This is a guest post by ~melly. She’s in a Daddy/little girl dynamic and volunteered to write this post for Submissive Guide.
i’ve slept with a teddy bear all my life. this may seem insignificant, but it’s really not,. i had my teddy bear with me when i moved in with Master. i held him every night, and was tucked in with him when Master sent me to bed. When i was moved into a kennel for sleeping, the bear moved with me. This was the jumping off point for my D/g relationship with Master. When reaching for my bear one night, i felt especially “small”. i whined in a very little-girl-like manner. And looking up at Master, i felt comforted in a way that piqued something in me.
Later, i expressed to Master my little girl inside. i’ve always been child-like in my wonder and expression of joy and sadness, and Master had told me it was one of the things that endeared me to Him. He had me write an essay about being little, about wanting a Daddy. i poured out my feelings, and when He had me read my assignment aloud to Him, i was in tears. i blushed and was embarrassed at my desire to be little. i was shy about my connection to the little inside me. i was worried that He might reject that part of me, and be unwilling to be my daddy.
All those worries were very much in vain. i first called Him “Daddy” when He was tending to a wound on my hand (a splinter, gone infected.), cleaning it because it was awkward for me to reach. the alcohol burned, and i was shocked at my own self to hear a gasped “Daddy!!” leave my lips. He didn’t even blink. He just kissed my forehead, and told me, “Daddy doesn’t like hurting you like this. it’ll be over soon.” He was right, of course. The pain subsided, and the wound healed over the next few days, but i wrestled with that word, that place. Master, however, was already settling into His role, and later, when i asked Him if it was okay that i had called Him “Daddy”, he smiled gently, and hugged me close. No other answer was needed.
Over the past two years, my little and Master’s Daddy have grown into each other. And the two of us have settled deeply into those places with each other. i read to Him from my Nick Jr. subscription. He laughs and traces the mazes when i tell Him i can’t find the path. i can see His pleasure when i am excited and giggle. i put my arms around His waist, and He holds me and tells me i’m a good girl. and i am. inside our D/g dynamic, i have an innocence, a simplicity, that can’t be had elsewhere. i have an excitement and a wonder that is unsurpassed. i have a trust that can’t be broken. and Master takes all these things, and gives me the counterparts. He is the strong Daddy. He is the comforting hand. He is the responsibility that i can’t handle.
Ageplay, for some, is a separate activity from their everyday selves. Sometimes, i am more or less little, but i have not engaged in separate roleplay style “ageplay” for quite some time. Why? Well, because at some point, i stopped separating my little and my grown up selves. i embraced my little, even in the midst of being grown-up melly. My Master/Daddy understands this. We shifted into that gradually. Initially, i would put on a special t-shirt, put my hair up in braids. Turn on the TV to cartoons. It would take me a bit of time to “get into” being little. Now, it’s natural, and an inclusive part of my behavior. i don’t dress a particular way, or do anything special to send me into little space, though sometimes, i’ll pull my sippy cup down, and i often color to relieve stress and gain a sense of achievement from Master by showing Daddy my pretty pictures.
The D/g dynamic has vastly improved our relationship, because of the behaviors inherent in being little. trust, often fostered over a long period of time, came quickly. Fears were lost in the face of the wide-eyed wonder of a child. Communication flows freely between little melly and her Daddy, and she never has to worry about being judged. Even in the BDSM sense, things that grown-up melly might feel shame for become innocent in light of a child’s sense of exploration. Fears are only fears, and can be overcome. When i AM afraid, i can be comforted, and allowed to cry.
Emotionally, i am more stable when i am able to actively engage my little on a continuous basis. Mentally, i am more whole when i can allow this part of me to not only come out, but be ever-present. It IS who i am. i can no more erase her than i can erase my hand. Even if i remove it, there will be a stump, and something will be missing.
