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Getting started at the kinky buffet

I will never forget the feeling of “coming home” when I opened the door to BDSM. My whole being was able to relax knowing I was submissive and that I was not the only one. I was also excited beyond belief and felt like I had so much to learn about this new side of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – When stress increases my submissive drive crashes, help!

Ask lunaKM – When stress increases my submissive drive crashes, help!

Dear lunaKM, I’m fairly new to the lifestyle and Master is quite experienced. I enjoy everything that we’ve done and look forward to more. Until I met Master, I didn’t know I was submissive so this is a whole new world. I haven’t had any issues with following his rules and have been very obedient. [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Learn to Submit
How I Balance Independence and Submission

How I Balance Independence and Submission

Are you a strong and independent person who identifies with the “right side of the slash” (as in /submissive or /slave)?  Are you confused by your submissive drive given that you don’t consider yourself to be a submissive person? When I wrote about empowerment through submission, several people contacted me to learn more about how [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit
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How Far Should You Go On a First Date?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/6/14 When I was a novice submissive I was single and searching for a Dominant to be my playmate, my partner and my lover. I explored all the places online that existed at the time, many that do not exist now or have been replaced by better sites. I was, in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks, With just 20 days until Christmas I’m feeling in the holiday spirit. For me it has nothing to do with gifts or seasonal foods, but the magic that seems to be around. From the beauty of snowfall to the twinkling lights, cozy sweaters (even the ugly ones) and the spirit of charity all [...]

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BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 5 comments


Book Review: The BDSM Coloring Book

This is a guest post by LibrarianBrat. Hello, I am LibrarianBrat and I am a little. When I am a little I range in age between 5-8. In my adult life I have a master’s degree in Library and Information Sciences and am currently a PhD student. Luna asked me to write a review of [...]

5, December | 2 comments

Book Review: Real Service

I bought this book on a recommendation from a member of Fetlife who commented on a post I created asking about different types of service. I can honestly say that purchasing this book is one of those things I can call one of the better decisions I’ve made in my life. While the book isn’t [...]

14, November | Leave a comment

Book Review: Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive

I had this book recommended to me by a reader on Twitter and I couldn’t pass up an opportunity to review a book by request. 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive by Elizabeth Cramer is available as a paperback or an ebook. I purchased mine through Amazon Kindle.  I have [...]

27, October | 4 comments

Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or [...]

7, October | Leave a comment

Book Review: Haven of Obedience

In Marina Anderson’s Haven of Obedience, high-powered London businesswoman Natalie Bowen visits a secret weekend retreat for successful professionals who want to explore their sexuality and experiment under the tutelage of skilled mentors who can rid them of habits that keep them locked in destructive relationship and bedroom behaviors and teach them how to free [...]

9, September | Leave a comment

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