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Simply Service e-Zine: April 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: April 2005

Today I bring you another Simply Service newsletter. If you have enjoyed the series up to now, you’ll want to read this one! From the newsletter’s description; Current contributors are all slave or submissive identified, and in real time relationships where obedience and service are necessary, valued skills, achieved over time. I have been fortunate enough to meet these [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Life as a Submissive with Chronic Pain

Life as a Submissive with Chronic Pain

It’s official. I am just past six months of living with chronic pain and no end in sight. It’s still new to me but somehow, also, it’s now me. It is a part of me that I have had to adjust to, just like once upon a time I had to adjust from a vanilla world to [...]

5 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Personal Growth
You Are Not Your Collar – Submissive Meditation Monday

You Are Not Your Collar – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. Don’t lose yourself [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks! Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers for Maximus last week. He’s on the rebound and proving to me that he’s going to stick around a bit longer. I am relieved. I think I’ve written before how I’ve turned my productivity up by deploying a Bullet Journal system. It’s made my life [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Submissive Rebound is a reaction that occurs in most submissives at some point in their relationship with a Dominant. It manifests in feelings of depression, heightened anxiety and a sensation of ‘distance’ between [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics


[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

11, April | 1 comment

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

31, March | 3 comments

[Video Post] The Evolution of Submission or Why I’m Glad I’m Not the Submissive I Was Ten Years Ago

  I’m not the submissive I was ten years ago. I’m someone different, someone more. It’s really hard to put a finger to exactly what makes me who I am today, but I am grateful that I’ve traveled this journey and progressed into what I feel is a more genuine me. And it’s not just [...]

10, March | 1 comment

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

Continuing the video series on Beginning BDSM we are going to talk about safewords. So, in this series so far we’ve talked about how to define your kink, looking for a partner and staying safe. So, perhaps you’ve found someone you’d like to develop a kinky relationship with and are ready to explore play. You [...]

25, February | Leave a comment

[Video Post] Ask lunaKM – A Non-Romantic BDSM Relationship, Is It Wise?

Judi is a Patron Member and as a perk of her support, she was able to ask me a question to be answered in a video post. You can get your question answered too! Join Patreon and support Submissive Guide. As a new sub, I have a lot to learn, and I am just starting [...]

30, September | 4 comments


Book Review: Spanking for Lovers by Janet Hardy

A couple of weeks on Facebook, Janet Hardy (co-author of several amazing books including The Ethical Slut and The New Bottoming Book), asked for people who are interested in reviewing her new book, Spanking for Lovers and I had a total fangirl moment. I swear, if it had been in person, I would have been [...]

5, April | 4 comments

Book Review: M/s for the Rest of Us

Master/slave relationships are not usually more complex than D/s ones but they do have their own quirks and manners and behaviors that other relationships don’t have. Which is probably why when lifestyle books come out that are about relationships they are specific about which type of relationship they most relate to. In today’s book review, [...]

16, March | Leave a comment

Book Review: 31 Flavors of Kink by Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood

I’ve done a lot of non fictional book reviews lately on Submissive Guide and it’s been awhile since I’ve done a fictional BDSM book review. While I do have several I want to do, this one in particular grabbed my attention and then caused my attention to start jumping up and down and screaming “Write [...]

1, March | Leave a comment

Book Review: BDSM Mastery-Relationships by Robert Rubel and M. Jen Fairfield

I have wanted to read something by Dr. Robert Rubel for some time now. I have heard from various sources around the internet, especially after hearing his interview on Dan and dawn’s Erotic Awakening podcast and then reading lunaKM’s book review of BDSM Mastery-Your Guide to Play, Parties, and Scene Protocols. So, I picked up [...]

2, February | 1 comment

Book Review: Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation by Princess Kali

In May of this year I was fortunate enough to attend a BDSM convention that Princess Kali was presenting her Erotic Humiliation class. During her class she mentioned that she was writing a book about the topic and that it would be out soon. As she presented her class I became more and more excited [...]

8, January | Leave a comment

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