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Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment

Being Fully Present: Slowing Down to Live in the Moment

Sunday morning, we were sitting at the dining room table finishing breakfast. Sir sat there, sipped His tea slowly and thoughtfully. He was deep in the stillness of the moment. I was a different story. My mind began to race with all the lists of to-do’s and should-do’s that awaited us for the day ahead. [...]

2 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Mindset
Submissive Chat Night – Free Chat

Submissive Chat Night – Free Chat

It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday night for a bit of conversation. The topic is going to be free chat. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships. Info When: 10/28/14  8 PM CST [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – I Want My Boyfriend to be More Dominant in Bed

Ask lunaKM – I Want My Boyfriend to be More Dominant in Bed

Hello.. Umm I don’t know how to start this.. You see I’m trying to get my boyfriend to be more dominant in the bedroom. I understand the whole communication part and we communicate great.. About other things.. When I comes to sex and telling him what I like I afraid I might scare him. But, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because, it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Relationships
A Symbol for Dominants?

A Symbol for Dominants?

The collar you wear is a reminder of your submission and your relationship with your Dominant. It can mean the same as a wedding ring or that you are submissive to them for a certain period of time. More often than not, the Dominant is the one who gave you that collar. But is there [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships


BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 4 comments


Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or [...]

7, October | Leave a comment

Book Review: Haven of Obedience

In Marina Anderson’s Haven of Obedience, high-powered London businesswoman Natalie Bowen visits a secret weekend retreat for successful professionals who want to explore their sexuality and experiment under the tutelage of skilled mentors who can rid them of habits that keep them locked in destructive relationship and bedroom behaviors and teach them how to free [...]

9, September | Leave a comment

Book Review- Unveiled: The Secret Submissive Within

I feel very lucky to have gotten the chance to read Michelle Fegatofi’s book “Unveiled-The Secret Submissive Within”. If the author’s name sounds familiar it’s probably because of her personal blog BDSM Unveiled. She started her blog back in November 2012 and since then has written on a large variety of topics to help those [...]

19, August | Leave a comment

Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

22, July | Leave a comment

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

30, June | 1 comment

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