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1950′s Kink: An Overview

1950′s Kink: An Overview

In 2014, a local kink community member contacted me to say she had heard about an author compiling essays regarding different styles of the M/s dynamic, suggesting I respond regarding our 1950′s relationship. I did, and what I discovered in the correspondence about the project was surprising. The author had told me that when setting out to [...]

2 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Book Review-Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Book Review-Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

I’m currently in a poly relationship and have been in several poly relationships in the past. Despite the numerous poly relationships I have been in, Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up is the first non fiction book that I have read about polyamorous relationships. This book has been on my reading list for quite some time and [...]

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Submission is a Choice That Will be Tested

The things that test us aren’t always outside forces. Sure, our friends, family, and partners will test us from time to time – whether they mean to or not. In my experience, though, the things that test us the most come from within… Whenever I introduce myself in the kink community, I refer to myself [...]

3 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Mindset

Why Your Sexual Needs Matter in a D/s Relationship (or ANY Relationship)

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/23/15 Far too often I hear stories of submissives who are unhappy in their relationship because their partners don’t care about their orgasms or listen to their sexual needs. Some Dominants go as far as saying that they should get enjoyment out of being used, told they are topping from [...]

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks, KnyghtMare got me a FitBit! I’ve wanted one for a while but never asked. I love stats and am self-competitive, which means if I see a number like steps taken, I want to get the highest number possible. I don’t have to battle with anyone else, just me. I’m battling some back pain [...]

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[Video Post] Improving Your Submission: Identify Your Focus

Every submissive everywhere has asked this question at one time or another, whether that be to themselves, to their partner or to a mentor like myself. How do I improve my submission? The challenge with answering this question is that it’s such a broad, generic question. It’s almost impossible for any non-invested person to answer. [...]

22, June | 2 comments

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

Welcome back to the next part in the BDSM Basics series. In earlier episodes we figured out if we were kinky, what role we are, how to stay safe and how to find a partner. In this article we’ll talk about what your first date might look like. I’ll cover two different situations for a [...]

27, April | 1 comment

BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have [...]

19, January | 7 comments

BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

15, December | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | 1 comment


Book Review: The Ritual of Dominance & Submission: A Guide to High Protocol Dominance & Submission

One of the more selective skills of a D/s relationship is protocol. Many of the misconceptions is that it’s hard to do and that only the more serious power exchange relationships participate. KnyghtMare and I have some moderate protocol all the time since I love it and he likes control so anytime he gets opportunity [...]

26, June | Leave a comment

Book Review: Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix

Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix isn’t like any other non-fiction BDSM book that I have read. Instead of being a book that explains the in and outs of the dynamic or a how to type of book. Bondage Snippets is a book that gives you a sneak peek into the lives of male and female [...]

19, May | Leave a comment

Book Review: The Warrior Princess Submissive by Michael Makai

I have been wanting to read Michael Makai’s The Warrior Princess Submissive for a while. This is one of those books where the title totally caught my interest. I found myself thinking “Well, I’m submissive, I am definitely a princess, and who doesn’t want to be a warrior?” Not only did the title catch my [...]

12, May | 8 comments

Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Fifty Shades of Curious is by Bo Blaze, a PCC-certified alternative life coach who specializes in alternative sexual relationships and non-traditional lifestyles. He is also well-known nationally as an expert in the BDSM lifestyle who has spoken at numerous events all over the country. With the popularity of the series “Fifty Shades of Grey”, Blaze [...]

30, April | 1 comment

Book Review: BDSM Mastery: Your Guide to Play, Parties and Scene Protocols

It’s been a long while since I’ve reviewed any books on Submissive Guide and boy do I have a back log! The first book up for review is from the BDSM Mastery series by Robert J Rubel Ph.D and M. Jen Fairfield titled BDSM Mastery – Basics: your guide to play, parties and scene protocols. [...]

30, March | Leave a comment

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