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[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

In the previous video about rules I talked about how to set up rules in an D/s or M/s relationship and the incorporating them into your relaxed or structured dynamic. Check out the previous video post if you missed it. Today I want to talk abut after rules are selected and you are practicing them [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

Learning to Help a Partner Through a Poly Breakup

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6-11-16 At the end of May, KnyghtMare’s long-term girlfriend broke up with him suddenly. He said he had no idea it was coming so it hit him really hard. I know that any time someone you love ends the relationship you go through a period of grief and loss and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
[Freebie] 11 Questions to Ask Your Partner Who Just Came Out Kinky

[Freebie] 11 Questions to Ask Your Partner Who Just Came Out Kinky

Here’s the next free download! This freebie is for the vanilla partner that has just been told that their partner would like to explore something in the realm of BDSM or D/s and aren’t sure what to ask to get the answers you need to make an educated decision about your own interests. I worked [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. Such a Dominant may be considered to have prowess, charisma, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

Our Ceremony of Roses, Vow Renewal, and Re-collaring

A couple years ago, the MR and I decided to renew our wedding vows. We had been through a rocky start to our marriage and had transformed since originally marrying from a vanilla, egalitarian relationship to a kinky, Dominant and submissive one, and finally we had arrived at Master and slave. We felt at home [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 05-14-16 We spend a lot of time in front of a screen these days. We chat, we shop, we explore and we date, all from the comfort of our homes. But, it is my opinion, that dating is something that really should be done face to face. Yeah, I know, [...]

Fear in Submission

Fear in Submission

I don’t know what it is, or why, but recently, I’ve been seeing a lot about fear. In a regular email newsletter I get, I came across a quote by Jack Canfield “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” and seeing that hit me like a ton of bricks. Then, a few [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Community, Personal Growth, Relationships
The Art of Apology: Receiving an apology when you don’t think one is necessary

The Art of Apology: Receiving an apology when you don’t think one is necessary

Maybe you know a frequent apologizer, or maybe you’ve been surprised, but at some point in your life, you’ve probably had someone tell you, “Hey, I’m sorry!” and your immediate response was, “What on earth are you apologizing for?” If you’re like me, and you completely lack a brain-to-mouth filter, your reaction probably came tumbling [...]

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Afraid of Long Distance Dom

Ask lunaKM – Afraid of Long Distance Dom

Dear Annie, I am in a dom/sub relationship long distance, One that has become very stressful for me. I am punished it seems like every day to stay in favor and because of the distance, it is monetary payment. It is breaking me down financially and mentally, it seems I get nothing from this relationship. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Dear lunaKM, I am researching the poly lifestyle. I am looking for opinions on whether or not poly means both sides of the slash should be able to have other partners. Is there any iron clad rule about that? Thank you. There is no iron clad rule about any relationship style. If the partners all [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/2/16 The most common search queries on this blog have to do with finding a Dominant partner so I have to assume that a lot of you who read here are single and searching for your Dominant. It’s never easy being single and knowing you want to find a Dominant [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Mama Vi Then and Now, right image courtesy of Mama Vi Johnson; left image courtesy of C. Creane Images; and edited by blyss

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

When I first came to the community, I, as well as others like me, was a bit of a unicorn. During that time, it wasn’t the norm to see younger people in the community – younger as in under 36 or so. Most of the people I knew were 40+, and there I was in [...]

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

There is plenty of questioning the 24/7 TPE M/s dynamic. Is it healthy? Is it even realistically possible? I wanted to share my thoughts on why it is not only healthy and realistic in real world application, but it creates incredibly happy and successful relationships. So quickly it has become the standard and expectation of [...]

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Submissive Guide: Trying Again

Ask Submissive Guide: Trying Again

Hi Submissive Guide My Dominant and I are trying to get our relationship going in the right direction again. We have been married for 23 years and in an M/s relationship for the past 4 years. In the beginning he read everything and was involved and it was everything I dreamed it would be but [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Dealing With Submissive Burnout

Dealing With Submissive Burnout

There are times where I don’t feel like being a slave. I look around the apartment and see what needs to be done, dishes, laundry, dinner prep, grocery shopping and I think to myself I really don’t wanna do any of it. Daddy will give me errands to run and even though I’m nodding my [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships
Stress Overpowering the Dynamic – Submissive Mediation Monday

Stress Overpowering the Dynamic – Submissive Mediation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. We all can handle [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

Feeling Like a Failure as a Slave

Dinner time at our house is 6 PM. In my opinion, it’s like the perfect time. Not too early, gives Daddy and I a couple of hours to catch up on our TV shows or to watch a movie and afterwards gives us time to do our own thing before bed. I’m usually very good [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
8 Secrets for Supporting a Stressed Dominant Partner

8 Secrets for Supporting a Stressed Dominant Partner

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1-23-16 Stress comes in many forms. Perhaps your partner is having trouble at work. Or maybe he’s caring for his aging parents. Or perhaps there’s tension between your Dominant and an extended family member or close friend. Or maybe your Dominant is sick, suffering from a health problem or concern. [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Service
You Are Not Your Collar – Submissive Meditation Monday

You Are Not Your Collar – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Don’t lose yourself [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
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