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lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks! We signed a lease on Thursday! It’s a much smaller place than we are currently but are willing to work with our situation and it will help us get back on track towards are dreams. KnyghtMare’s unemployment really hindered us but we will recover. We are moving in just over 2 weeks. I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Weekend Giveaway: Enough to Make You Blush by Princess Kali (1 Winner)

Weekend Giveaway: Enough to Make You Blush by Princess Kali (1 Winner)

This contest is for US readers only. This week’s giveaway is from Princess Kali. She has donated a copy of her amazing book on erotic humiliation called Enough to Make You Blush. I raved about it in a review here on the site if you wish to check it out. We also held a book [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask Submissive Guide: Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

Ask Submissive Guide: Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

Dear Submissive Guide, My Dom and I are basically in a LDR. We have been together for about 8 months. His job requirements are such that he travels consistently. In our relationship he identified as poly and I have great interest as well. We decided that it would be in our best interest to become [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

There is plenty of questioning the 24/7 TPE M/s dynamic. Is it healthy? Is it even realistically possible? I wanted to share my thoughts on why it is not only healthy and realistic in real world application, but it creates incredibly happy and successful relationships. So quickly it has become the standard and expectation of [...]

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/19/16 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Consent: Compliance with or in approval of what is done or proposed by another. We talk about consent a lot. There is a very good reason for [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive


[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

11, April | 1 comment

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

31, March | 3 comments

[Video Post] The Evolution of Submission or Why I’m Glad I’m Not the Submissive I Was Ten Years Ago

  I’m not the submissive I was ten years ago. I’m someone different, someone more. It’s really hard to put a finger to exactly what makes me who I am today, but I am grateful that I’ve traveled this journey and progressed into what I feel is a more genuine me. And it’s not just [...]

10, March | 1 comment

[Video Post] Beginning BDSM: Using Safewords for Safe Play

Continuing the video series on Beginning BDSM we are going to talk about safewords. So, in this series so far we’ve talked about how to define your kink, looking for a partner and staying safe. So, perhaps you’ve found someone you’d like to develop a kinky relationship with and are ready to explore play. You [...]

25, February | Leave a comment

[Video Post] Ask lunaKM – A Non-Romantic BDSM Relationship, Is It Wise?

Judi is a Patron Member and as a perk of her support, she was able to ask me a question to be answered in a video post. You can get your question answered too! Join Patreon and support Submissive Guide. As a new sub, I have a lot to learn, and I am just starting [...]

30, September | 4 comments


Review: Black Titanium Wrist Cuff by Eternity Collars

24/7 slave wear is definitely something people are always asking me if I have suggestions or opinions. It’s probably because I’ve worn a stainless steel collar for over 7 years and I must have a lot of opinion. Perhaps. Last month I reviewed a steel rope collar from Eternity Collars and today I’m going to bring you a review [...]

13, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Darling Discovered by Mrs. Darling

Many of you have been asking me for more stories of real submissives and slaves, from how they found their Dominant to how their life is right now. Well, you are in for a treat! Our very own Mrs. Darling has written her story of discovery, Darling Discovered, and it’s available now on! Mrs. [...]

2, June | 1 comment

Book Review: Spanking for Lovers by Janet Hardy

A couple of weeks on Facebook, Janet Hardy (co-author of several amazing books including The Ethical Slut and The New Bottoming Book), asked for people who are interested in reviewing her new book, Spanking for Lovers and I had a total fangirl moment. I swear, if it had been in person, I would have been [...]

5, April | 4 comments

Book Review: M/s for the Rest of Us

Master/slave relationships are not usually more complex than D/s ones but they do have their own quirks and manners and behaviors that other relationships don’t have. Which is probably why when lifestyle books come out that are about relationships they are specific about which type of relationship they most relate to. In today’s book review, [...]

16, March | Leave a comment

Book Review: 31 Flavors of Kink by Leia Shaw and Cari Silverwood

I’ve done a lot of non fictional book reviews lately on Submissive Guide and it’s been awhile since I’ve done a fictional BDSM book review. While I do have several I want to do, this one in particular grabbed my attention and then caused my attention to start jumping up and down and screaming “Write [...]

1, March | Leave a comment

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