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Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Ask lunaKM – How To Approach Dommes on FetLife

Dear Annie, Well my question is quite simple. Im a submissive cross dresser from the UK, and have been dressing for many years now. One of the main reasons i dress is because I have a very strong submissive side, and many of the fetishes to go along with that. My question is simple, I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Play and Sex, Reviews
Ask lunaKM – How to Rebuild Self-Esteem

Ask lunaKM – How to Rebuild Self-Esteem

Dear lunaKM, After a series of bad relationships that included verbal and emotional abuse I feel as if I have lost myself and my self esteem and respect. I know that you cannot love and respect someone else until you love and respect yourself but I was just wondering how I could go about rebuilding [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Social Norms

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/19/14 The Birth of Safe, Sane and Consensual Historically, David Stein is the person who first coined the phrase in 1983 for the Gay Male SM Activists Group that he co-founded. It was then used as the slogan in the SM Rights contingent of the Gay Rights march to the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Newsletter Archive
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

I live in a sea of boxes. That is all. Become a Submissive Guide Patron! I work hard to write and produce the content and I don’t ask for much in return. This is a small way you can show me that you appreciate my efforts. If you love what Submissive Guide provides, the site [...]

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Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 4 comments

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

13, May | 16 comments

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

3, April | 7 comments


Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

30, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Slave (Finding Anna Book 1)

I’m sure you all have noticed that I am an avid reader by all the recent book reviews I have done for Submissive Guide. Reading has always been a passion of mine and even more so when it happens to be of a topic of interest. I had stumbled across “Slave” by Sherri Hayes on [...]

17, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Domination and Submission – The BDSM Relationship Handbook

I’ve had this book for a very long time and while I didn’t start into it right away, it has taken me a long time to read. It’s not any fault of the book, it’s a fantastic book, it is just very long and the time I’ve had to read is very short! Don’t let [...]

28, May | 1 comment

Book Review: The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo

I came across ” The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo because well, I love Mollena Williams. She’s intelligent, quirky, has a great sense of humor, so why not read something she’s written? Everything I love about her personality shines in her writing. Not only that, but talking about taboo subjects is also an interest that grabbed [...]

13, May | Leave a comment

The Top 3 Books I Recommend to Everyone New to BDSM

Since the late 90′s there has been an increase in the number of books available for people wanting information about BDSM and D/s style relationships. I can’t say it’s a saturated market, but it is overwhelming sometimes trying to find quality material to read that won’t leave you confused or stuck in a “this is [...]

30, April | Leave a comment

Want to get More from Play? The Improved and Expanded Processing Pain in Play ebookTeaches you How!