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[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

Kayla Lords had an excellent series on Submissive Guide awhile ago about Entering the BDSM and D/s communities and I wanted to put it together for you all in one place. Download it today!

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Support me on Patreon! It’s no secret that keeping this site going costs money and while my passion for educating and supporting the BDSM community have not wavered, the income needed to continue to grow this site is on the rise. I have so many hopes and dreams and goals for Submissive Guide and I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Ask Submissive Guide – Being Transgender and Public BDSM Play

Ask Submissive Guide – Being Transgender and Public BDSM Play

Dear Submissive Guide, I’m new to the scene and realizing I’m very interested in submission and masochism. I’m also gay and transgender (an FtM who is attracted to men). I’m gearing up the courage to go to a play party, and while I might not play at my first one I will want to play [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/24/16 “The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” Submissive Guide was started not to just share what I know, it is also, at least for me, a way to continue to learn by talking out my struggles and answering the questions presented to [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Submissive Guide Takes a Holiday

From everyone here at Submissive Guide, including myself, my contributor team, KnyghtMare, my Master and the guy behind the site and server I want to wish you a very happy holidays. With every holiday, the site takes a break and I wanted to let you know that while we spend time with friends and family, [...]

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Videos

[Video Post] 3 Challenges of Having Rules in a D/s Relationship

In the previous video about rules I talked about how to set up rules in an D/s or M/s relationship and the incorporating them into your relaxed or structured dynamic. Check out the previous video post if you missed it. Today I want to talk abut after rules are selected and you are practicing them [...]

16, September | 1 comment

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

11, April | 1 comment

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

31, March | 3 comments

[Video Post] The Evolution of Submission or Why I’m Glad I’m Not the Submissive I Was Ten Years Ago

  I’m not the submissive I was ten years ago. I’m someone different, someone more. It’s really hard to put a finger to exactly what makes me who I am today, but I am grateful that I’ve traveled this journey and progressed into what I feel is a more genuine me. And it’s not just [...]

10, March | 1 comment

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

Continuing the video series on Beginning BDSM we are going to talk about safewords. So, in this series so far we’ve talked about how to define your kink, looking for a partner and staying safe. So, perhaps you’ve found someone you’d like to develop a kinky relationship with and are ready to explore play. You [...]

25, February | Leave a comment

Reviews

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/9/16 When I started exploring BDSM and D/s relationships in 2003 there weren’t a lot of resources available. Those that were available were considered bibles of BDSM, essential reading for those who wanted books to read. (Which seems self-serving since they were the only resources, of  course people suggested reading [...]

14, November | Leave a comment

Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

In my quest to read books that have been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library for awhile now, I stumbled across The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge edited by Tristian Taormino. I had even forgotten that I had purchased this book. I feel a bit stupid for [...]

3, November | Leave a comment

Review: Vondage – Vegan Bondage Gear from Stockroom.com

If you are someone who would rather not use animal products, finding BDSM gear of any sort that gives you the same feel as leather but is conscious of your choices is difficult at best. The Stockroom has presented an answer and I’d have to say they are pretty good! What am I talking about? [...]

19, September | Leave a comment

Book Review: BDSM-The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer

I picked up BDSM – The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer a while ago. And by a while ago, I mean since 2012. It’s been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library and part of my reading goals this year was to read some of those books that have sat untouched for a [...]

30, August | 1 comment

Review: Medium Weight Flogger by House Of Eros from Bondage Bunnies

If I think back to my early days of kink, I’d have to say that my first tool was a wooden spoon, but not far behind that was a flogger. I don’t recall it being a fancy flogger as I was limited on budget, but I liked it and it lasted me for years until [...]

8, August | Leave a comment

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