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A Day in the Life: cyberkittenXLS

A Day in the Life: cyberkittenXLS

This is a guest post by cyberkittenXLS for the A Day in the Life Series. I will preface this by saying there is not really a “typical” day for me as I work 2 part-time retail jobs. That being said let’s assume I work afternoon to evening for this… I wake up to our toddler’s [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Live Singlehood Vibrantly with Blyss’ New Book – Single In the Scene

Live Singlehood Vibrantly with Blyss’ New Book – Single In the Scene

Take your submission to the next level while embracing the single life As a single submissive you don’t have to spend every day trying to find a partner and lamenting your single status, you can learn to embrace your single life from someone who has done it all before and can show you how to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – A Beginner’s Guide to D/s

Ask lunaKM – A Beginner’s Guide to D/s

Dear lunaKM, Is there a beginner’s guide I can read to tell me what I am supposed to d and what to expect with this? I met a Daddy Dom and he wants me to be his Daddy’s Girl. But I would like to know more about this life before I move to be with [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Feeling down after a play session?

One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing [...]

Leave a comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Play and Sex
Identifying as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

Identifying as Monogamous in a Poly Dynamic

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/22/14 I’ve written a few times about the change in my personal relationship with KnyghtMare and I. He had play and relationship needs that I couldn’t meet and it was creating a rift between us. The only solution that we could see was to open up the relationship. It evolved [...]


BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have [...]

19, January | 3 comments

BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

15, December | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 6 comments


Book Review: 62Q: Sixty-Two Questions for Your Dominant by Michael Makai

Thanks to lunaKM’s review of Michael Makai’s Domination and Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook, I’d been interested in reading one of his books. I became even more interested when I heard in a BDSM related Facebook group I’m in how many people had enjoyed reading his books. When he released his latest book 62Q and [...]

30, January | Leave a comment

Book Review: Unconventional Desires by Victoria L. Sadler

Unconventional Desires: A Dairy of Discovery….Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism is the début novel from Victoria L. Sadler. Mrs. Sadler contacted me and asked if I would be interested in reviewing her book for Submissive Guide and being the avid reader of BDSM fiction that I am, I happily accepted and I can honestly say [...]

16, December | 3 comments

Book Review: The BDSM Coloring Book

This is a guest post by LibrarianBrat. Hello, I am LibrarianBrat and I am a little. When I am a little I range in age between 5-8. In my adult life I have a master’s degree in Library and Information Sciences and am currently a PhD student. Luna asked me to write a review of [...]

5, December | 2 comments

Book Review: Real Service

I bought this book on a recommendation from a member of Fetlife who commented on a post I created asking about different types of service. I can honestly say that purchasing this book is one of those things I can call one of the better decisions I’ve made in my life. While the book isn’t [...]

14, November | Leave a comment

Book Review: Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive

I had this book recommended to me by a reader on Twitter and I couldn’t pass up an opportunity to review a book by request. 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive by Elizabeth Cramer is available as a paperback or an ebook. I purchased mine through Amazon Kindle.  I have [...]

27, October | 4 comments

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