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Submissive Chat Night – Free Chat

Submissive Chat Night – Free Chat

It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday night for a bit of conversation. The topic is going to be free chat. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships. Info When: 11/25/14  8 PM CST [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – I Need Full-Time, He Wants Part-Time

Ask lunaKM – I Need Full-Time, He Wants Part-Time

Okay.. So I’m a little in a dd/lg relationship. My dom enjoys the play, but only part-time. He doesn’t want full-time because he finds it stressful. I have trouble telling him how badly I need it. I need a 24/7 dom. I’m unable to do daily tasks. I crashed my car today because I couldn’t [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submission in Gratitude

Submission in Gratitude

Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada is a weekend for celebrating the good we have in our lives and sharing it with those who are close to us. There is so much to be thankful for and this year, as I look back, I see the amazing abundance that comes to us in various ways, but [...]

1 comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Mindset, Relationships

Sign Up for The Submissive Advent Calendar to Celebrate Submission This Holiday Season

Two years ago I hosted a Submissive Advent Calendar on the site and it was very popular for the people who participated. This year I’m bringing it back as an email subscription! So sign up and every day from December 1st-24th you’ll receive something to keep your submission in focus this busy holiday season. Below [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Advent Calendar
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks, Snow folks. We have snow. And it is so cold for this time of year that seasonal depression might be pretty darned high for a lot of folks; myself included. I struggle with it but I know that I can manage with the comforts I have in place. How are you fairing where [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections

Videos

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 4 comments

Reviews

Book Review: Real Service

I bought this book on a recommendation from a member of Fetlife who commented on a post I created asking about different types of service. I can honestly say that purchasing this book is one of those things I can call one of the better decisions I’ve made in my life. While the book isn’t [...]

14, November | Leave a comment

Book Review: Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive

I had this book recommended to me by a reader on Twitter and I couldn’t pass up an opportunity to review a book by request. 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive by Elizabeth Cramer is available as a paperback or an ebook. I purchased mine through Amazon Kindle.  I have [...]

27, October | 4 comments

Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or [...]

7, October | Leave a comment

Book Review: Haven of Obedience

In Marina Anderson’s Haven of Obedience, high-powered London businesswoman Natalie Bowen visits a secret weekend retreat for successful professionals who want to explore their sexuality and experiment under the tutelage of skilled mentors who can rid them of habits that keep them locked in destructive relationship and bedroom behaviors and teach them how to free [...]

9, September | Leave a comment

Book Review- Unveiled: The Secret Submissive Within

I feel very lucky to have gotten the chance to read Michelle Fegatofi’s book “Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within”. If the author’s name sounds familiar it’s probably because of her personal blog BDSM Unveiled. She started her blog back in November 2012 and since then has written on a large variety of topics to help those [...]

19, August | Leave a comment

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