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My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

Being a Little in a Long Distance Relationship

The other day I got an email from a reader who had a question about being in a long distance relationship with his little and wanting to know some ideas on how to make that work. Like usual when I get a question from a reader, I got super excited(because I do love hearing from [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Dear Annie, Well my question is quite simple. Im a submissive cross dresser from the UK, and have been dressing for many years now. One of the main reasons i dress is because I have a very strong submissive side, and many of the fetishes to go along with that. My question is simple, I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – How Do I Tell My Family that I’m Committing to My Dominant?

Dear lunaKM, I would like some advice on how to tell my family and my children who are teenagers that I am commiting myself to my Dom.  I have been a single Mother for many years and live in a very rural area.  My Dom and I have been in a long distance relationship for [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – How do you get them to lean on you for help and support?

Ask lunaKM – How do you get them to lean on you for help and support?

HOW do you get a Dominant Master to lean on you!? They think they have to be Strong and Masterly all the time (even when you remind them you are their slave to serve them and hear their worries) so when they need help they won’t go to you, their slave, even though a slave [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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Safe Words and Punishment

A few months ago, a heated topic was being discussed in a lifestyle group that I’m a member of on Facebook. The reason the topic became so heated was because, well, of me. I wasn’t really surprised by this because well, I do have a tendency to create controversy. It was so bad this time, [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Stay Safe

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/5/14 I think the most frequent question on every novices lips is, “where do I go to find people, partners and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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Learn to Let Go of the Past

I love the movie Frozen. I love it so much, I can’t quite stress how much I love it. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have watched this movie, but I can tell you it has been enough that Daddy can tune it out when I’m watching it for the [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Mindset, Relationships
How Master Took Control of the Finances

How Master Took Control of the Finances

This is a guest post by Nicolette Hart. I am a very independent, strong woman. I have never liked asking for help from others or for money from anyone. I have always been able to figure things out on my own. But when he came along all charming mysterious, he was different from any man I [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Recovering from a D/s Breakup

Ask lunaKM – Recovering from a D/s Breakup

I am relatively new to this world. I have recently ended a 2 year D/s relationship and I’m having an extremely difficult time emotionally.I cant balance the constant rush of emotions, most of which I cant identify. All I know is that I feel confused, hurt, and lost without answering to somebody. Its difficult to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
More Red Flags for Everyone

More Red Flags for Everyone

This is a guest post by Miss Jessica. Everyone’s safety is extremely important of course, but in the BDSM community it is the people who give themselves up the most that have a greater chance of being hurt; submissives, slaves, and all others who fit into categories that fall under the umbrella term ‘bottom’. The [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Can We Move to 24/7 Even If We Have Issues?

Ask lunaKM – Can We Move to 24/7 Even If We Have Issues?

I am 28 year old gay male and have been following your website for sometime now, THANK YOU. I have always been attracted to dominant men and I am now married to one. My question is how to take our relationship to a formal 24/7 D/s place. Some of the challenges are the following: I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Connecting With Your Dominant While They Are Away

Continuing from my previous article on preparing for your Dominant’s absence, today I want to talk about things you can do to help feel connected when you are not able to be together. In the last article you learned a few good coping mechanisms for times when you feel alone. Working on hobbies, hanging out [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
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Back Off Bitches! Feeling Territorial and Jealousy as a Slave

There are probably two very sensitive and deeply moving confessions that a slave could make – admitting to being territorial and/or jealous. These demons are a complete terror and have visited many relationships since the beginning of time. In order to move about freely and enjoy the fruits of a healthy M/s relationship, they need [...]

23 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset, Relationships
That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit, Mindset, Relationships

So You Want to Share Your Kink with Your Vanilla Partner

This is a guest post by Boundobedience.  I read a lot of questions and answers from people who are into BDSM and are with people who may or may not also be into BDSM as well. There are two groups that I generally see. Well, three, but the group that successful manages to convert their [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/01/14 It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
You Can Not Make Someone Be a Dominant

You Can Not Make Someone Be a Dominant

I’ve written on the site about how you can work with the partner you have to bring out their Dominance or feel submissive in a subtle way and because of that I have received a lot of messages of frustrated people trying to make their partner dominate them. The scenario seems to be the same, [...]

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Dolly Learns To Balance Kink and Everyday Life

This is a guest post by Dolly. My wanderings into BDSM and Dom/sub space started a few years ago with my partner, initially as a within-bedroom-limits play. In a whirlwind of exploration, delicious pain, laughter and the most deviant of confessions, we now find ourselves in a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship. As rewarding, grounding and indulgent [...]

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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Weeding through the number of messages in your inbox asking to get to know you better is a daunting task to most single people, and being submissive looking for a Dominant is no different. Well, perhaps it’s a little different. The compatibility that you are looking for as a submissive is more specific and challenging. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
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