I have been married for about 2 years now. We have a pretty good sex life, but that being ran on we are both in our early 20's so we are already pretty horny, but we would like to start in something new. BDSM came to mind, so I would like to know where do you begin and how do you know if you are dom or sub? I can be a bossy at times, but I don't like having complete control of my life since it makes me to stressed out. My Hubby though, he can be very dominating at times, but he needs me to have some control in normal daily things. So I am not sure what that makes us out to be. Any help would be great!

Greetings,

When discovering BDSM, the most important thing to do is research. Talk to other people in the lifestyle, check out munches in your area ; you can go here and look up your area: Fetlife, and get a feel for what it is like and what may interest you. It is definitely not all about sex, unlike some would like to believe. There are many people like you and your husband, my husband and I are in fact. I take care of our home which includes others (another submissive) within it, children, bills, etc. But the final say of things within our home come down to my husband.

The most important thing is that you don't worry about labels. I went through that phase and it is more stressful than anything I have dealt with in the past because once you label yourself, people have expectations and make judgments. It takes the fun out of it. Explore this new realm and find out what works for the two of you. Good luck in your journey.

SehAnru