Just tonight, i asked Master, “Why do you like being my Daddy?” His response: “I don’t know… there’s just something about it. something .. important.” Indeed. Something very important. To us, having this dynamic is a closeness and a comfort. Master has never been a Daddy before. i’ve never been able to integrate my little into myself as fully as i have. Actually, i think i am about as fully integrated as i can get. And i think that’s very very good, for both of us.
i do realize that not all people do it like we do. It is perfectly fine to put on your hair ribbons and ageplay a single scene every few weeks. That’s just not what we do. i’m a 24-7 little girl, just like i’m a 24-7 slave. Sometimes, it’s more overt, sometimes, more subdued, but it is a very real and very important part of who i am. i am growing into BOTH of those identities more fully every day, learning more about myself in the process. i honestly hope i never stop!
Every night, i tell Master, “You’re the best Daddy in the whole world…” and true to His form, He replies, “i’m really glad you think so.” He IS the best Daddy for me. And i am the best little girl for Him. it’s now integral to our relationship, not added on. it’s who WE are.
~melly is the full-time live-in slave, partner, and little girl of Syr David. She has been His property for two years, and has been His little girl for the majority of that time. She enjoys knitting to calm her mind, baking to feed her soul and her family’s tummies, and proudly wears her Master’s mark in tattoo and brand, as well as wearing His collar. They live in Northwestern Arkansas on a five acre farm with Syr David’s other partner and their three cats, four horses, and dog, all of whom making melly’s cleaning responsibilities as a stay-at-home more immediate. she loves them anyway.
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Thanks for sharing your story, ~melly. I have a Daddy/little girl relationship with my boyfriend, only I’m the Daddy and he’s my baby girl. It creates such a sense of caring, respect and love for each other that continually amazes me. I love being able to comfort him and let him be his true self and I’m glad your Daddy is able to do the same for you.
It’s so wonderful to hear about two people loving each other deeply enough to share even their embarrassing desires. I know that for my baby, it was hard to ask me to be his Daddy, too. But now it’s simply who we are for each other. Every morning I tell him to be a good girl and he he tells me to be a good Daddy and I can feel it inspiring us to be our best for each other.
I’m really happy for you, and it’s nice to be able to talk about this to someone who understands. There really isn’t anyone in my life close to me, besides my boyfriend, that I can talk to about this and I appreciate the opportunity.
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There are many of us in this world who have a Daddy but are not “little.” As a woman several years older than ~melly, I can truly say that her perspective, while accurate for her, does not address the Daddy/good girl relationship many submissives have with their Dominants.
For me, as a professional woman in my 40s, my relationship with Daddy is loving, supportive, and allows me to be free to find what makes me happy. I have a full-time career, my own business, and am raising a teenage daughter on my own. My relationship with my Daddy Dom is one of fun, laughter, caring, concern, admiration, respect, and above all, love and support.
There is no age play involved in our relationship. Like any good father-figure, my Daddy wants me to be the best person, woman, lover, friend, colleague, business woman, mother, and submissive I can be. He doesn’t spank me because I’m bad – he’s spanks me because I’m good! It’s not about teddy bears and coloring for us – it’s about him loving me so much that I’m free to learn and grow under his watchful eye. With him, the only thing “little” about me is the fact that he’s bigger and stronger than I am!
Because he is older, wiser, and more experienced, in business as well as in life and BDSM, I can learn from him, and he can help me grow into an even wiser, more accomplished professional who is a kinky, cumslave, and VERY good girl behind closed doors.
Remember when you were little, and Daddy was the most handsome, smartest, funniest man you knew, and you wanted to marry him? Remember how Prince Charming was coming to rescue you? Well, I’ve found my Prince Charming and Daddy all rolled into one. I serve Daddy because I love him, and would do anything to see him smile. He dominates me because of my love, adoration, and his adoration, love and respect in return. Who says you can’t have your cake and eat it too?!
Me and my babygurl LOVED this article! She said that it was almost as if she had written it herself, and she is VERY new to BDSM and the Daddy’s girl thing :-)
Please do write more, ~melly! :-)
This is a very good article, thank you for writing it. And cutesypah – your perspective is enlightening! Thank you for that.
I’m juggling aspects of both melly’s and cutesypah’s lives . . . mother, wife, submissive, servant, Daddy’s girl… so reading both of your perspectives is interesting.
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