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Being Submissive in a Vanilla World and How to Balance it Out

Being Submissive in a Vanilla World and How to Balance it Out

Things have changed a bit in our household in the past few weeks. The biggest change(and the one thing that has caused other things to change-yay snowball effect!)has been that I have started my German language course required by the immigration office This means that I now have class from 8:45 AM until 12:45 PM, [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Service, Submission
Why That Dominant You Found Online Just Disappeared After a Short Time

Why That Dominant You Found Online Just Disappeared After a Short Time

Here’s a scenario I get presented to me a lot in my email and pleas for help and advice: A submissive talks to a person identifying as Dominant online for a few hours, days or weeks. They have intimate talks, compatibility seems to be through the roof and the cyber sex and play, webcams or [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submission
Introduction to Kink with Mollena Williams: Polyamory Weekly

Introduction to Kink with Mollena Williams: Polyamory Weekly

This week’s podcast from Polyamory Weekly is a good one! Sit down for a cup of your favorite hot beverage and listen as Mollena Williams, co-author of “Playing Well with Others” talks about how to safely enter the BDSM community and how to find people to play with! Poly Weekly ep. 389 Subscribe to PolyWeekly [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions

Dolly Learns To Balance Kink and Everyday Life

This is a guest post by Dolly. My wanderings into BDSM and Dom/sub space started a few years ago with my partner, initially as a within-bedroom-limits play. In a whirlwind of exploration, delicious pain, laughter and the most deviant of confessions, we now find ourselves in a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship. As rewarding, grounding and indulgent [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships, Submission
Impact Play: Twitter Chat April 16, 2014 #domsubchat

Impact Play: Twitter Chat April 16, 2014 #domsubchat

Are you a twitteraholic? This might be the chat for you! Join Submissive Guide and Dominant Guide as we co-host a twitter chat on Impact Play! You will want to follow @subguide and @domguide and use the hashtag #domsubchat for any conversation during our chat. I hope to see a lot of you participating! I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...


Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 2 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 3 comments

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

13, May | 14 comments

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

3, April | 7 comments


Book Review: Socrates Inspires Cherry to Blossom (The Online Dom)

Everyone is going to start thinking that Red Phoenix has me on her payroll considering all the recent reviews of her books. I’m just one of those people who when they come across something worth reading, I can’t keep it to myself, which is exactly why I’m sharing with you today “Socrates Inspires Cherry to [...]

12, March | 3 comments

Book Review – Becoming a Slave

I had stumbled across “Becoming a Slave” by Jack Rinella while I was seeing what Amazon had in the way of non-fiction lifestyle books. With all the options that were presented to me, it was hard to pick just one. I settled on “Becoming a Slave” because I had heard the author’s name mentioned a [...]

26, February | Leave a comment

Book Review: Natural Law: 2 (Nature of Desire)

This is a guest review by Swytchy. I enjoyed reading Natural Law by Joey W. Hill. She had me from the cover with the male sub tied up in rope, kneeling, with his head bowed. While I enjoy Dom/female sub stories, I find I need Domme/male sub stories to balance it out. Does that make [...]

21, February | Leave a comment

Book Review: Brie Embraces the Heart of Submission: After Graduation

Since I did a review for “Brie Learns the Art of Submission: Submissive Training Center”, I wanted to also do a review for the follow-up novel, “Brie Pleases Her New Master: After Graduation”. Author Red Phoenix hadn’t originally planned to write the squeal, but she had so many fans wanting to know what happened with [...]

31, January | 3 comments

Book Review: The Posh Girl’s Guide to Play

With the influx of “guides to play” after 50 Shades of Grey went viral mainstream it was only a matter of time when I would be presented with one to review and give my opinion about. The Posh Girl’s Guide to Play by Alexis Lass is one such guide. So, without mentioning that book again, [...]

13, December | Leave a comment