At the beginning of this blog I wrote about safewords. Just a reminder that a safeword is a signal that ends BDSM play and usually negotiated before play. It’s an excellent starting point but I left a part of it out. There will be occasions during BDSM play where you will be unable to speak. In these cases it is nice to have a backup signal to slow or stop the play. Many of these times you are tied up, gagged or otherwise unable to vocalize. When you can’t talk you need a safe object.
When the time comes that you may need a way out of a scene then these can be some useful signals.
- Hold a set of keys or other noisy item in your hand to drop when needed.
- A dog trainer’s clicker to raise an alarm.
- Hand signals.
- Making three clear and rhythmic grunts as a pre-defined signal to stop.
- Top places finger in bottom’s hand; squeeze to check in with an ‘OK’.
- Something easily visible in low light, glow sticks work well.
What else can we add to this list?
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we use tapping out (two taps on the person or the floor, whichever is more available).
We use a ball or leather glove in my hand if we are playing someace noisy. Otherwise, I’m ordered to hum happy birthday if I’m gagged.
Oh I love the idea of humming a song, that’s a wonderful way to get your Dominant’s attention!
When I am being asked how I am doing, we use a number system… 1=green…2=yellow…3=red.. Usually it doesnt even need to get to that, since my Dom and Domme both know me very well. Better to be safe than sorry though..
hold on to a bell or rattle you can drop or shake when needed. To go a step further you could put a bell in one hand and something else that makes a different noise in the other one to signify some sort of non-scene stopping problem and another to signify use of a safeword.
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