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lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

6 responses to “[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?”

  1. Keith Smith

    Thank you once again lunaKM. This time for your post on what service submission is. I found it very interesting. Even though I am not a service submissive I endeavour to incorporate some of this service submission in my once per month fun time. To the person who Doms me then my time revolves around them from the time I first see them at the event until she leaves. If she wants drinks of water fetched or any way that I can serve her I very gladly do so. Once I suggested that I clean her house for her. This was after I had told her that I clean the house at home in the nude and this becomes more interesting when my wife has a flogger or suchlike in her hands to give me encouragement. She turned me down. This was of some disappointment to me at the time. However unbeknown to me at about this time a new partner had come into her life. I now understand why she would not accept my offer. Sometimes, indeed a great many times, I allow myself to be hurt emotionally and mentally when I am not in full possession of all the facts.

    As regards a service type thing I do for my wife I drive her wherever she wants to go. My wife does not drive. My wife also gives me Impact Play whenever it suits her. This is something that I taught her. I have discovered that things do not happen to me in the time frame that I expect them to happen in. This used to frustrate me. It does not now as I have discovered that in my submission that things do not have to run to my schedule. When Impact Play happens at home it is always delightful. My wife and I can talk around having Impact Play. It happens when she decides, as I have said before. Funnily enough, even though I love receiving Impact Play when the time comes around I do not push the issue. I know that it will hurt. I have discovered that my satisfaction, yes even my sexual satisfaction, does not depend on forcing anyone to do anything just when it suits me.

    I know that this reply has covered many areas and has not been directly related to service submission as such very much. At times I just feel as though I need to put my thoughts down in writing. In ‘Submissive Guide’ I feel freedom to say things honestly as I see them. Others may be able to identify with me or not. We are all individuals. I love being submissive.

  2. Kevin

    My primary form of submission is also service-oriented. While we’re fairly low protocol (d/s vs. m/s), I do most of the household chores, serve her food, fetch things, put her shoes on her, open her doors, etc. It can also be more intimate through body care like pedicures and waiting on her in the bath.

    While we also enjoy many of the physical aspects of d/s, as well. I feel like service is my most natural and consistently expressed sub identity.

  3. Kellie

    Do you have suggestions on how to do service when you are long-distance?

  4. Amber

    I would have to put leather care in there on the list of services done for your Dominant.

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