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Weekend Giveaway: Dungeon Play Pack from Deep Stealth Dungeon (1 Winner)

Weekend Giveaway: Dungeon Play Pack from Deep Stealth Dungeon (1 Winner)

Deep Stealth Dungeon has fantastic deals on all sorts of dungeon gear! This weekend they are giving away a Play Pack to one lucky Submissive Guide reader! Please note this giveaway is for North American residents only. Enter now for your chance as this prize package from Deep Stealth Dungeon! Here’s what you get if [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – I’m a Secret and I Don’t Like It

Ask lunaKM – I’m a Secret and I Don’t Like It

Yes I had been in this lifestyle with the same Master going on six years now. I had just find out where he works, phone number etc. But I have not met anyone in his family or his friends. I am kept a secret and he is separated from his wife. He said to me [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Ask lunaKM – Is he Ignoring me or has he moved on?

Dear LunaKMI am a novice sub who found her  first Master about a 5 weeks ago.  We live about 200 miles apart and have mainly instant messaged, telephoned and skyped.  About 3 weeks ago we met for the first time and it was wonderful.  He asked for my submission about a week into the relationship [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Online Submission
It’s Okay to be New

It’s Okay to be New

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/3/14 Oftentimes, the first lines of an email to me or an opening thread in a discussion group go something like this; “I’m new and am nervous to ask these silly questions so be nice to me.” “I’m really embarrassed to ask since I’m so new, but…” “I’m new to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Newsletter Archive


Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment

Natural Pain Processing Techniques

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

12, February | 4 comments

[Video Post] Your Responsibilities Go Beyond ‘Obedience’

I read a forum thread the other day that rubbed me the wrong way. So I thought I’d talk about it and share my opinion on the subject. I would love to hear how you would answer this same question. The topic was asking what a submissive’s/slave’s responsibilities were in a relationship. Out of the [...]

13, May | 16 comments

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

3, April | 7 comments


Book Review: Processing Pain in Play

I got the chance to buy lunaKM’s new version of Processing Pain in Play a littler earlier than everyone else because I had previously purchased the book. And, I hate to admit this, but despite purchasing the previous version of Processing Pain, I had not read it. *hangs head in shame* I know, I know. [...]

22, July | Leave a comment

Video Review: Kink for Beginners

There are a lot of great resources out there to read online about the lifestyle, but some people tend to learn better visually and there’s not a lot options out there. Mistress Lilith Starr and her slave Uruk Black have fixed that. They have put together an amazing video, Kink for Beginners. Lilith and Uruk [...]

30, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Slave (Finding Anna Book 1)

I’m sure you all have noticed that I am an avid reader by all the recent book reviews I have done for Submissive Guide. Reading has always been a passion of mine and even more so when it happens to be of a topic of interest. I had stumbled across “Slave” by Sherri Hayes on [...]

17, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Domination and Submission – The BDSM Relationship Handbook

I’ve had this book for a very long time and while I didn’t start into it right away, it has taken me a long time to read. It’s not any fault of the book, it’s a fantastic book, it is just very long and the time I’ve had to read is very short! Don’t let [...]

28, May | 1 comment

Book Review: The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo

I came across ” The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo because well, I love Mollena Williams. She’s intelligent, quirky, has a great sense of humor, so why not read something she’s written? Everything I love about her personality shines in her writing. Not only that, but talking about taboo subjects is also an interest that grabbed [...]

13, May | Leave a comment

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