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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 7 of 7) – In Closing

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6 Part 7 In summary — play nice. BDSM is about playing games, and in the best games everyone [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
Feeling Like a Parrot: Saying What He Wants to Hear Instead of a Sincere Response

Feeling Like a Parrot: Saying What He Wants to Hear Instead of a Sincere Response

Dear Submissive Guide I hit the jackpot with my first (and quite likely only) Dom. He is kind and considerate and well, treats me like a queen. He makes being submissive to him so wonderful. But, in the rare times, we don’t see eye to eye and he tells me what he wants, he will [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

Sample Dominant/submissive Contract

This written contract is an excerpt from Darling Discovered:A True Story of Submission. This is my recounting of the year my husband and I began exploring Power Exchange both inside and outside of the bedroom. Feel free to use this contract as a template for what will or will not work for your relationship. I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

This is part two of the guide to starting D/s relationships. If you missed part 1, you may want to go and read that first. In the previous article, we talked about how a relationship develops in basic terms, why it’s important to identify the mechanics and what more you can expect from a D/s [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Simply Service eZine: November 2006

Simply Service eZine: November 2006

Hello again! This month with another look back at a resource from the past.  Remember, much of the content of these newsletters is still relevant today so take some time to read it! From the newsletter’s description; Current contributors are all slave or submissive identified, and in real time relationships where obedience and service are necessary, valued skills, achieved [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service


[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

8, February | 1 comment

[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

In the previous video about rules I talked about how to set up rules in an D/s or M/s relationship and the incorporating them into your relaxed or structured dynamic. Check out the previous video post if you missed it. Today I want to talk abut after rules are selected and you are practicing them [...]

16, September | 1 comment

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

11, April | 1 comment

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

31, March | 5 comments

[Video Post] The Evolution of Submission or Why I’m Glad I’m Not the Submissive I Was Ten Years Ago

  I’m not the submissive I was ten years ago. I’m someone different, someone more. It’s really hard to put a finger to exactly what makes me who I am today, but I am grateful that I’ve traveled this journey and progressed into what I feel is a more genuine me. And it’s not just [...]

10, March | 2 comments


Book Review: Broken Toys: Submissives with Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

There are a lot of us in the lifestyle who deal with mental illness or a type of neurological dysfunction. There are numerous groups on Fetlife and articles on the Internet dealing with being in a power exchange relationship when having a mental illness. Unfortunately, there aren’t that many sources about being in a power [...]

10, January | Leave a comment

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/9/16 When I started exploring BDSM and D/s relationships in 2003 there weren’t a lot of resources available. Those that were available were considered bibles of BDSM, essential reading for those who wanted books to read. (Which seems self-serving since they were the only resources, of  course people suggested reading [...]

14, November | 2 comments

Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

In my quest to read books that have been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library for awhile now, I stumbled across The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge edited by Tristian Taormino. I had even forgotten that I had purchased this book. I feel a bit stupid for [...]

3, November | Leave a comment

Review: Vondage – Vegan Bondage Gear from

If you are someone who would rather not use animal products, finding BDSM gear of any sort that gives you the same feel as leather but is conscious of your choices is difficult at best. The Stockroom has presented an answer and I’d have to say they are pretty good! What am I talking about? [...]

19, September | Leave a comment

Book Review: BDSM-The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer

I picked up BDSM – The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer a while ago. And by a while ago, I mean since 2012. It’s been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library and part of my reading goals this year was to read some of those books that have sat untouched for a [...]

30, August | 1 comment

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