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Ask lunaKM – Dominant Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Ask lunaKM – Dominant Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Hi Luna. I’m a sub and I have an online Dom. We have a lot of fun together but he wants far more time and play from me than I can afford to give. I told him this but he still wants more. I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want to leave [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
BDSM and the Media: Two Sides of a Coin

BDSM and the Media: Two Sides of a Coin

With the trailer of the “50 Shades of Grey” movie being released, my Facebook newsfeed and what I have seen on Fetlife in multiple groups, that’s all anyone seems to be able to talk about. I have managed to not see the trailer because I have no interest, but some of the discussions that have [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Social Norms, Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – How do I show my over-protective husband that the community is a safe, respectable place?

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my over-protective husband that the community is a safe, respectable place?

It took me a few days after the big realization that I am a sub, to share it with husband. We’ve been doing days of research and communicating and setting limits. Now, one of his biggest problems is entering into the community. He sees it as a place I will be hit on, and somehow [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How to Care for Bruises and More BDSM Play Recovery Tips

If there’s one topic that comes up time and again on this blog, in readers’ emails to me and online forums is how do you care for bruises and other physical and emotional reminders of play? Since 2009 when I started writing this site I’ve returned to this topic time and again with interesting and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

I’m really getting into the grove as far as my new routine and it feels great to not have that guilt of not accomplishing everything. The house is cleaner, the chores are done and I know KnyghtMare is  a happier man because of it. If only I could get into a good run of writing [...]

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Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 4 comments

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

13, May | 17 comments

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

3, April | 10 comments


Book Review: Haven of Obedience

In Marina Anderson’s Haven of Obedience, high-powered London businesswoman Natalie Bowen visits a secret weekend retreat for successful professionals who want to explore their sexuality and experiment under the tutelage of skilled mentors who can rid them of habits that keep them locked in destructive relationship and bedroom behaviors and teach them how to free [...]

9, September | Leave a comment

Book Review- Unveiled: The Secret Submissive Within

I feel very lucky to have gotten the chance to read Michelle Fegatofi’s book “Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within”. If the author’s name sounds familiar it’s probably because of her personal blog BDSM Unveiled. She started her blog back in November 2012 and since then has written on a large variety of topics to help those [...]

19, August | Leave a comment

Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

22, July | Leave a comment

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

30, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Slave (Finding Anna Book 1)

I’m sure you all have noticed that I am an avid reader by all the recent book reviews I have done for Submissive Guide. Reading has always been a passion of mine and even more so when it happens to be of a topic of interest. I had stumbled across “Slave” by Sherri Hayes on [...]

17, June | 1 comment

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