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lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

13 responses to “How Rules In a D/s Relationship Can Have a Positive Effect on Your Submission”

  1. The Mistress Didi*

    Congratulations, luna!

    Beautifully done! I am so very happy for you and your Dominant!

    All the best to you!

  2. wildrose

    I have been struggling with my submission this week and my ability to perform well enough to please my Master…reading about the importantance of rules really helped me this morning, thank you luna again!..

  3. lunaKM

    Thank you. I’m glad that this has helped you with reaffirming your submission.

  4. lunaKM

    Thank you!

  5. Lyn

    I was left wondering what kind of rules you have. Care to share some of them?

  6. lunaKM

    Sure! I have a page of my current rules on my blog:

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  8. Princess

    I’m pretty new to submission, and my Dominate gave me this as some light reading to help me understand what I’m getting into. I’m so happy to read this because it means that I do have the right mindset for submission, and that He would take the time to give me articles that interest Him. Thank you so much for writing this, it helped reafirm some of the things I was worried about.

  9. ted_subby

    Good article. My biggest problem in serving my dominant wife is in forgetting. My memory in general is very spotty and I get distracted very easily. She could tell me while she is whipping me that I need to do my nightly pushups when she is done but then after the rest of the whipping and then the aftercare is done I completely forget. For heaven’s sake, she just whipped me and I forget?! I need to work on that. She doesn’t punish me for it because we both know how bad I feel about it and that is not an insignificant punishment in itself; or more importantly we are not 24/7 D/s (though I wouldn’t mind being punished especially if it would help).

  10. L_Sub

    I’ve recently found a Master. Being that he is my first, I’m hoping to please him, This post is very enlightening and very positive and helpful.
    Thank you.

  11. Ash

    I am so happy to have daily tasks to complete for My Love, I do them with love in my heart and I try to exceed his expectations. However, I get no affirmation of them being completed. I do not get punished, nor do I get any positive feedback. It just makes me wanna cry! Any suggestions?

  12. S.Sub

    I am very new to the sub life and I love it but im still not used to being ordered around. I want to please my master very badly and he is willing to work with me. So if anyone could give me on advice to learn how to control my hardheadedness.

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