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BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

BDSM Basics – How Do I Find Someone to Play With?

It’s the burning question on our lips now isn’t it? Through the earlier posts we’ve learned whether you are kinky, what role or roles we might enjoy and how to stay safe when exploring kink. So it makes sense that you now want to know how to find someone to experiment with and maybe have [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Video Posts
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks, Nothing has really happened this week in the KnyghtMare household. I’ve spent much of the week reading the Game of Thrones books. I’m finally in the fifth book and I’m sure I’ll be like much of the rest of RR Martin’s fans and beg him to get the next one out sooner rather [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
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Flogging: Getting Started

We sat in a friend’s living room as they showed us their collection of floggers. Each one a little different from the last. Some with more weight in the handle, some with thin tails, and still others were fluffy. This is what my introduction to kinky toys looked like. Floggers are a very common first [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Ask lunaKM – Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Hello Luna, Just have been wondering something lately and I was hoping you could help out. Is it possible to be someone’s submissive if there’s one thing you just cannot give up control over? I am an incredibly picky eater and it’s actually my biggest fear in life to try new foods. I know it’s [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Stop Serving Yourself: An Inspirational Un-Collaring Ceremony

A few months ago, I came across writing on Kinky and Popular called “An Uncollaring Ceremony”. The title caught my eye so I clicked, and I am so happy I did because this writing resonated something inside of me and caused me to think of my submission. It made me think about walls that we, [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Mindset, Relationships


BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

15, December | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

17, October | Leave a comment

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It [...]

3, October | 1 comment

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

18, March | 5 comments

Learning About Negative Pain Processing Methods

If you ask any sadist what they enjoy out of pain play, it’s likely going to be watching the bottom respond to the pain. The more response, the higher the enjoyment for the top. Why is this important? Well, if the method of pain management doesn’t allow you to respond well to the pain, then [...]

3, March | Leave a comment


Book Review: Unconventional Desires by Victoria L. Sadler

Unconventional Desires: A Dairy of Discovery….Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism is the début novel from Victoria L. Sadler. Mrs. Sadler contacted me and asked if I would be interested in reviewing her book for Submissive Guide and being the avid reader of BDSM fiction that I am, I happily accepted and I can honestly say [...]

16, December | 3 comments

Book Review: The BDSM Coloring Book

This is a guest post by LibrarianBrat. Hello, I am LibrarianBrat and I am a little. When I am a little I range in age between 5-8. In my adult life I have a master’s degree in Library and Information Sciences and am currently a PhD student. Luna asked me to write a review of [...]

5, December | 2 comments

Book Review: Real Service

I bought this book on a recommendation from a member of Fetlife who commented on a post I created asking about different types of service. I can honestly say that purchasing this book is one of those things I can call one of the better decisions I’ve made in my life. While the book isn’t [...]

14, November | Leave a comment

Book Review: Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive

I had this book recommended to me by a reader on Twitter and I couldn’t pass up an opportunity to review a book by request. 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be a Submissive by Elizabeth Cramer is available as a paperback or an ebook. I purchased mine through Amazon Kindle.  I have [...]

27, October | 4 comments

Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or [...]

7, October | Leave a comment