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31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 21: Your First Blog Post

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 21: Your First Blog Post

You’ve made the decision that you’re going to keep a blog, you’ve picked your host, you’ve designed your site, and now it comes down to the writing. And then you clean the dishes, and the bathroom. And you take a walk. And you build a condo for the squirrels to live in, and you think [...]

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 20 – 4 Ways to Find Topics for your Submissive Blog

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 20 – 4 Ways to Find Topics for your Submissive Blog

The challenge of any writer is, “what do I write about?” Maintaining a blog every day, I ask that question all the time. Since I started a blog over 7 years ago I’ve been able to come up with things to talk about almost every single day. With a bit of creative brainpower and a [...]

Ask Anything – Feeling Insecure

Ask Anything – Feeling Insecure

Dear Submissive Guide, I am a sub and I have an amazing Master. He is loving, caring, respectful and just everything a sub could ask for. He collared me 6 months ago and we moved in together 2 months ago. We get along great in every area so far. The problem is this, lately, I’ve [...]

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31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 19: Ways to Personalize Your Online Journal (Blog)

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 19: Ways to Personalize Your Online Journal (Blog)

One of the easiest ways to show who you are and what you want to write about is to personalize your submissive blog. What your blog looks like will give people a first impression before they’ve read a single word so it’s often very important if you want to attract readers. Also, it’s more likely [...]

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 18: First Page Ideas

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 18: First Page Ideas

Blank page fright is a real condition for any writer, professional or amateur. We’ve all been there with the concern of what to write at one point or another. One solution I’ve come up with are days where I’m really inspired I make a list of potential ideas so that on days I’m stuck I [...]


[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

In the previous video about rules I talked about how to set up rules in an D/s or M/s relationship and the incorporating them into your relaxed or structured dynamic. Check out the previous video post if you missed it. Today I want to talk abut after rules are selected and you are practicing them [...]

16, September | 1 comment

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

11, April | 1 comment

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

31, March | 3 comments

[Video Post] The Evolution of Submission or Why I’m Glad I’m Not the Submissive I Was Ten Years Ago

  I’m not the submissive I was ten years ago. I’m someone different, someone more. It’s really hard to put a finger to exactly what makes me who I am today, but I am grateful that I’ve traveled this journey and progressed into what I feel is a more genuine me. And it’s not just [...]

10, March | 1 comment

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

Continuing the video series on Beginning BDSM we are going to talk about safewords. So, in this series so far we’ve talked about how to define your kink, looking for a partner and staying safe. So, perhaps you’ve found someone you’d like to develop a kinky relationship with and are ready to explore play. You [...]

25, February | Leave a comment


Review: Vondage – Vegan Bondage Gear from

If you are someone who would rather not use animal products, finding BDSM gear of any sort that gives you the same feel as leather but is conscious of your choices is difficult at best. The Stockroom has presented an answer and I’d have to say they are pretty good! What am I talking about? [...]

19, September | Leave a comment

Book Review: BDSM-The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer

I picked up BDSM – The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer a while ago. And by a while ago, I mean since 2012. It’s been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library and part of my reading goals this year was to read some of those books that have sat untouched for a [...]

30, August | 1 comment

Review: Medium Weight Flogger by House Of Eros from Bondage Bunnies

If I think back to my early days of kink, I’d have to say that my first tool was a wooden spoon, but not far behind that was a flogger. I don’t recall it being a fancy flogger as I was limited on budget, but I liked it and it lasted me for years until [...]

8, August | Leave a comment

Review: Weekender Confidential Travel Bag by Eternity Collars

Traveling with toys can be a stressful situation. How do you hide them from prying eyes? Can you keep them separate from your weekend necessities? Eternity Collars has a custom made solution; The Weekender Confidential Travel Bag. You’ve seen reviews for their items here before, most recently the Black Titanium wrist cuff. This time they [...]

18, July | Leave a comment

Book Review: Decoding Your Kink by Galen Fous MTP

I heard about Decoding Your Kink by Galen Fous MPT from Facebook. In several BDSM groups I’m in, this book was mentioned and had received positive feedback from those who read it and after seeing so many others interested in this book, my interest was piqued and decided to check it out. So I hopped [...]

28, June | 1 comment