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Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex

How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality – Taking What You’ve Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

It’s no secret that 50 Shades of Gray is a huge media success. It’s brought about fame for the author and attracted many people to the theaters to see the film adaptation. But it has also brought curious people to this site and many like it for answers and exploration. Many people first get introduced [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

A Lesson on The Importance of Online Safety from Kitty Thomas’ “Tender Mercies”

In my continuous effort to read the books that have been in the bottom of my Kindle, I came across Kitty Thomas’ Tender Mercies. It wasn’t until I finished it and was writing a review that I realized what a great lesson this piece of fiction can teach those in the lifestyle, especially those that [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Expectations of Sex BDSM is not always about sex. BDSM is not synonymous with swinging, swapping, or Polyamory — although it’s possible for it to co-exist with these lifestyles. A [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Rituals and Routines


[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

In the previous video about rules I talked about how to set up rules in an D/s or M/s relationship and the incorporating them into your relaxed or structured dynamic. Check out the previous video post if you missed it. Today I want to talk abut after rules are selected and you are practicing them [...]

16, September | 1 comment

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

11, April | 1 comment

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

31, March | 5 comments

[Video Post] The Evolution of Submission or Why I’m Glad I’m Not the Submissive I Was Ten Years Ago

  I’m not the submissive I was ten years ago. I’m someone different, someone more. It’s really hard to put a finger to exactly what makes me who I am today, but I am grateful that I’ve traveled this journey and progressed into what I feel is a more genuine me. And it’s not just [...]

10, March | 2 comments

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

Continuing the video series on Beginning BDSM we are going to talk about safewords. So, in this series so far we’ve talked about how to define your kink, looking for a partner and staying safe. So, perhaps you’ve found someone you’d like to develop a kinky relationship with and are ready to explore play. You [...]

25, February | Leave a comment


Book Review: Broken Toys: Submissives with Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

There are a lot of us in the lifestyle who deal with mental illness or a type of neurological dysfunction. There are numerous groups on Fetlife and articles on the Internet dealing with being in a power exchange relationship when having a mental illness. Unfortunately, there aren’t that many sources about being in a power [...]

10, January | Leave a comment

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/9/16 When I started exploring BDSM and D/s relationships in 2003 there weren’t a lot of resources available. Those that were available were considered bibles of BDSM, essential reading for those who wanted books to read. (Which seems self-serving since they were the only resources, of  course people suggested reading [...]

14, November | 2 comments

Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

In my quest to read books that have been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library for awhile now, I stumbled across The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge edited by Tristian Taormino. I had even forgotten that I had purchased this book. I feel a bit stupid for [...]

3, November | Leave a comment

Review: Vondage – Vegan Bondage Gear from

If you are someone who would rather not use animal products, finding BDSM gear of any sort that gives you the same feel as leather but is conscious of your choices is difficult at best. The Stockroom has presented an answer and I’d have to say they are pretty good! What am I talking about? [...]

19, September | Leave a comment

Book Review: BDSM-The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer

I picked up BDSM – The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer a while ago. And by a while ago, I mean since 2012. It’s been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library and part of my reading goals this year was to read some of those books that have sat untouched for a [...]

30, August | 1 comment

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