissive, support, value |
By lunaKM on August 10, 2009
Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Relationships | Tagged BDSM, blogs, book, calendar, chat, chat room, clothing, communication, control, Dom, dominant, email, essays, event, favorite, focus, growth, help, infraction, learning, lectures, limits, negotiation, obedience, online, online D/s, orgasms, public punishment, punishment, punishments, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, self punishment ideas, self-discipline, sex, sexual chastisement, single, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, writing, writing essays |
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