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Ask lunaKM – Is he Dominant or Domineering?

Ask lunaKM – Is he Dominant or Domineering?

Luna, I got involved with dominant man, long distance then face to face. I knew him as friend and he guided me into his spanko world. Somehow my experience left me debased and questioning is he dominant or just domineering. He was condescending to me even knowing that I never been spanked. Insisted on bruising [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Stay Safe
Weekend Giveaway: Miss Kitten Slave Collar by Beautifully Bound (1 Winner)

Weekend Giveaway: Miss Kitten Slave Collar by Beautifully Bound (1 Winner)

Look at what we have for one lucky winner this week! Sully Bear and her Sir, owners of Beautifully Bound have graciously donated this Miss Kitten slave collar to one lucky Submissive Guide winner! Enter now for your chance to win a Miss Kitten slave collar from Beautifully Bound! Beautifully Bound makes luxury hand made [...]

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Ask lunaKM – I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest

Ask lunaKM – I Need More Rules, But I Don’t Know What to Suggest

I told my Dom I needed more to do, as far rules, responsibilities etc.. what are some good things for me to do?? We both work full-time but I need routine..any suggestions? He’s asking me to give Him examples and I have nothing.. thank you!!  –Lovenvrdies Dear Lovenvrdies, Are you sure you need him to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Book Review- Unveiled: The Secret Submissive Within

I feel very lucky to have gotten the chance to read Michelle Fegatofi’s book “Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within”. If the author’s name sounds familiar it’s probably because of her personal blog BDSM Unveiled. She started her blog back in November 2012 and since then has written on a large variety of topics to help those [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – How can I teach my boyfriend about kink without affecting the dynamic?

Ask lunaKM – How can I teach my boyfriend about kink without affecting the dynamic?

My bf is vanilla but he’s interested in the lifestyle.  i have experience to teach him but I’m a sub. how do i educate him without affecting the power balance or offending him? Hi there! First, good on you for wanting to teach him what you know and for him wanting to learn! Does he [...]

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Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 4 comments

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

13, May | 17 comments

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

3, April | 9 comments


Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

22, July | Leave a comment

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

30, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Slave (Finding Anna Book 1)

I’m sure you all have noticed that I am an avid reader by all the recent book reviews I have done for Submissive Guide. Reading has always been a passion of mine and even more so when it happens to be of a topic of interest. I had stumbled across “Slave” by Sherri Hayes on [...]

17, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Domination and Submission – The BDSM Relationship Handbook

I’ve had this book for a very long time and while I didn’t start into it right away, it has taken me a long time to read. It’s not any fault of the book, it’s a fantastic book, it is just very long and the time I’ve had to read is very short! Don’t let [...]

28, May | 1 comment

Book Review: The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo

I came across ” The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo because well, I love Mollena Williams. She’s intelligent, quirky, has a great sense of humor, so why not read something she’s written? Everything I love about her personality shines in her writing. Not only that, but talking about taboo subjects is also an interest that grabbed [...]

13, May | Leave a comment

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