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6 responses to “Submissive Speech 4: How to Apologize”

  1. Miss Milano

    Hi, I’ve been a member for a while, I’ve never answered, I admit. I also admit, that,
    I’m on the “short bus” of understanding all these nuances and terms. I suppose I fall
    into some other category with being submissive. I disagree with much written and
    I lose the grace of being “door mat” or this run down in the actual language to be
    used. Mistakes made I know, I make them, but making a plea for forgiveness due to
    an emptied coffee cup? This is where I lose grace and would tell this dominate, to get
    up and get his or her own coffee. No apology needed from me. My view, I’m sure is
    wrong, but I find this trite and banal. My question becomes is this person looking for
    submissive behavior or a sycophant butt kissing?

    I’m lost in this fog of what I am, and why this topic is so difficult. Thxs Miss Milano

  2. kyrsten

    Thank you for this post. I find that I naturally follow a bit of this order, and I agree, it can be embarassing… When I am at work and I speak to him on the phone, I am often telling him “I’m sorry” I am VERY new to all of this, and just reading to educate myself on how to live this life and make him happy. I totally get the empty cup reference. I worry because I think I often say “I wont let this happen again” …and it does happen again… eventually I fear my apology looses its value…

  3. ian

    i have recently become an actual submissive and am more re-educating myself on this than just learning it. however when i originally learned the “material” of being polite and serving i was much younger and learned it through many many books. my practice at the time was also aimed more at diplomatic value. this article in paticular was very helpful. thank you very much, i am sure my lady will be happy of my re-education too

  4. MySubmittingSoul

    Right now I am living in the world of hope that My Master will leave her the same way he did me for her but ask them it’s a whole another story as always.. Yes he was my first Master he is who welcome me into the lifestyle.. I guess he just didn’t have the patients to finish training me.. Really that could go a few diff ways.. Sometimes i can be hard to handle. I always get the blame I not saying I didn’t do wrong n make mistakes.. But I didn’t break honest nor trust he did that all by himself.. I was faithful 100% the whole way but him on another story is diff.. But see the thing is he told me the story of how he was a Submissive and how he had a Mistress.. I mean shouldn’t he know how it feels doing a Sub that way pretty much leaving her to hang to dead by herself.. No I haven’t been the best Sub myself I have made my fair share of mistakes.. But he has done his to and I mean beyond being a Dom.. Maybe its just my personal opinion but I do feel like you would expect it more to come from the vanilla world then a Dom person. Maybe I’m wrong But to me that is or would be a FAKE DOM.. I Mean I am kinda new to this lifestyle myself I have only been in the lifestyle for about 6 month if even that.. When he left he left me in a world of darkness that I am lost in I really don’t know what to do next or where to even start at.. But I guess I’ll find my way some how but I have learn a very good listen from it.. But at the same time cause of the submissive within me I want to know how to write a I’m sorry letter to him cause I do love him and would like to still try and make it work with us.. Cause I haven’t given up on us, me nor him.. I want to win him back cause I know myself has done wrong.. I just don’t know where to start or here to end.. I’m confused about it all so I hope ya’ll Understand where I’m coming from and will be able to help me with something or what would be a good Sorry Letter to him.. If there is anything else anyone needs to know that will help just me I don’t mind answering.. I also hope my comment is fine and I’m stepping out off line cause I don’t want to.. So I hope it’s fine..

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