Mentoring, self-help and submissive exploration

Newest Articles

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks, The release of the “50 Shades of Gray” movie has a lot of people talking. Here’s the trailer if you are curious. Are you planning to see it? What do you think the impression will be about the BDSM community? Join the growing list of fans that get to hang out with me [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions:  Episode 2 – Butt Stretching

No Stupid (Sex Toy) Questions: Episode 2 – Butt Stretching

Question 2: So I kinda would like to explore bigger toys in my butt, but you hear all these myths. Like, if you go too big you’ll make your butthole so loose you become incontinent and other gross stuff. Is this true? No. In fact, just like the vagina, the muscles in the anus are [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Rayne Millaray | Posted in: Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Presenting Gifts, Your BDSM Role Test, and First Meeting Safety

Ask lunaKM – Presenting Gifts, Your BDSM Role Test, and First Meeting Safety

Hi luna can you give me the proper way to give a gift to my mistress it is at a public party and she knows what it is. I think you are over thinking things a bit. Power exchange relationships don’t change every single thing about living or interacting with people. Gift giving, unless she [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How I Prepare for Master’s Visit

How I Prepare for Master’s Visit

For whatever reason it seems that many members of the BDSM community are in long-distance, or temporarily long-distance relationships with our dominants. In some of the online forums I am a part of I regularly see submissives and babygirls freaking out in the days before their dominant arrives for a visit – as I am [...]

Leave a comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Service
BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Video Posts


BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

15, December | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment


Book Review: Unconventional Desires by Victoria L. Sadler

Unconventional Desires: A Dairy of Discovery….Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism is the début novel from Victoria L. Sadler. Mrs. Sadler contacted me and asked if I would be interested in reviewing her book for Submissive Guide and being the avid reader of BDSM fiction that I am, I happily accepted and I can honestly say [...]

16, December | 3 comments

Book Review: The BDSM Coloring Book

This is a guest post by LibrarianBrat. Hello, I am LibrarianBrat and I am a little. When I am a little I range in age between 5-8. In my adult life I have a master’s degree in Library and Information Sciences and am currently a PhD student. Luna asked me to write a review of [...]

5, December | 2 comments

Book Review: Real Service

I bought this book on a recommendation from a member of Fetlife who commented on a post I created asking about different types of service. I can honestly say that purchasing this book is one of those things I can call one of the better decisions I’ve made in my life. While the book isn’t [...]

14, November | Leave a comment

Book Review: Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive

I had this book recommended to me by a reader on Twitter and I couldn’t pass up an opportunity to review a book by request. 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive by Elizabeth Cramer is available as a paperback or an ebook. I purchased mine through Amazon Kindle.  I have [...]

27, October | 4 comments

Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or [...]

7, October | Leave a comment